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AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?

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yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 16:51

Our NDN's came over to tell us that they are having some work done in their back garden starting tomorrow- having a fence built, some trees cut down, rubbish cleared etc. They estimate it will be about two full days work, possibly more. They then told us that they were going away and would not be back until after the job has finished. They explained that they don't want to leave the workmen a key for "security reasons" so this means they will have no power source to plug tools in, no access to a bathroom or kettle etc. so would we be in and if so would we mind 'helping out' with those things.

I explained that DH will be at work and while I am actually off work for the next couple of days, I will have various errands, things to do, want to take DC out etc. so will be in and out of the house. They then asked when I was planning on going out so they could let their workmen know and saying "oh don't worry, they'll work around you". I told them that I hadn't made firm plans and didn't know when I would be going out. To be honest I don't really want to be tied to a schedule and I also don't like the idea of three strange men traipsing around my house for two days. I told them that I was sorry but they needed to either provide them with a key or arrange for the work to be done at a time when they would be home as we couldn't be on hand for two days to provide cups of tea, electricity and access to bathroom facilities etc.

Although they were polite, I got the distinct feeling that NDN's thought I was being mean and not very neighbourly.

AIBU or is it a bit much to expect me to accommodate all this? Initially I thought they were being cheeky (they don't want to leave these men a key but I should just open my house up to them!) and that it was a bit of a strange request but due to their reaction (they seemed quite surprised that I said no) I'm now doubting myself. They are generally quite annoying neighbours, nothing too awful just a bit noisy and inconsiderate at times, so I don't trust myself to be objective!

OP posts:
TheReluctantCountess · 03/08/2015 23:04

Yes, as someone has said, well done for standing up for yourself.

mlamle · 03/08/2015 23:06

Ha, it's been a long while since I've posted on MN, but this thread, and Shakey's comment make it necessary! Glad you've held your ground, Yorksha.

gordonpym · 03/08/2015 23:41

Cut your plants back to the boundary, then take lots of photos of your fence and plants from all angles and make sure they are dated.
Tell ndn they cannot remove any plants.

Excellent advice!

AmIbeingTreasonable · 03/08/2015 23:54

Why thank you gordonpym Grin

MrsJorahMormont · 04/08/2015 00:20

Shameless place marking.

PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 04/08/2015 01:39

Can't help but wonder if (as I am presuming it's going to be a new fence) it's going to have a gate in it. So your lovely NDNs can just pop over any time they like ...

Shock Shock Shock Grin

Concordial · 04/08/2015 02:00

Grin shakey

When do these cheeky twats get back from their break?
I suspect there will be some entitled ranting when they find out that their neighbours didn't provide 24/7 amenities and electricity.

forago · 04/08/2015 02:07

the builders must be mates of theirs or something, no reputable builder would think it appropriate to try and cadge electricity of random people they're not working for surely?

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 04/08/2015 02:28

Very amusing indeed. Sorry OP I know it might not be from your point of view but it does make good reading Grin

Weeping bicycle monkeys indeed. Grin

NoWeepingBicycleMonkeys · 04/08/2015 03:29

Best you have a cheeky poo in their bushes OP, then of course blame it on the builders!Wink

NoArmaniNoPunani · 04/08/2015 03:58

I wonder if they'll be back tomorrow

SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires · 04/08/2015 04:29

Can't help but wonder if (as I am presuming it's going to be a new fence) it's going to have a gate in it. So your lovely NDNs can just pop over any time they like ... Shock Shock Shock Grin

Then you just put something big & heavy in front of it (if it opens into your garden then, you just alter it, so it swings open into their garden) Wink

CheerfulYank · 04/08/2015 04:52

I love a good cheeky neighbor thread. :o

Of course YANBU!

Lamu · 04/08/2015 05:21

Shameless place mark.????

rainbowstardrops · 04/08/2015 05:49

Have read the entire thread and alternate between Grin and Shock! How very dare they be so bloody cheeky!
Nearly woke the dc's up howling at weeping monkeys on bicycles!!!!! Very funny Grin

pasbeaucoupdegendarme · 04/08/2015 06:21

Shamelessly marking my place for today's updates, and showing my appreciation of the weeping bicycle monkeys Grin

BerylStreep · 04/08/2015 06:32

Marking place for today's instalment.

Pinot4me · 04/08/2015 07:04

Up early as I couldn't sleep. Savouring this thread lol. You are definitely not being unreasonable!

carrielou2007 · 04/08/2015 08:02

Not place marking at all Smile

MythicalKings · 04/08/2015 08:06

Me neither.

I'm waiting for the flying monkeys.

SugarLumpFairy · 04/08/2015 08:22

Another member of the weeping bicycle monkeys fan club here. Op well done for staying strong, we're all behind you today and can't wait for more updates!

Howlingwithlaughter · 04/08/2015 08:31

This thread really has had me living up to my user name! We have 'unusual' neighbours but they're going to have to up their game to compete with yours. Will be watching out for today's updates

NoWeepingBicycleMonkeys · 04/08/2015 08:47

Come on Op, I have to go to bed in a couple of hours! Wink

Pastaeater · 04/08/2015 09:40

Just loving this thread - crying with laughter yesterday! Keep us updated OP! Smile

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 04/08/2015 09:51

Getting the serious stuff over and done with first - yorksha - you were definitely NOT being unreasonable to refuse this cheeky request. But so many thank-yous for starting this thread, without which we would never have had the weeping circus monkeys on bicycles!!

Regarding the plants - I would say to them that, if the plants cannot stay where they are, they must dig them up and replant them - you are not willing to have them sacrificed for your cheeky-fucker neighbours' fence!

Bambambini - you must never, EVER proof read your posts - your autocorrects made me howl with laughter!