D'y ever wonder if FrumpyGrumpy's holidays will EVER end?

[MarsLady]

Morning girls - I am collecting Mozzy bites....got more here than I did in Greece!

morning all - minor wobbler this morning - very tearful and made a fool of myself in front of colleagues. I have been offered a mini project which involves a few days in Ireland - no big deal there, but i don't feel i am up to the work and my colleagues think I am. The notes i have been given make no sense to me and i keep being told "it's simple neeerly" which doesn't help.

I feel my cover is going to be blown, as i have been sitting comfy in my role here, doing work i am good at and not inclined to change anytime soon - but knew at some point i would be given something that stretched me and i'm not liking it now its been offered. I am out of my comfort zone, I am tired and pregnant, hence the tears....so now my team of men are thinking "flaky female, can't rely on her to do anything, we'll leave her to it and offer any new stuff to another man, who is capable of doing it"

Sorry, needed to vent, i felt like such a plum.....

Neeerly... fret not my angel Take a few breaths, step back and then slowly break the task down into manageable bits rather than one huge whole. Now.. once this has been done, look again. It might take you out of your comfort zone but that can be a good thing. We're right behind you!

Shabs: consider the detention slip shredded. Anyone who messes with Trips is in trouble. As the saying goes: You mess with the bull, you get the horns!!!!!!!!!!

deep breaths taken mars, thanks, but fear my technical knowledge isn't vast enough to do it and thats what bothers me....that they will finally know how little I really know.

If I do it then spend the whole time asking "and how do i do this and which port do i open here and what protocol do I enable over there" they may as well have done it themselves......

Hello all!! Trips tell the bloody woman to go forth and multiply on her own but in a shoret version!!! I am over the moon as my wedding dress has arrived and looks stunning!! On the other hand the kids are driving me insane and costing a small fortune. Has anyone got any qquick money making schemes i told andy that i was going to open a sex chst line but he wasnt keen on the idea. I wander why !!!!

Trips what a dreaful woman! It sounds like she is the sort of hateful person who gets off on being mean. Ignore and block her. You are a lovely thoughtful and fab parent, take no notice.

Gruesome

Neerly you can do it! It will all be ok, do as Mars says. The LDC will help.

Mars i read the doula thread, you were fabbola. What a lovely letter from your client that must make you burst with joy when you read things like that!

Have posted in SN about dd, am losing my rag with her fast. Bless her, i feel terrible.

Hi all,
I have contacted the team at cancerbackup and asked if she can be blocked from contacting me privately. She has sent me another one today saying she only said what she did for my sake!! Just spoken to my friend in Cornwall and she has said that when you post on these forums you leave yourself open and therefore have to be prepared to take the rough with the smooth. I accept that, but if you read those posts there is truly not enough in there about Matthew to have prompted her to do it! Weird. Anyway I am going to forget it, haven`t told dh but its a shame as the forum has been very supportive. Thank you for all defending me! And if I ever do go on too much tell me to shut up!

trips you can can never go on too muchbabe, think i would be the same in your position i think your doing a brilliant job of keeping it all together. At times you do have to take the rough with the smooth but not like that. the woman is talking crap and shoud go get stuffed. (i put it as nicely as i could) She sounds like she is just a wierdo who gets some strange pleasure from hurting people so tell her in no uncertain terms to piss off cos it isnt happening!!!!!!!!!

Neeerly you'll get there hon, blame it all on pregnancy thats what i did i think i gave birth to my brain along with four babies!! thsnks large am really looking forward to it now, have just found some gorgeous dresses for the girls, have decided to bring it forward though so will hopefully be at the end of this year. keep ypur fingers crossed x

Well done trips! Proud of you. You say as much as you want! I have to say that in all the time you've been posting here I've never had the impression that you love Matthew more than or to the detriment of your other children. If anything your love for you entire family shines through. Matthew was your firstborn. He'll always be your firstborn and that's a special place. We all feel that way, you never get a firstborn again but you don't love the ones that follow any less.

Neeerly... go for it babe and when you need to ask questions just say "I never thought that pregnancy could affect me like this". Then smile magnamimously and learn learn learn!

i'm going.....but with back up

Proud of you!

Trips please please let her contact me....oh please my love...go on....please....

I am so ready for a big row with the first person who would like to take the challenge. Trips I know will be suprised cause I dont get mad and scream very often.

My mum has a great wall hanging she got from Canada - something along the lines of 'you have to walk in my moccasins for a mile...' I have a small understanding of your emotions and feelings Trips and I admire you so much. When I had Tomster and a few months later you had the Trips I used to think, in the middle of every sleepless night, 'If Trips can manage 3 Im sure I can cope with this one!!'

Not sure which planet people like that come from xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Neeerly, I find honesty is the best policy. I used to regularly have to go to big dinners in posh places with DP and his work. I often felt out of my depth having spent the lead up to it settling DD1 and feeding twins and would turn up having spent 10 mintues turning myself into cinderfuckingella ..........and then I would think "if these arseholes can't speak to me, normally, face to face, person to person, about normal stuff and make me feel comfortable then why should I worry?" 9 times out of 10, I had a blast once I had revealed my card and confessed that I likely had baby puke on my shoulder and couldn't tell them what was headline news.

Sometimes, someone made me feel small.

My armour........that was smiling and being honest. Sometimes people love the feeling of having power over you. They love the power knowledge brings. And so they truly feel that the rug has been pulled from under them when you smile bigly (that is a word I might have made up 16 years ago and I still adore! ) and tell them you ain't got a clue what they are on about It doesn't have to make you feel or seem like a bubble head. It gives you all the power.

Be honest. Ask if you don't know. Make it their problem to explain. Ask questions. Ask loads of questions. That is the way.

Momma, I emailed you last night.............again..............didn't get a note back to say it had failed.................

I think DP is murdering my children must run.

Girls, need a good recipe for sangria for tomorrow night, me and dh are actually going out to a friends for supper, first time in over a year! She is making a paella, so I want to make a really good sangria, any secret recipes?

Cancerbackup has blocked the lady!
Thank you all for being in my corner..........again!

Trips I asked the bartender in the Hotel Levante, Cala Bona, Mallorca many moons ago how they make the Sangria for the boat trip.

Here are his instructions:-

1. Go along the bar in the morning and empty all the left over measures in the spirit bottles - not ouzo or pernod cause that makes it taste funny.

1. Put them all in a massive punch bowl.

1. Add a couple of bottles of strong, nasty red wine, lemon and orange slices and ice.

1. Keep having a sip of it until it tastes right.

1. Fall on the floor in a drunken heap and tell everyone you love them.

Hope that is of some help. xx

thanks FG (am thinking though, a bit too much honesty may loose me my job - I am paid after all to know all this sh1t already!)...if i wasn't pregs would rely on drinking too much guinness but not as much as the client and take it from there!

Going to clean my bathroom floor - not sure if the tiles were originally black or just look that way now....will report back shortly.

turns out it twas black after all - however the minty smelling white speckles were not part of the original design......

Shabs, I love that recipe Genius!!!

Trips, you sound perkier and I think a night out will be excellent! I like your method with that daft coo, block her without comment, rise up and shine! She quite obviously has issues of her own and thinks that by delving into someone elses life she might feel better. We didn't even notice her and now she's gone.

I don't know the recipe, why not start a sangria thread........... thats if Shabs' one doesn't fulfil everything you ever hoped for PMSL!!!

Neeerly, don't doubt yourself. They employed you in the first place......

Momma TKB emailed me your email to her and I copied the address from that in directly. Its shit! Maybe if I get her to email me and you together and I hit "reply all"........ I can't work it out. I even tried making the dash an underscore and vice versa. I know I'm slightly anti social but this is too much. I feel like a star crossed lover

My hot chicken and bacon salad is ready. Back later.

Just popping in to see if there's any news on Momma's DT2's allergy testing...

Hey FG - jitterbugs is now the dts fave thing in the world. I can't believe how good they are at it. Perfect having the four fishing rods as they can all fight play together.

Triplets really at the email. Does the sender have other children? I wondered if she was maybe a bit jealous of you having the 3.

Shabs - been thinking about you and your family loads. No advice to offer really. Other than when I had ds1 I was so swamped with mad irrational thoughts. I remember reading a Dr Miriam Stoppard book where she said in the early days of her firstborn she felt like throwing him at the wall sometimes and so on but that it's not a bad thing to have those thoughts, only to act on them. Just reading that made me feel more human again, I'd thought I was turning into a monster.

LG&T I know you've done it to death but when you have five mins please can you post/email me (piximon at gmail dot com) your daily routine. I need some order in my chaotic life and I think you're just the woman to sort us out.

Will I be mad to even consider starting my OU course next month? There's so much going on, but I wonder if having something outside of the dcs to focus on might do me some good. Or it might just be one more big stress in my life...