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Things that stay with you.

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penfriends · 04/06/2016 23:42

What random things have struck a chord with you?

Mine is a Postsecret card that said:

"Everyone who knew me before 9/11 think I'm dead"

I read it years ago but I think about that person. Family, parents, siblings.

Just one sentence but it's stayed with me fore years.

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LittleMoaner · 07/06/2016 05:53

Some of these are so sad Sad

hesterton · 07/06/2016 06:01

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WhisperingLoudly · 07/06/2016 06:05

Years ago as a very junior lawyer I represented a heroin addict who was on remand for burglary.

He was physically beautiful - film star like - and about my age. Whilst taking instructions he came across as so normal But he'd been in and out of YOI/prison for many years and was injecting into his groin such was his addiction.

As I left he from the other side of the cell door he said "I wish I'd met a girl like you ten years ago - I'd have had a chance" it wasn't a come-on he just meant his life might have been different.

Almost twenty years later it strikes me as utterly tragic.

Baconyum · 07/06/2016 06:07

I'm sorry there's no heartbeat

At scan to confirm 2nd mc. Very different from 1st as 1st was very 'obvious' 2nd I was still holding onto hope until...

caraway33 · 07/06/2016 06:18

"I didn't kiss him that morning because I had a lipstick in"- a wife of a man who died at 9/11.
"The other girl wears a red dress"- youtube comment.
Something along the lines "some people get only professional at eating in their lives" by Don Delillo "White Noise"

IAmALeafOnTheWindWatchHowISoar · 07/06/2016 06:23

Being at a Simple Minds concert at the old Wembly Stadium and they started to sing Biko. It was dusk and people started lighting torches and lighters and the whole stadium twinkled. Then we started singing and I will never forget the impact of those thousands of voices.

timelytess · 07/06/2016 06:31

Baconyum Flowers Sad with tears from a stranger.

wannabestressfree · 07/06/2016 06:32

I have seen Peter Gabriel sing that too and it gave my goosebumps.
My are largely negative... my 'dad' was the king of the put down..
'Do you need that' whatever I ate..
'Your subhuman' to my brother
'You think your so perfect they should nail you to a cross', I could go on....
My worst though was a teacher I thought the world of... I really did and I won a prize at school. I came from a deprived and abusive background and it meant everything to me. When I collected it she said 'you have all the grace of an African elephant' and laughed at me. I have never forgotten it.

theveryhighlife · 07/06/2016 06:48

Some of these are so moving.
Ice I'm sorry for your loss.
Wannabe I've been on a safari inactive recently and saw an African elephant in the wild, it was breathtakingly beautiful and incredibly graceful. I bet you are too Flowers

theveryhighlife · 07/06/2016 07:14
  • in Africa not inactive!
wannabestressfree · 07/06/2016 08:39

Thanks highlife :)

BikeRunSki · 07/06/2016 09:00

Several years ago Rayond Blanc (I think it was him) did a programme where they trained a group of complete novices to run a smart restaurant. One of the trainees was from the estate behind where I worked at the time, a notorious sink estate. This lad was learning how to lay the table properly, and he'd never come across the concept og "starter, main course and puffing g". He'd only ever eaten take always and ready meals or school dinners (he was only about 17).

Whisky2014 · 07/06/2016 09:29

My granny asking me to come for tea and when I show up I see she has had a couple of drinks to give her confidence to tell me what a disappointment to the family I am.

:s

My granddads funeral was the first funeral I'd ever been to and I absolutely loved my granddad so I was very upset, crying a lot. I was 22. My granny's best friend came up to me and told me I needed to "buck up".

:s

Arkkorox · 07/06/2016 09:41

Junior school. From a teacher and said infront of the entire school while lining up for a fire drill.

' this hair tie belongs to the fat girl in year six'

Whisky2014 · 07/06/2016 09:46

Oh and at school maybe 3rd year so 14 years old?..

Sitting in class on the last day of term so all just get to sit about chatting.
My best friend and me were sitting at one end of the class and everyone else was at the other, huddled around and whispering.
Eventually one of the guys came over to me with the rest of the class looking on and said "Ho Whisky, will you go out with me....actually, you're too ugly" and walked away with the rest of the class falling about laughing. To top it off he said to his mate "you owe me £1".

Ar$e

sh77 · 07/06/2016 09:57

My beautiful 5 year old boy said to me that even though my daughter has passed away, she still loves me. I asked him how he knew and he just said, "well, think about it."

Other things - "there's nothing more we can do for her " as dd lay in hospital.

My mum's said and done some pretty vile things. I always wonder how my 2 real gold bangles given to me on my wedding day by my in laws suddenly just vanished. They have been kept in a safe and I only wore them 3 times in 10 years. Only my mum and dad have access to the safe. She denies all knowledge but it saddens me deeply to think she was responsible for it. Never would my dad touch them. I couldn't have dropped them without realising.

CarbyBarbie · 07/06/2016 09:59

From my Granny; Your a good mum just not as good as others.

At the time i had pnd. Realy did'nt help.

Overhearing my dad telling my stepbrother he did'nt need me as he had my stepbrother and that he had always wanted a son.

OutToGetYou · 07/06/2016 10:12

Loads from my childhood - mother and father having a row, she says she's going to leave him, he says "well leave (brother) here, but you can take Out, I don't want her".

Nc these days with both of them.

Dp when I got the news of passing my OU law degree, which took me seven years studying while working. Went to tell him I'd been awarded a first. He said "who knew you could get a first in law by just playing Candy Crush Saga" - never forgiven him, I bring it up a lot!

But it may be linked to.......a comment by a tutor many years ago at college when I went up to collect my NNEB Diploma, had been given a merit in the college certificate (I didn't even know it was graded, only one person got a distinction, think three of us got merits) she said "just think what you could have done if you'd actually tried!"

She may have had a point....

KittyandTeal · 07/06/2016 10:22

'You're looking at a trisomy' were the words that ended my world as I knew it.

'I'm so sorry, he's gone' were the words that kicked off my ptsd.

On a more positive note 'you will find a comfortable place in your heart for them' 'it won't always hurt like this, it will always hurt just not like this'

On finishing with my counsellor who saw me through a grim 16 months she told me she was amazed by my resilience and had respect for how much I had worked and engaged with really hard things. That has boosted my confidence and made me believe I can get through.

That 6 word poem will stay with me now as well. It strikes a chord with me.

ItsyBitsyBikini · 07/06/2016 10:29

After my dad passed away and I'd had a particularly horrific year; divorce a pregnancy scare and emotional breakdown, my sister went to a medium. Don't really believe anything like that but my SIL said my dad came through and said 'tell itsy that I'm proud of her and I'm always watching and listening.' Still makes me cry 3 years later.

catlovingdoctor · 07/06/2016 10:32

When my cat passed away a while ago- one of my "friends": shrug "you gonna get another one?"

Another arse I thankfully don't talk to now who I was trying to comfort after a break up by mentioning how I'd felt when my cat had died: "it's not really the same though, is it?"

Pricks. Both of them.

Micah · 07/06/2016 10:33

Age 11, halfway through the school year new at a big comprehensive school having moved 6 months after my dad died suddenly- I witnessed the whole thing. Being introduced to a group of "friends" who would help me settle in.

That group of friends telling me they didn't believe my dad had died, they thought he had run off and my mum was lying to me.

ElsaAintAsColdAsMe · 07/06/2016 11:00

When my dd was born she was very ill, she had no muscle movement and broken bones and couldn't breathe, I didn't accept just how ill she was until I saw the x ray and asked the doctor what the faint threads were on an x ray (I wasn't thinking straight at the time) and he simply said 'those aren't threads, those are her ribs' it was only then it struck me how fragile my precious girl was.

When it was decided her life support would be turned off a physio woman came round, I was in tears and she told me to stop crying, my dd would be going to physio soon and she would sort her out, I couldn't bear to tell her my dd was going to die.

When my ds died I had his organs donated, the surgeon came and hugged me and thanked me for my beautiful gift.

my ex husband telling me I was the horrible evil person he had been telling me I always was and karma re payed me nicely by taking two of my children.

EttaJ · 07/06/2016 11:31

In tears reading some (most) of these. I'm sorry for the pain and loss only to be made worse by vile people 💐

Comeflywithmee · 07/06/2016 11:50

At school at 15, when I was suffering badly with paranoid schizophrenia but managed to keep top of the class by the skin of my teeth.

A group of girls walked past me and whispered "I wonder if she's going to kill someone". They were all dead serious and cautious. I honestly felt like sobbing. I'd never lay hands on a fly, I was only trying to fight my own demons Flowers