Little things that put you off going out with someone

[TakeAwayThatCaterpillar]

I was thinking today about the little things over the course of my dating years men have done/said that instantly made me think "nope, not you". They were probably perfectly nice people in retrospect...

1. Looked mildly nonplused about a woman in a picture having underarm hair.

2. Liked Miranda.

3. Used the phrase "wedding tackle".

There are probably countless more. Tell me yours...

3. Spent more than two minutes "grooming" to go out.

Went on a date once.
I asked if I could sit in his car briefly after the date to tie up my shoe lace as we were leaving in separate cars and my car was further away. He said yeah sure and as he had a brand new car and a model I hadn't seen before I poked my head in (he was standing outside the car) and said ahh this cars really nice actually and he said yeah I'm beginning to think it's a shame I forgot the chloroform.
Righhttttt

If my dh died or dumped me I would never go out with anyone again.I'm too old to accommodate other people's weirdness and let them stay in my house or shag me.I find the idea of intimacy with other people revolting

Omg Paradise , that is just what my comment was going to be! It horrifies me too. Ugh.

This thread is brilliant! I really get how the pointing with 2 fingers is annoying

A guy I dated for a short while years ago text me to tell me he'd left a "sexy parcel" in my car. It was used underwear. Not tight, black sexy underwear that was pretty much clean apart from a faint trace of his hot cock.

No. A pair of washed out used-to-be-grey Y-front/brief hybrids with a distinct yellow patch in the front and a couple of poo crumbs in the back.

He was very hurt when I asked if it was a joke.

He was even more hurt when I dumped him on the spot by text.

Showing my his Tetris (sex edition) game on his pc. Oh wait no, I married that one. For 15 years!! Jeez what was I thinking

All different guys:

1. halfway through a conversation whilst eating in a restaurant, interrupted me while I was mid-sentence just to say "i can see your grey hairs". I just got up, put some cash down, said "i dont think this is going to work" and left.

1. went round for dinner and his flat was filthy - thick film of dust over the tv cabinet, drip sof brown stuff down kitchen cupboards that needed washing off, and dirty wine glasses etc etc. I left sharpish citing "we're very different" as my reason.

1. told me how much he earned immediately on the first date (and i suspect it was embellished somewhat).

4.actually said the phrase "you're sweating like a n*** on a rape charge" when he saw me post-gym. I was livid about that one.

Went on a date once with a guy I'd met online. In all of his photos he was wearing dark glasses. When we met in person, he had really strange kind of popping out eyes. I know he couldn't help having those eyes but he'd obviously deliberately hidden how he really looked in his photos. Anyhow, that didn't put me off completely and we carried on with the date.

We were planning on eating and he suggested pizza. Fine, I thought and suggested pizza Express or a nice independent Italian place. No, he would only eat in Pizza Hut, refused to go anywhere else, totally ignoring what I said I would prefer. To put in context we were in the West end with loads of really nice places to eat, but he insisted on a back street, practically empty Pizza Hut. We sat down at the table and when we looked at the menu he told me that he didn't drink and then acted all disapproving about me having a glass of red with my pizza. No second date!

1. The women who could not ride a bike on a second date. She even suggested the activity!! She just kept falling off and it just looked pathetic.

1. The women who lit a cigarette in bed immediately after first time sex. Did not even know she smoked.

1. The fussy eater who just pushed her food around the plate and picked out bits she did not like which appeared to be most of the meal.

1. The women who talked about her ex all through the first date, it was obvious she was not over him

1. The many women who would not even offer to buy a round during a date. So entitled. Same goes to the 'just powdering my nose' brigade who disappear to the bathroom around bill time.

1. The women who was utterly horrible to a waiter in a coffee shop for no other reason then she could be.

1. The women who played games post first date like not returning calls or texts due to some belief that a man had to chase and really prove he was interested (despite me leaving a voice message to say I was) and then sending some arsey email a week or so later asking where I had gone.

1. Anyone who used both their forefingers as inverted commas to emphasise a point.

1. The women who did not use cutlery at a restaurant instead using her bare hands. Apparently her time backpacking around India taught her it was the only real way to eat.

10. The women who shat on my kitchen floor, that was a bit of a deal breaker as well.

sexism.

meanness.
Laziness.

Blue suit, brown brogues. Most off putting non serious thing ever for me.

Does not read. I don't trust people who don't read.

Out of the little things was how he looked when walking - when I was walking behind him

He kind of bounced

He was really nice, but I couldn’t hack it

Talking about ex partners
Boasting about their income/ lifestyle

A dated a guy shortly who would go threw my phone when I was asleep then wake me up shouting. I hadn't done anything wrong!

I seen him years later he had a partner and a kid he looked at me very smug like I'd lost out

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Woman.

On our first date, he told me he thought he was a psychopath because he wanted to kill his parents.

Really great.

Removes chest hair

he wanted to strangle me when having sex

Pretty good reason for not wanting to see someone again!

TopBitchoftheWitches

Was getting down to business on about our 3rd date on the sofa and my crazy kitten run up his leg....he apologised...he had finished prematurely in his pants, Felt so sorry for him I didn't bin him off there and then but swiftly after.

All different guys:

Crashing his teeth against mine when he kissed me, yuk.

Telling me that he'd lost everything, including his house and job and was sleeping on a mate's sofa.

After a few dates I cooked a steak for him, it was pretty good actually. He then spent the next half an hour telling me that if I wanted a steak cooking really well, then his ex's mother would be the person he would ask.

Spat on my Fanny instead of using lube.

Said he wished he was a dog so he could sniff women's bottoms...

Kept referring to himself as middle class.

Did this weird pulling the back of my pants thing in bed, like repeated rhythmical wedgies, seemed genuinely surprised I wasn’t enjoying it when I asked him WTF he was doing.

Why on earth do we bother dating? If i go single i stay single 😂😂