Thanks estar x. Just trying to hold onto my hat right now and keep putting one foot in front of the other, thats the way forward right?
Large, (oooh, I don't know if we can call you that, even if you are having twins. Its just we have LargeGin&Tonic and I'll get confused if I put LGoR......mmm have to think about that one) I have had a hideous, hideous, hideous hospital birth but I can honestly say that I then had a wonderful birth with my twins in hospital. I was so apprehensive about their birth because of the previous bad time but it couldn't have been more different.
I had one adorable midwife who took excellent care of me and hardly left my side. When she went off shift she handed over to another adorable one who also hardly left the room. She called in a second midwife just as DT1 was about to be born and then a female registrar as they assessed DT2s position (breech). After that, I did have a huge team ready should there be any problems but they respectfully stood outside the door drinking tea and passing round biscuits as they waited for me . It was a hot Summer evening, the lights were on just a glow and the warm air from the slightly open window reminded me it was a celebratory night. It was exciting and beautiful. Having a team outside the room was lovely. They were so friendly and as I was wheeled into theatre to remove the retained placenta they all smiled and said well done. It was just lovely.
I chose a hospital that I wanted to go to, I'd heard good things about it. It was miles away from my home and so not entirely practical but so worth it in the end. I just told my GP thats where I wanted to be because of a previous bad time and there were no questions.
Could you go to the hospital and have a chat about their practices? Ask about how they would handle a twin pregnancy? Ask about whether their rule is to do a C/S if the babies aren't born by a certain week? Do they have a midwife led unit? Ask for a tour of the unit? It will all help you decide for sure. You have lots of time too. Don't feel pressured in any way and do let them know why you are apprehensive.
As always, there is no right or wrong here. I believe you have to feel good and confident about where you are giving birth and that in itself makes some difference. If you feel right in your head, everything else falls into place.
Triplets, well done Rebecca! You must feel so proud of her! A card and a window, thats fab!!! Hope they can take a good photo of it all made up so you can look at it whenever you want to. What a lovely Christmas present. Did Matthew go to that school?