To wonder how many different ways you can come up with to say YABU to this

[atthewelles]

Just always fascinated by how a post that only seems to have one possible answer ie YANBU can be turned on its head, mis-read, mis-interpreted, taken out of context etc in order that the OP can be told they ABU.

So, to this perfectly obvious YANBU example how many ways can different posters find a YABU angle?


"I was standing at the bus stop yesterday and was first in the queue for the bus. After waiting about twenty minutes the bus came along and was pretty full. The driver said 'one passenger only' and the person behind me pushed me to one side and got on. AIBU to think this was rude, inconsiderate and downright cheeky and to wish I'd said something at the time?"

[Oblomov]

Why didn't you get on the bus and push her off with all your might, shouting "you think you can come here, claim benefits, but taking my place on the bus is just a step too far, you btch, now Fck off".

[nurserytea]

OP

If you read over your post it is very me, me, me. I was standing at the bus stop, first in the queue, the person behind pushed me to one side. Really, its all in your language and I'm not surprised the person behind you picked up on your totally selfish vibes and decided to give you a taste of your own medicine.
Maybe try looking beyond your own needs now and again and your relationships with other people might improve. I'm saying this to be helpful, you understand?

[TheVermiciousKnid]

YABU. And there really was no need to go to the Daily Mail with your 'story' - complete with picture of you with sad face and the bus driving off into the sunset. Pathetic.

[atthewelles]

I am very upset that people think I have 'flounced off'. I am not a flouncy off type of person. I am actually normally quite easy going and live and let live, but this experience has really upset me and I wish I hadn't posted now as you have all made me feel awful. I got half way to the bus stop this morning and had to go home in tears. I think I will have to hide this thread.

[lougle]

Do you think someone should contact MNHQ? Perhaps they can send the SWAT team police or ambulance.

OP, please do get in touch again to let us know all the juicy gossip that you are ok.

We are concerned about you now

[lougle]

Perhaps we could set up some sort of collection for the OP so that they can avoid that bus stop in future? Perhaps a 'taxi fund'?

[chocoluvva]

OP, YABU to have posted in this forum - this is what chat is for. You need a thick skin for AIBU. But it's great that you've taken some of the points on board. [pat on the head emoticon]

Read the posts and take the advice. It's simple: lookout for zombies and cool boxes at all times,be less self-centered, have some sympathy for disabled queueers, don't be frightened to assert yourself, but suck it up when required, remember that pregnant women are always bursting to go to the loo, don't be constrained by cultural norms such as queueing (remember that MN'ers who don't live in Britain are wiser than you), improve your communication skills, don't make assumptions, never forget that most people aren't as lucky as you, get to know the bus timetable for your region, try not to appear so aggressive (possibly consider covering your tattoos?).

You have taken the first step to being a better person queuer/MN'er by acknowledging that you were completely in the wrong. :)

[chocoluvva]

OP, OP, are you alright?

[atthewelles]

[lougle]

It's been an hour since the OP last posted.

I'm really worried about you now, OP. Please come back and tell us you're still breathing ok.

Does anyone know aththewelles on another section of MN?

Perhaps we need to report again, I hope MNHQ see this

[lougle]

Oh x-posts with the OP!!! I'm so relieved you are ok, if sad.

[atthewelles]

I told you! I've hidden the thread, so I can't hear you anymore .

[Blipbip]

I suspect that this pregnant, grieving, disabled, obese, queue jumper probably did you a favour as you were certainly about to get on the wrong bus anyway.

YABU

[TheVermiciousKnid]

Look at all the sockpuppets! Disgraceful.

[chocoluvva]

Are you in the North West? I know a good counsellor who specialises in OCD who would be able to help you with your 'dainty' compulsive behaviours.

If you're in the South East there are loads of driving instructors. (I can't speak for scotland though).

You can run but you can't hide unless you're a peeping tom-.

Hang on, you ARE a peeping tom, lurking there behind your curtains. You are trying to make fools of us with your endless drip feeding. I'm getting bored with this thread now anyway - it's going round in circles now.

[atthewelles]

[ginslinger]

Only on Mumsnet could anyone think that this was a problem

[TheVermiciousKnid]

I can't believe you wasted your time, and more importantly our time (and most importantly my time), by posting about such a non-issue. Have you got nothing better to do? I suggest you get a life.

[chocoluvva]

Maybe you'd be happier on a different forum - you know the one I mean :)

Also, you asked if YABU "to wonder how many ways...". I notice that you haven't counted the ways. I don't mean to be unkind, but I'm extremely busy - I don't really have time to dispense advice like this - I'm going to get my ears threaded in an hour and I've a bun in the oven going brown (hope DH doesn't notice as he's a ginger man) - and TBH, you're coming across as a teensy bit ungrateful with your loud sobs. Remember, MN is not a soap opera.
:)

[Blipbip]

YANBU you are insane.

Do you not realise that fate has intervened here, this is the way that your day was supposed to run it was predestined is that a word? to be this way and to question your destiny is clearly insane

[Blipbip]

choco

[crashdoll]

Has anyone declared this a first world problem yet?

Also, at least you can afford the bus, OP, some of us can't!

[TheChimpParadox]

FFS OP - Get a grip !

[RalphGnu]

Wow, OP. Do you know how lucky you are to have curtains?

My neighbour, Sharon, hasn't been able to afford new curtains since her free goat ate the last pair. The light shines in on her 50 inch plasma tv something chronic.

[babiesinslingsgetcoveredinfood]

On OP you need to be strong. YABU to get upset. I can't believe your tolerate this behaviour. You simy must LTB (leave the bus stop).