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So, we're getting married, best ways to irritate all our guests here please

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Madascheese · 18/09/2010 06:02

Well DP pitched up with a very pretty bit of jewellery yesterday and proposed! How excited am I?

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 22/09/2010 12:00

yeah, is it really? I thought it was just the people I knew who had crap taste.

What about I'll Be Stalking Watching You?

Because that's not at all creepy.

DS could learn that in time, right?

Suncottage · 22/09/2010 13:35

I think your first dance should be a conga - I have mentioned before in this thread it was the highlight of the evening at one wedding we went to.

Only the very old, the stricken and pregnant women to be spared the humiliation fun.

Then have a food fight - chocolate mousse does not come out of silk/wool/cotton/nylon or any other material known to man.

Don't worry the guests will be enjoying themselves really - it just might not look like it.

Madascheese · 22/09/2010 17:09

Do NOT underestimate the power of the Conga......

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Suncottage · 22/09/2010 18:59

mad

So true - it is as important as the turkey at Christmas.

Read your wedding etiquette manuals. Even Charles and Di did it. Knackered the Queen Mum's hip mind.................

The Time Warp may be a safer and gentler option - complete with costumes of course.

Every man is a secret transvestite you see and just wants the opportunity to dress up in stockings and suspenders.

Sooooo glad we are all being of help.

Grin
Madascheese · 22/09/2010 19:15

Sun I really want you to come! - you're being practically my wedding planner atm

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Suncottage · 22/09/2010 19:17

[Preens and twirls prettily]

Jux · 22/09/2010 19:20

Tell them they must each bring a dead rabbit, which each person must skin before they're allowed in the church. Once all rabbits are skinned get a local chef to cook them up for the reception.

Suncottage · 22/09/2010 19:38

Mad

I am so excited. So far I have booked you:

A small church in a remote area of Kasakubekikistahn (west of Russia) look it up

The local culture decrees you must live there for 6 months before the nuptials - as do your guests. Without their children.

Food is not allowed - you must fast from midnight to 11.55am throughout this period.

The food served at the wedding will be kittens, puppies and other small furry little critters. No veggies allowed. They will be spat on.

Colour corordinated guests - orange and green

The conga to be danced between courses

Tickets to your wedding are a grand each and the wedding list is at Tiffany's. The really expensive part of Tiffany's. The part with men with guns at the door.

Please don't thank me. No need. It is your day darling.

Madascheese · 22/09/2010 19:47

Oh Sun that's my perfect day!

except can you add Jux's suggestion up there as I'm rocking the dead game motif

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 22/09/2010 19:54

puppies and kittens! Mmmmmmm!

Suncottage · 22/09/2010 19:59

Mad Mad Dahling

You must do your bit - have you had a fight with your MIL-to-be yet?

Please try or your matron of honour? She needs bringing down a peg or two - she's broke and cannot afford Tiffany's but has been your best and closest friend since birth. Have a go at how unreasonable she is being - coupled with not wanting to put her two children into foster care for six months!

It is your big day sweetie and people should realise this.

I could simply yip for you.

Are you really, really sure about that dress sweetie?

{must go now Mad - it is becoming real in my mind - aaaagh}

I need an assistant wedding planner - ladies please step forward.

ColdComfortFarm · 22/09/2010 20:08

Ask a friend to make a speech explaining that the point of marriage for true Christians is to have sex, and use the word 'flesh' a lot. Arrange for elderly, very religious rellies to sit in front row.

Madascheese · 22/09/2010 22:11

Oh shit have just spent an hour and a half giggling on the phone to my matron of honour (she's bringing someone to take care of her edible kids who I adore and I'm going to feed them all as well)

She did slow down for a second when I mentioned the plan for the dance and I had to tell her I WAS joking

'fraid my Parents in Law to be are lovely as well and I have no intention of falling out with them.

I'm buying her dress as well.

Loving the suggestion Coldcomfortfarm, will go down well in our church.

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butterscotch · 22/09/2010 23:08

Sniggers at some of these!!!

Congrates OP

BTW the thing you really need to do with your invites is have an A-Z list making things really "twee"!!!

Ohh the leaving guests with one glass of cheap bucks fizz on arrival at reception (30min drive from church) then doing 22.5 hrs photos (12pm wedding) then a greeting line no canapes and then not semi g food till 6pm then oh having 2 glasses of vino per person for a meal that is badly served I.e. taking 2hrs speeches that drag....

Ohhh and asking a friend tomb bm when her darling dc wil be 3months old and holding hen am

butterscotch · 22/09/2010 23:10

Sorry on phone so said bm with young baby expected to attend full on hen night with overnight stay in hotel in central London whilst on maternity leave....

But when a few years later you have dc you don't want to leave said dc for us to meet for dinner/lunch etc....

Jux · 23/09/2010 08:57

Vicars and Tarts. And someone should kick against the rules and come dressed as a spider and put their legs down recumbent cleavages (should be able to do four at a time if you book a space too small and everyone's crowded and hot).

Jux · 23/09/2010 08:59

And I would add to Coldcomfort's speech suggestion with the word loins, spoken with gusto and smacked lips.

Booboobedoo · 23/09/2010 11:11

Perhaps the vicar could use the Emo Philips line:

'Here's hoping your naked couplings no longer sadden the Lord'.

Inertia · 23/09/2010 12:59

Suncottage, please make Jux your assistant wedding planner! There have been nowhere near enough cleavage - investigating spiders at weddings I've been to.

Madascheese · 23/09/2010 13:29

I agree there Inertia and to be fair, you have to wonder why more people aren't doing it

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 23/09/2010 13:34

Oh yes - in fact why not hire a poisonous arachnid/snake handler to be the children's entertainment (in a neighbouring country if the Keeiofdoidsidgstan plan goes ahead)?

Don't you think it would be a touching tribute if your brand new DH performed an acoustic version of "Smack My Bitch Up" in an interlude at the reception?

ElephantsAndMiasmas · 23/09/2010 13:47

PMSL Booboobedoo.

I have the perfect song for him to serenade you with after (during?) the ceremony:

(BTW it's a Ben Folds cover of "Bitches Ain't Shit" by Dr Dre and therefore the lyrics are offensive in pretty much every way possible.)

Brilliant video though, love the carousel.

Madascheese · 23/09/2010 13:52

Oh that's too perfect! and will be ideal during the ceremony - we looking for a third hymn and that seems to say it all.

Plus would love to see Porto breaking it down....

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ElephantsAndMiasmas · 23/09/2010 14:34

:o "third hymn". So Auntie Doris will get a chance to sing it in her quavery voice in between the sermon on the fleshly lusts? Marvellous.

KiwiKat · 23/09/2010 14:47

Right, here we go:

It's essential that you organise every aspect of your wedding whilst at work. Let interns and assistants help, as a wedding brings joy to everyone it touches. Use your company credit card for the three foot ice carving of your initials in a heart, as your personal cards will have been maxed out by now.

Advise people that they will be kneeling at the church for a blessing (or wherever you get married, ESPECIALLY if it's not a church) and they must all bring their own cushions for this. Mention that it would be nice if they were colour coordinated with the wedding's theme colours, as 'most people are doing this'. (Have a tantrum and name and shame on the day if anyone dares not comply with this little request.)

Only Pimms will be served, as that's your favourite drink.

Which brings us to the wedding's theme colours - Pimm's is the inspiration here, lemon, lime, violent orange. (Reflected in aforesaid cushions, please) hese colours make you glow - you're an 'autumn'.

Advise your 10 closest friends that you will be holding auditions for bridesmaids, and set them a series of tasks to complete. Announce the three winners a week before the wedding, so that the dressmaker has time to ensure that the dresses you've chosen (in lemon, lime and violent orange, remember?) fit each of them perfectly, even though they're all 'winters' and the colours make them look like they've been dead a week.

As guests arrive for the reception, hand each a sealed envelope with their table number inside, so no one knows anyone they'll be sitting with, as it will be so much fun for them to 'mix it up and meet new people'.

Make sure every guest has at least one ex present, as you want to 'share the love' and help everyone build bridges with the past. Naturally some of your friends will share exes, so when you ask each guest to stand up and say something nice about each person in the room that they've slept with or dated (ask them to clarify this so everyone's clear) things will be a little weird. Especially when one of your cousins is mentioned by about 45 blokes.

Invite your scary, vindictive and non-drinking boss that everyone hates, and ensure that he/she and your workmates, who will be terrified and drink A LOT, are the only people who DO sit together, so that they can bond during out of work hours. Ensure that your work colleagues' off-the-cuff comments (about aforesaid scary boss, of course) are recorded for posterity on video, and share them with the whole office at your first team meeting when back from honeymoon. The nice comments about the colleagues they've slept with will be both surprising to the team, and especially humorous.

During the wedding speeches, tell everyone that, in the spirit of true feminism, newDH is taking YOUR name.

I expect a full report.