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AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?

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yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 16:51

Our NDN's came over to tell us that they are having some work done in their back garden starting tomorrow- having a fence built, some trees cut down, rubbish cleared etc. They estimate it will be about two full days work, possibly more. They then told us that they were going away and would not be back until after the job has finished. They explained that they don't want to leave the workmen a key for "security reasons" so this means they will have no power source to plug tools in, no access to a bathroom or kettle etc. so would we be in and if so would we mind 'helping out' with those things.

I explained that DH will be at work and while I am actually off work for the next couple of days, I will have various errands, things to do, want to take DC out etc. so will be in and out of the house. They then asked when I was planning on going out so they could let their workmen know and saying "oh don't worry, they'll work around you". I told them that I hadn't made firm plans and didn't know when I would be going out. To be honest I don't really want to be tied to a schedule and I also don't like the idea of three strange men traipsing around my house for two days. I told them that I was sorry but they needed to either provide them with a key or arrange for the work to be done at a time when they would be home as we couldn't be on hand for two days to provide cups of tea, electricity and access to bathroom facilities etc.

Although they were polite, I got the distinct feeling that NDN's thought I was being mean and not very neighbourly.

AIBU or is it a bit much to expect me to accommodate all this? Initially I thought they were being cheeky (they don't want to leave these men a key but I should just open my house up to them!) and that it was a bit of a strange request but due to their reaction (they seemed quite surprised that I said no) I'm now doubting myself. They are generally quite annoying neighbours, nothing too awful just a bit noisy and inconsiderate at times, so I don't trust myself to be objective!

OP posts:
Indole · 02/08/2015 22:09

Oh, and obviously YANBU. Your neighbours are insane.

yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 22:17

Calm down, explainscotland! As I said in my OP I was very clear with the neighbours that I wouldn't do it. Yes, I do feel bad for the builders as nobody likes being messed around and having their time wasted but, as I said, I realise that's my NDN's fault and not mine so I won't be changing my mind.

OP posts:
OVienna · 02/08/2015 22:22

Crazy request. Just be out. Is your house attached to theirs/do you share a party wall??? You need to avoid these loons at all costs.

SavoyCabbage · 02/08/2015 22:23

Extraordinary! They don't want the builders in their house so they think it a good plan that you do instead!

Nobody wants the inconvenience of having the builders in, nobody thinks 'I can't wait till next week when the back door will be open all the live long day and the extra loud radio plugged in.'

SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires · 02/08/2015 22:25

Take photos of the garden fence, just in case it "moves" nearer to you.

redshoeblueshoe · 02/08/2015 22:31

Alpaca - genius. Or rush round now and say I've won a day out for funniest thread on MN, so I'm off to Alton Towers Grin

Ladyconstance · 02/08/2015 22:33

No weeping bicycle monkeys. That's all you'll need to say. Love it! Im so glad you already said no to ndn. Not surprising you're asking MN for a sanity check. Your ndn are completely nuts and have balls of steel to even ask!

ElkeDagMeisje · 02/08/2015 22:40

Your neighbours sound socially inept OP.

Basically they want you to deal with their garden and building work so that they don't have the inconvenience of being there while its done, so that they can come back and you will have it all ready for them.

What a pair of oddities!

Icimoi · 02/08/2015 22:43

Have you compares notes with the neighbours on the other side? I bet they went to them after getting the brush off from you. Or maybe they went to them first and had already been asked if they were on glue?

TheReluctantCountess · 02/08/2015 22:50

I wonder if they have asked the neighbours on the other side. Cheeky buggers.

OrangeFluff · 02/08/2015 22:52

Your neighbours sound bizarre! Please be in tomorrow morning so that you can update us!

alltoomuchrightnow · 02/08/2015 23:17

nuts and am sure even the workman will find it nuts, even if it's convenient for them

Ruhrpott · 02/08/2015 23:25

I'm having some big ugly for trees cut down this week and I won't be in. Difference is I told them when I booked that I wouldn't be as they didn't want to give me a definite date and time when they'll be here. They wanted to be able to fit it in when it suited them. They are going to bring petrol chain saws to cut down the trees so don't need electric. If they want a wee, then we have plenty of bushes and if they want a drink they'll have to bring their own.

I didn't ask the neighbours to look after them, though knowing my elderly neighbour she'll be bringing out tea and cake and chatting to them (she knows the tree surgeon as he brings her wood for her log burner and she gave me his number and she wants the trees cut down as they are blocking light to her garden)

YANBU I would have said no too.

BathshebaDarkstone · 02/08/2015 23:27

YADDDNBU. My face would look like this: Shock

Hellion7433 · 02/08/2015 23:30

Lie. Say you will be put both days

AlisonBlunderland · 02/08/2015 23:35

The gardeners arrive... andersonpooper.files.wordpress.com/2008/06/monkey_on_bicycle_vintage.jpg

saintlyjimjams · 02/08/2015 23:38

That's a whole new level of piss taking. What on earth goes through peoples heads?

Goldbluemagenta · 02/08/2015 23:40

I think I would have actually laughed in their faces at their sheer audacity

annatha · 02/08/2015 23:51

Nothing constructive to add but laughing so much at the weeping bicycle monkeys and placemarking in anticipation for tomorrow...

thenumberseven · 02/08/2015 23:52

Shock Shock at the cheek of your neighbours.
Please stay in tomorrow and fill us in on what the builders expect.

mimishimmi · 03/08/2015 00:12

I don't think the builders will expect anything. It would be equally unreasonable of the neighbours to expect she'll hang around with a key all day. Some of those tools use a lot of power - can't believe they asked the OP to provide the electricity.

Are they elderly OP? Have they ever made similarly unreasonable requests?

WanderWomble · 03/08/2015 00:37

Help them but 'borrow' half of their garden for your trouble. ;)

Mermaidhair · 03/08/2015 01:01

Yanbu, basically they don't want to deal with the whole issue so they have decided to go away for 2 days while the work is being done. But they expect you to be their building foreman! That is one of the cheekiest requests I have ever heard..

AmIbeingTreasonable · 03/08/2015 02:40

NO WEEPING BICYCLE MONKEYS HERE

This has made me weep Grin

can't wait for the update

BuyMeAPony · 03/08/2015 03:30

Perhaps you could offer to keep their key and the workmen could let themselves into their house for bathroom etc. Only getting if from you when you're home.

I share the general outrage. Was just wondering if this was an olive branch.

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