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What are your hopes for your daughter?

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KateMumsnet · 29/03/2011 12:45

Last year, as part of our ongoing support for organisations working on maternal health in the developing world, CarrieMumsnet handed in a Mother's Day card to David Cameron and Nick Clegg, asking them to keep the issue high on the international development agenda. One year on, and there's good news: the number of women dying in childbirth worldwide is falling. But there's still a long way to go, and so this Mother's Day the White Ribbon Alliance is asking Mumsnetters to add their 'Dreams For My Daughter' to those already submitted by families worldwide.

The plan is to send some of these Dreams to Number Ten, to remind the government to keep up the pressure on world leaders to deliver the funding they promised at the UN in September. The goal is to provide 3.5 million extra health workers, which would help to prevent 1000 women a day from dying needlessly in childbirth - and the idea came from a Hadhya, a Yemeni WRA member, whose own mother's dream was that her daughter wouldn't be married at 11 and a mother at 13, as she had been.

If you'd like to help, do post your own Dream here; they can be as pragmatic and personal, or as global and wide-ranging as you'd like. And if your household is a boys-only one, don't be put off - you can post your dream for your son (or for a possible future DIL or granddaughter Smile) here too.

OP posts:
maxpower · 01/04/2011 21:50

I want my DD's wishes to come true; for her to fulfill her potential and have no regrets; to take the opportunities she is presented with; to know when to say 'no'; but mainly for her to be happy and healthy.

Onky · 01/04/2011 22:02

I want my daughter to have children with a man who will share the burdens and triumphs of their shared children. Even if they don't stay together as a couple.

angrywoman · 01/04/2011 22:07

The sheer amount of teenage unplanned pregnancy in this country is SHAMEFUL. I want morning after pills free of charge at chemists please, Englands Dreaming if we don't think that is worth funding.
I don't want my children to be brainwashed by this hideous pole-dancing breast-enhanced culture. What is going to be done to counter-act that? We need children with low self esteem to be identified in primary school and helped with 'confidence classes'. Boys too need this of course. The government seems to be dismissing the up-and-coming generation of people. We bailed out the banks and now we can't fund people's basic needs.
I hope that our children get their revenge when the prime-minister and his friends are old and reliant on them for support.Grin

flakypastry · 02/04/2011 00:06

thefirstMrsDeVere its your bravery more than anything that made me cry. My mum lost her 1st daughter when she was just 6months old. And just when my mother thought she could no longer bear the emptiness from her loss, God then blessed her with another 2 daughters, my sister and myself, and today she also has 3 granddaughters! In our culture we believe that that child is keeping a special place for you in heaven. So from my mother's experience I can tell you never give up faith and perserverance because many special blessings will come to you from that child. I pray that each day gets easier for you and like Durham said hope you have lots of happy memories to remember her by! lots of love x

chipmonkey · 02/04/2011 00:34

Why only daughters? Are we not supposed to have hopes for our sons?

Bucharest · 02/04/2011 06:42

Mrs. DeVere, you always make me cry (in a good way Smile your dignity and love for your daughter shines through in every post. That one girl could fill her mother with so much joy and love shows us what a truly special human being she was (and you are) Wishing you a peaceful Mother's Day x

friendlymonica · 02/04/2011 08:39

Just love your answer! My family has a long history of depression too and I am also trying to break the cycle of negativity, bitterness, helplessness and sadness that truly does have an effect on the whole family.

I think my "turning a negative into a positive" chats are working though you know-dd spilled crisps all over floor other day and she said "well mum..look on the bright side-at least you have a hoover" Could'nt really argue with her logic!Wink
x

DessertNowPlease · 02/04/2011 12:58

What I dream of for all my daughters is a world in which they have choices rather than being forced into decisions (main example being WOHM/SAHM) because it's what other people expect them to do.

I dream that they can grow up in a world where people are not judged or ridiculed for the colour of their skin/hair/parents skin/religion, and where people take responsibility for their own actions and inaction.

Most of all what I would like for my daughters is that they are content with their life!

SkaterGrrrrl · 02/04/2011 17:41

My daughter is 7 months old and I wish so much for her future:

  • To be judged on her ability rather than her looks
  • To follow goals, studies and hobbies freely without her gender being an issue
  • To respect her body and her sexuality and to demand that boys (or girls / her future partner/s) respect them too
  • To be able to walk home at night feeling safe without fear of rape or attack
  • To continue to rejoice in her body and not to learn to hate it.
  • To stay happy and sunny and secure and joyful.
cloudydays · 02/04/2011 18:03

I assume it's 'daughters' because it's a campaign that has its emphasis on the developing world, where in many cases the prospects for girls are still so dire, and where it's still the case in some communities that families aren't encouraged to have any dreams for their daughters at all. :(

But for what it's worth, my dreams for a son would be exactly the same. What are your dreams for ds, chipmonkey ? :)

GetOrfMoiLand · 02/04/2011 19:07

Same as Bucharest - your love for your beautiful daughter shines through in all your posts MrsDV. Will be thinking of you tomorrow - I can't imagine how hard it must be.

chipmonkey · 02/04/2011 19:33

Cloudy, for ds1, at the moment I simply dream that he will get his homework done just once without being badgered, bribed and checked-on! That will do for now!

cloudydays · 02/04/2011 19:37
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TallyB · 02/04/2011 20:08

I don't have a daughter, so these are my hopes for my neice.

I hope you will realise your dreams, and your options will never be blocked because you are the 'wrong' gender.

I hope that when you inevitably make mistakes, you are not judged for them or by them, that you will be surrounded by people who love you no matter what.

I hope you never, ever feel you must conform to an impossible standard of beauty, and always know you are beautiful just as you are.

I hope you will be able to walk the streets in safety, at any time of the day or night. And if, God forbid, someone did hurt you, you would not be blamed or held in any way responsible.

Idontcareifyoudontlikeme · 02/04/2011 22:01

I hope my daughter will not get the same illness I have (idiopthic intracranial hypertension)

I hope she will have confidence

I hope she will be able to talk to me about her problems

I hope she will have confidence

I hope she knows I love her

Flisspaps · 02/04/2011 22:03

I want her to be happy, safe, healthy and to know that she is loved.

noodle69 · 03/04/2011 07:09

My daughter by a mile! Other than that both my husband and I go through stages of mad tidying up so it looks perfect and then it looking like we have just been burgled. Most of the time it is one being really tidy, one being a mess so it evens out pretty well!

noodle69 · 03/04/2011 07:10

I have totally just posted this on the wrong thread. Sorry carry on Blush

hmc · 03/04/2011 15:17
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StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2011 16:29

I want her to avoid the pressure to conform
I want her to have a good education so she has as much choice ass possible
I want her to stay as close as she is now to her big brother :)

ilovesprouts · 03/04/2011 20:19

i hope my dd gets rid of her looser of a bf asap .. after what happend yesterday :(

houseworkwhore · 03/04/2011 21:12

nothing to serious i hope ilovesprouts?

ilovesprouts · 03/04/2011 21:19

well he attacked my dd and her son my gs story on another thread !!

thefirstMrsDeVere · 03/04/2011 21:40

ilove Im so sorry. I remember you from the April 2010 thread. Your GS must be almost a year old now.

houseworkwhore · 03/04/2011 21:41

o no i hope she will be ok, i dont know how to find threads but my wishes are with u

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