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AIBU to ask you all for your most PFB moments?

295 replies

user1477282676 · 02/12/2016 10:17

I just fancy a laugh and there's a lot of traffic here. So...mine is that on DD1's first birthday, I made the entire room sing Happy Birthday to her in a WHISPER so that she wouldn't be scared by all the loud singing. Blush

And they all did it too! Grin Bless them.

Now you!

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TataEs · 06/12/2016 05:57

i didn't let people outside my direct family (and i was unhappy about anyone other than my mum) hold him.
my cousin and his girlfriend came to visit when he was 2weeks old and i wouldn't let her hold him, in case she dropped him, sat down, on the sofa.
he didn't eat chocolate until 18mo
i wouldn't let him eat his own birthday cake when he was one because it was shop bought and too much sugar.
i didn't let people touch him when out, if someone tried i'd loudly say 'please don't touch my baby'
i used the breathing monitor until he was nearly 2
i was convinced he would die from SIDS in the night and subsequently hardly ever relaxed enough to get more than 3 hours of broken sleep.
i took him to a baby group every day for his social development. from 7weeks.
i wouldn't let him in a car i wasn't driving.
i refused to let him participate in nursery walks outside the premises, convinced they'd let him run into traffic.
i drove him on his leaving nursery outing as the coach was lap belt only.

i'm a bit psb about ds2 tho as some of these apply to him him too ShockBlush

inmyotherlife · 06/12/2016 06:47

The first time we left DS for an evening was when he was about 3 months old.
We went to the pub for dinner about half a mile away when our neighbour, farmers wife with 4 DC offered to babysit.
I texted when we arrived, refused a starter or a pudding and was back home in 40 minutes.
She must've thought we were barking Blush

BeingATinselTwatItsABingThing · 06/12/2016 06:54

These are brilliant!

I think hope I wasn't that PFB with DD.

I was fuming with DFIL when he dipped his finger in his dessert (maple and nut tart or something) and put it in DD's mouth without checking with me first. I was fuming because it was her first taste of anything other than milk, I had not been the one to give it to her and it had nuts in it. Actually, I'm still pissed off about it! 😂

I sat in the back with DD until she was in a forward facing seat.

DP has a cousin whose DD is the same age as our DD. This girl is a bit reserved and always appears to look down her nose at my little cherub. I always think bad thoughts when my DD goes to give her a hug and this girl looks 'disgusted'. Makes me very angry and upset on behalf of DD. This girl is only just 3. Xmas Blush

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SharingMichelle · 06/12/2016 07:12

I wouldn't read scary or dramatic books while breastfeeding pfb in case the negativity traveled up through my eyeballs and down into pfb via my milk.

Same with scary or unpleasant tv (including the news) but I sort of still hold with that now...

Soubriquet · 06/12/2016 08:12

Ok remember how I boasted I didn't have any PFB moments?

You've just reminded me of one...Xmas Blush

The washing machine

All of the dc's clothes as babies HAD to be washed in non bio laundry powder and persil comfort detergent.

On its own special load.

When Dh admitted he was washing them normally with everyone's clothes I went ballistic at him.

Didn't calm down until he pointed out he had been doing it for months and nothing had happened

Still insisted on doing it myself until the stuff ran out. And then I didn't buy any more.

I was worse with ds (second born as I bonded with him better)

SixthSenseless · 06/12/2016 08:39

I am snorting with laughter at bathing a baby in bottled drinking water Grin

angelcurves18 · 06/12/2016 08:59

we got my first born dressed for the first time after she arrived( we tried not to make her cry which was a hard and long process ) we put a baby grow on with no vest top on .... the nurse came in and told us new borns lose to much heat and needed to be kept warm and a vest should be put on with the baby grow so we quickly changed her and went home..... because I felt such a bad mother for letting my baby freeze we made sure she went to bed with a hat ....mittens ...baby grow..... vest top AND a blanket on all night..... i now realise that was a bit over the top !!!!!

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 06/12/2016 10:19

Oh, DD went to bed in a hat too! And a cardigan. Vest, baby gro, cardigan, hat and 2 blankets. It was March, she was small and losing weight, and the house is pretty draughty. I spent a fortune on heating oil and we sweltered until June arrived and I calmed down a bit.

I took the dog to the toilet with me. DD was fast asleep in her Moses basket (a big chunky one on a stand) and I was petrified that Ddog would leap up, knock the basket over and rip her throat out a la Hound of the Baskervilles. The poor confused dog had no intention of doing anything whatsoever apart from sleeping on the sofa. And this was actually an improvement from the times I put her in her pram and tried to cram it into our tiny shower room while I had a shower. And got out, dripping water and shampoo, to jiggle the handle to try to stop her crying.

Oh, and I would sit for 3 solid hours MNing without moving while she napped on me, with a completely dead leg, but too afraid to move in case I woke her up. DS never got that.

MommaGee · 06/12/2016 11:09

Erm, isn't their own washing liquid normal?? DS is 18 months. I will now allow adult clothes into his load to make it up but then it all gets the non bio treatment... I didn't think I was pfb about it lol

FuckShitJournalists · 06/12/2016 11:30

I have been laughing at these and reading them to my DP in stitches. "I've hardly been pfb at all!" I laughed last night. I then texted him this morning saying "I'm a bit worried because DD got hold of some bubble bath and I trusted her not to open it but she did and spilled it all over the floor, and now 45 minutes later I can't remember whether I wiped her hands so there's a chance some got on there and she licked it off without me realising!" He texted me back "pfb". And yes, I was being ridiculous...

Vanillaradio · 06/12/2016 11:40

I was the opposite with heat, petrified ds was going to overheat and instantly drop dead.So followed the Grobag instructions to the letter for sleepwear even when he was obviously too cold and whipped off outdoor clothes and hat the second he got indoors even if it woke him up!
I still wash his clothes separately in non bio. He's 3Grin in my defence he does have bad ezcema but....

April1983 · 06/12/2016 12:49

Loool some of these are so funny mostly because it's the kind of stuff we would all do in crazy moments!!

I'm ashamed to say that I do some of this stuff with my third baby who is almost 3 months old... Seperate wash with non bio etc.

When DS was 11 months old we went to stay at my mums for the night and I had forgotten the steriliser... The bottles could easily just have been soaked in some boiled water but no, I made my sister quickly go out to the local supermarket... At 11pm... and buy a steriliser even though he had enough sterilised bottles to last him til the next day anyway...

Nobody apart from my mum was allowed to change him or help me bathe him for the first 6 months. I would set up his bath and everything in the living room where it was much warmer after putting the heating on ALL day and wash him there. The whole process would take at least an hour, DD1 was washed in the bathroom from day 1...

I have been using cotton balls with warm water to clean my youngest ones bottom during the night incase the cold wipes wake her up too much... I have stopped now... Now I watch my sister and cousin be all pfb with their babies...

paxillin · 06/12/2016 12:56

Erm, isn't their own washing liquid normal?? DS is 18 months. I will now allow adult clothes into his load to make it up but then it all gets the non bio treatment... I didn't think I was pfb about it lol

Some people do this until baby is 23. I don't wash anything in non-bio because it doesn't bloody clean the clothes. Stains and smells can remain because of the lack of enzymes, might as well use baby shampoo.

If I had to use non-bio for a family member, I would do their own machine to make sure that the rest of the family have properly clean laundry at least.

humphreyandlinnea · 06/12/2016 12:59

I didn't go on mumsnet when I had my pfb. I thought it was too bitchy and might somehow affect the aura in the house.

DeleteOrDecay · 06/12/2016 13:43

We have to use non-bio because I get eczema otherwise. We've always used it for the whole household and our clothes always come out clean and smelling freshConfused

paxillin · 06/12/2016 13:47

Bio contains lipases and proteases, they break down fat and protein rich stuff like sebum, blood, food stains etc. Without it, more of them remain. This can be helped by washing at higher temperature or rinsing more. Non bio is just soap, good for rinsing, much like the hand stuff.

DeleteOrDecay · 06/12/2016 13:53

I guess you learn something every day!

paxillin · 06/12/2016 14:04

I get eczema, bio plus extra rinse is best for me. But I do know people who really react to bio.

CalmItKermitt · 06/12/2016 14:18

Sorry if it's already been mentioned but for me the funniest ever is the one where someone wondered aloud to her husband, in all seriousness, whether she should go and visit her friend (who had a baby the same age) because the friends baby wasn't anywhere near as cute as hers and it might upset her friend 😄

PurpleTraitor · 06/12/2016 15:01

Blimey, when my pfb was a baby I didn't have a washing machine, and there was no heating or hot water in the house, never mind worrying about separate washes and bathing in bottled water.

SausageSoda · 06/12/2016 16:04

Now, now, let's not ruin the thread with a debate about washing detergent GrinWink

paxillin · 06/12/2016 16:15

Some of my PFB behaviours were the result of caution and worry, but most simply stemmed from a huge overestimation of my own influence. I thought we'd have sooo much control over diet, education, hobbies... one by one, I had to let most of them go. (Sugar, chocolate, wooden toys, no screens, lovely vintage clothing...)

Sadik · 06/12/2016 16:23

I think our 'lovely wooden toys' idea lasted until dd was able to grasp things at which point she was completely enthralled by a shiny plastic ring with spinny things one of our neighbours (one with lots of children!) had given her.

DeleteOrDecay · 06/12/2016 16:30

I still love wooden toys but have had to embrace the plastic tat too!