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AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?

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yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 16:51

Our NDN's came over to tell us that they are having some work done in their back garden starting tomorrow- having a fence built, some trees cut down, rubbish cleared etc. They estimate it will be about two full days work, possibly more. They then told us that they were going away and would not be back until after the job has finished. They explained that they don't want to leave the workmen a key for "security reasons" so this means they will have no power source to plug tools in, no access to a bathroom or kettle etc. so would we be in and if so would we mind 'helping out' with those things.

I explained that DH will be at work and while I am actually off work for the next couple of days, I will have various errands, things to do, want to take DC out etc. so will be in and out of the house. They then asked when I was planning on going out so they could let their workmen know and saying "oh don't worry, they'll work around you". I told them that I hadn't made firm plans and didn't know when I would be going out. To be honest I don't really want to be tied to a schedule and I also don't like the idea of three strange men traipsing around my house for two days. I told them that I was sorry but they needed to either provide them with a key or arrange for the work to be done at a time when they would be home as we couldn't be on hand for two days to provide cups of tea, electricity and access to bathroom facilities etc.

Although they were polite, I got the distinct feeling that NDN's thought I was being mean and not very neighbourly.

AIBU or is it a bit much to expect me to accommodate all this? Initially I thought they were being cheeky (they don't want to leave these men a key but I should just open my house up to them!) and that it was a bit of a strange request but due to their reaction (they seemed quite surprised that I said no) I'm now doubting myself. They are generally quite annoying neighbours, nothing too awful just a bit noisy and inconsiderate at times, so I don't trust myself to be objective!

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Fizrim · 03/08/2015 18:48

Well the neighbours (the ones having the work done) should have let the builders know that everyone had said no to the electric - it must be difficult for them to work but it is a completely avoidable situation!

Agree with what a pp said about rechargeable tools, I know a builder who has them (probably for this reason ...)

I would trim the plants back - are they digging up the fenceposts to put more in?

yorkshapudding · 03/08/2015 18:54

They're still here! They must have decided they could manage without power I suppose. Now worried that because they didn't start until after 10 this morning the hammering and banging will be continuing well into the evening. Really hope not as DD's bedroom is at the back of the house. I couldn't get her to have a nap today because of all the noise and she turns into a proper diva if she doesn't get her sleep.

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SilverBirchWithout · 03/08/2015 19:03

www.ukcontractors.net/builders-uk-is-there-a-set-time-builders-are-allowed-to-work-in-a-residential-area/

They can only work from 8am to 6pm, Mon to Fri!!

yorkshapudding · 03/08/2015 19:10

SilverBirch, I didn't know that. So would it be really petty of me to point this out to them if it carries on for much longer?

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ShebaShimmyShake · 03/08/2015 19:12

I don't think it's unreasonable of them to ask (much as my neighbours and I ask each other to feed each other's cats when one of us is away for the weekend), in case you might be in and not mind. But a)they should give you far more notice and b)as soon as they hear, "it's not really convenient", they should drop it.

SilverBirchWithout · 03/08/2015 19:13

I would politely ask them how much longer they will be as your DD needs to go to bed, if they say a few minutes probably just leave it. If any longer politely mention that as this is a residential area, the noise should have stopped at 6pm.

achieve6 · 03/08/2015 19:19

Ask them to go

they must be pissed off with your neighbours too, having to manage in such an ad hoc way. I hope they charge them extra!

HeyDuggee · 03/08/2015 19:22

Check out your council OP, as it differs. Our old borough had no such restrictions for private (single) works, only for multiple dwellings (aimed at professional developers).

PHANTOMnamechanger · 03/08/2015 19:39

shameless placemarking

OPs NDNs are SO rude and entitled!!

CruCru · 03/08/2015 20:03

So when did they finish OP?

TheReluctantCountess · 03/08/2015 20:12

The environmental health would come and tell them to stop in the evening.

AlisonBlunderland · 03/08/2015 20:21

The builders get upset

AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?
AlisonBlunderland · 03/08/2015 20:23

Before leaving

AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?
Justtoobad · 03/08/2015 20:43

Shocking behaviour (from n)

starlight2007 · 03/08/2015 20:44

Following for tomorrows installment

LittleChinaPig · 03/08/2015 21:06

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yorkshapudding · 03/08/2015 21:38

They left about 8pm in the end. I was going to go out there and have a word but was preoccupied with DD and by the time I got her bathed and ready for bed I realised they were packing up to go. Doesn't look like they've done much to be honest, despite the racket they were making.

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gordonpym · 03/08/2015 21:43

Maybe put a note on the door for tomorrow reminding them of the working hours in your council.

minkGrundy · 03/08/2015 21:59

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YouTheCat · 03/08/2015 22:09

When do your lovely neighbours get back?

hhhhhhh · 03/08/2015 22:12

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green18 · 03/08/2015 22:22

YANBU Who arranges workmen to come that need electricity to complete the job and not leave access to their house? Who would go away when this is happening? Who would presume that although they themselves can't be bothered to hang around, their neighbours might? They are well out of order!I'd go away yourself for a couple of days!

Shakey1500 · 03/08/2015 22:29

This is too funny Grin

I'm envisaging an AIBU next week......

AIBU- I asked my NDN to help us out of a tight spot for a couple of days and the selfish cow refused. It would have only caused minor inconvenience. And now we've returned home after a well deserved break to find a random bicycle wheel spinning in the lawn, some questionable odours emanating from my bush, a packet of Kleenex on the window sill and fucking banana skins on the path?? I mean, what the actual FUCK??

OhBigHairyBollocks · 03/08/2015 22:45

Loving this thread Grin glad you are all sticking together! What cheeky neighbours you have!

AmIbeingTreasonable · 03/08/2015 22:48

Cut your plants back to the boundary, then take lots of photos of your fence and plants from all angles and make sure they are dated.
Tell ndn they cannot remove any plants.

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