Schmau, don't feel unfunny and new, feel beautifully pregnant, unique and welcome! How many weeks are you? We love new babes in here and we always lay the crib for them and have IV alcohol for you when breatfeeding stops
Shabs, I read your post about Gareth with a lump in my throat. Too true. Life going on when you are falling apart. The sorest hurt. You WILL make Faliraki. You WILL. Lets think of all the ways you can pull the money together. What can you knit for Ebay? There is a shop/catalogue called The White Company.....this year they had knitted christmas tree decorations. It was a tiny knitted tree, a knitted christmas pud, a knitted santa and something else. Each was tiny (smaller than your palm) and finished with a piece of red gingham ribbon to hang them from. They were selling at £14.00 a set of four! And they sold out fast. I know because I wanted to buy some. Could you get a pattern and pitch them on Ebay (people are in good mood for buying what they think is a bargain now for next Christmas). I will be your first customer and we will make it look like you have a stampede Go girl.
Shabs, don't mind a bit about you posting your worries here, its precisely why we meet. (Just always be careful not to post full names or it could come up in a search if he Googled his full name). FWIW, I think Em just doesn't have settled hormones yet. I took a really sharp downturn in libido after DD1 was born, the hideous birth and PND after just wiped me out completely. It returned when I started coming out of the fuzz around 18months and by the time I got pg with the DTs I had swung the other way and couldn't get enough. Apologies to those who blush easy It will change darling, it will. As long as they can share some laughs and as long as they talk, it will be ok. Could he try talking to her and saying that he'd love it to be different, ask her if there is anything she would like to be different (in normal life not sex life) and let her know that it doesn't matter as long as she can let him know he is still loved......? When Spring comes it might change. Sunshine and libido go hand in hand IMHO.
Trips, Curry? Tomorrow? Good for you! You know, people sometimes just need a butt kick into remembering. They will remember that you don't need their support for H, there is little they can offer there unless they have medical qualifications or a degree in "Making Grumps See The Way", you need their friendship. Hope the curry is successful. Don't give a toss about telling H. He can join in or go to bed. This is for YOU! Hope it goes well. Can I hop in the copter?
Pixi, you sound upbeat (ish) . Glad for you. How's the hair?
Merly, I love sarcasm Tis the currency of my life. Roll on babe, we will hold you up through times of work. It is the best way of taming the dragon. Pour it down on here. We will mop xxx. What did you agree about start date?
HM, I wish I could join you. I still might. I need to do something. But I also need routine back and that won't begin to form until at least Wednesday when school starts. A new routine as DP is away from Monday for 3 months (back at weekends).
Well. I went to Ireland for Hogmanay. I have never had a Hogmanay away from Edinburgh. I will never do it again. How can I say this in its short form?
Our hosts didn't host.
We didn't dress up to stay in.
We didn't eat well.
We didn't sleep well.
They wouldn't put on the heating and houses in winter don't heat up when they are only heated for two separate half hours a day. It was BALTIC!
Their house was not welcoming. No beds made up when we arrived (we got in about 8pm ish, kids tired, hungry etc) and they wanted to put my three children in two single beds shoved together. Excuse me if I am wrong, but would that work? They are almost 8 and 4.5.........not little babies.
Girly we were staying with had a little too much to do with MY children:
She insited on them having chinese takeaway (which I told her my kids might not eat as they've never had it), and she bitched at them when they didn't eat it. When I asked if they could have a slice of toast before bed, she made them share a slice !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Next day when she served sausage rolls and beans and my children ate them gratefully, she also ate them.........OFF MY CHILDREN'S PLATES..... AS THEY WERE EATING. I don't do this face often but I was VVVVVVVVVV
They took us to a NY party at their neighbours house.......it was hideously embarrassing. Told us just as we were entering their house that they hadn't spoken to them in a year as they'd had a fall out (I immediately asked if the neighbours knew we were coming along, I had to presume we'd been invited). Then we were hosted beautifully by an adorable couple and all the neighbours (60 people?) and then dragged off home before midnight with not even saying goodbye. So, so rude.
Gave out that I understand nothing because I don't work full time, haven't had a thyroid problem, haven't had 3 miscarriages, and..................."you may have had twins and that maybe amazing but you can't possibly understand what its like to give birth 3 times" WTF!!!! Life is a competition after all. Daft cow.
It took a lot of deep breathing but I resisted IT ALL. I refused to lower myself to responding with anything other than a smile and and non-judgemental comments.
I could go on and on and on. The list is endless. We brought gin, two bottles of champange, Baileys........none was opened. We were told that "its been a great Christmas time but I'm so fed up cooking and cleaning for everyone" (SO DON'T PLAGUE US BY INSISTING WE COME! DON'T INVITE US! DON'T SEND TEXTS 4 DAYS A WEEK ASKING IF WE'RE COMING!!!!! I kept asking if she'd like me to cook........"no, no, sit down".
The bottom line is, I knew it would be like this. The man is DP's friend and we have all known each other for years. We get on like a house on fire when we meet for a meal. They ate here the night before last Hogmanay and we had a ball. We were up til 3am and copious amounts of booze was drank and food, and we changed the world. But it doesn't mean that spending a few days with people will work. Especially not when parenting becomes involved. Everyone has their own idea what is and what is not acceptable.
I told DP plainly that we shouldn't go and that I didn't want to. They are polar opposites to us and thats a clash when you have to spend time with people. But he insisted we should go. Luckily, he found it as awful as me. We came home last night at 10.30pm and we made a big pot of tea, a big pile of toast and ham and jumped into bed with it [dirty moobags] We chatted in the dark til 3am about what a crap time it was At last, united!
ANYWAY, we are home and I am so pleased to be. So relaxed to be warm again and for my children to be following a lose kind of a routine of sleep and food. Never again.
Marsy, you do study stuff doll but you remember the address right? We'll leave a hurricane lamp on for when you need to find your way back xx.
Have I wished you all A VERY HAPPY NEW YEAR?