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AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?

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yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 16:51

Our NDN's came over to tell us that they are having some work done in their back garden starting tomorrow- having a fence built, some trees cut down, rubbish cleared etc. They estimate it will be about two full days work, possibly more. They then told us that they were going away and would not be back until after the job has finished. They explained that they don't want to leave the workmen a key for "security reasons" so this means they will have no power source to plug tools in, no access to a bathroom or kettle etc. so would we be in and if so would we mind 'helping out' with those things.

I explained that DH will be at work and while I am actually off work for the next couple of days, I will have various errands, things to do, want to take DC out etc. so will be in and out of the house. They then asked when I was planning on going out so they could let their workmen know and saying "oh don't worry, they'll work around you". I told them that I hadn't made firm plans and didn't know when I would be going out. To be honest I don't really want to be tied to a schedule and I also don't like the idea of three strange men traipsing around my house for two days. I told them that I was sorry but they needed to either provide them with a key or arrange for the work to be done at a time when they would be home as we couldn't be on hand for two days to provide cups of tea, electricity and access to bathroom facilities etc.

Although they were polite, I got the distinct feeling that NDN's thought I was being mean and not very neighbourly.

AIBU or is it a bit much to expect me to accommodate all this? Initially I thought they were being cheeky (they don't want to leave these men a key but I should just open my house up to them!) and that it was a bit of a strange request but due to their reaction (they seemed quite surprised that I said no) I'm now doubting myself. They are generally quite annoying neighbours, nothing too awful just a bit noisy and inconsiderate at times, so I don't trust myself to be objective!

OP posts:
BuyMeAPony · 03/08/2015 07:12

My phone's not updating properly. There were only about 6 posts showing when I typed that suggestion. Things have obviously moved on somewhat.

CPtart · 03/08/2015 07:31

God this thread is funny. Please please update us later.

WeepingBicycleMonkeys · 03/08/2015 07:47

Sorry, couldn't resist...
^^

NotOneIota · 03/08/2015 07:55

Good luck OP. Stay strong,tell us everything!

yorkshapudding · 03/08/2015 07:58

You lot crack me up Grin

To answer some of your questions

No, they are not elderly. I think they're younger than us actually.

They haven't made any bonkers requests before. They can be generally inconsiderate at times - they have a noisy dog, a penchant for doing DIY in evenings and early on the weekend, that sort of thing- nothing too terrible, just annoying. We don't have much to do with each other really.

Haven't spoken to the other neighbours (lovely, we get on really well) but I'm pretty sure they would say no! Other neighbour likes a gossip so I'm sure she'll let me know!

All quiet so far, no discernible weeping sounds coming from the bushes. Going to take DC to the park and then out for brekkie. Hoping the builders will have been and gone by the time we come back or, if NDN's have any sense, have been cancelled altogether.

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eddielizzard · 03/08/2015 08:03

piss takers. so not on, especially the 'surprised' reaction at your unreasonableness.

lighteningirl · 03/08/2015 08:08

Blackmailing and laughing does Bambini have a kindle ? Mine changed lovely weightl loss to lovely white arse last week Grin

redshoeblueshoe · 03/08/2015 08:08

Make sure they don't put the skip in your way.
WEEPING I knew someone would name change Grin

wowfudge · 03/08/2015 08:16

Are the builders there yet?

VikingLady · 03/08/2015 08:17

Well, if they do put a skip on your drive you can use it for a good free clear out. As can all your friends!

BitOutOfPractice · 03/08/2015 08:17

Damn you op! How dare you be put when if they turn up

OTheHugeManatee · 03/08/2015 08:50
IamtheDevilsAvocado · 03/08/2015 09:49

Wouldn't the mad neighbours be less mad if they arranged to leave an extension electric cable out of their kitchen /loo window for any power??

8misskitty8 · 03/08/2015 09:59

Any sign of them OP ?

nipersvest · 03/08/2015 10:00

ndn are definitely crazy, ime, never have any work done on your house without being there and watching the workmen like a hawk. they are being nieve going away and leaving them to it.

yorkshapudding · 03/08/2015 10:03

Just got back. No sign of builders, sorry everyone!

NDN's must have had a rare attack of common sense and cancelled them I reckon.

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8misskitty8 · 03/08/2015 10:05

How dare they cancel ! I'm stuck in the house all day waiting on a delivery and have an ill child. What am i to do for entertainment ! LOL

chippednailvarnish · 03/08/2015 10:29

Sad am clearly over invested!

yorkshapudding · 03/08/2015 10:44

Spoke too bloody soon. Two builders turned up at the back door just now (what kind of builders turn up to start a job at 10.15??) expectantly holding out an extension lead asking if I could please plug it in somewhere near the back of the house. No mention of kitchen or bathroom facilities, they just wanted power.

I told them I was sorry but had already told NDN's that I wouldn't be able to help when they asked yesterday. They were very polite but a bit confused as they thought it had all been sorted. They then looked a bit sheepish and asked if NDN's had mentioned about our plants at all. Apparently, in order to build the new fence a couple of our plants on that side may have to be sacrificed Angry. Not the end of the world, but I'm pretty pissed off that they never thought to mention that when they came round here looking for favours!

They've gone off (on their bicycles, obviously) to ask the other neighbour now but I don't think they'll have much joy there either.

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OOAOML · 03/08/2015 10:47

I hope they will be uprooting the plants carefully, maintaining them and then replanting them to your order?

LIZS · 03/08/2015 10:50

Blooming cheek. No they can't move your plants, ndn need to arrange to reinstate them. They will need to come into your garden to do the fence too.

PestoSwimissimos · 03/08/2015 10:51

Un-believable Shock

mayaknew · 03/08/2015 10:51

WTAF ?! You've to provide electricity refreshments and toilet facilities AND sacrifice your plants for their fence ?!!!!!

Who the hell thinks this is acceptable behaviour ?! Your NDN are serious weirdos OP I can't believe the nerve of some people ShockShockShockShockShock

redshoeblueshoe · 03/08/2015 10:58

Soon they'll be weeping in the garden Grin

Minicaters · 03/08/2015 10:59

Are your plants attached to their fence?