Newborn twins

[Mackenzie2009]

Hi all
We've just found out our young daughter is expecting twins. To say this has comr as a shock is an understatement. She's only 15 nd my husband is furious. Our daughter is insistent that she wants to keep them and continue her education so I imagine that I will be the main caregiver for a few years and Imstumbling at the first hurdle. Where do I get a pram and travel system for two very tiny newborns. We really don't have a lot of money and I'm starting to get scared about the cost of everything. Any help will be immensely helpful.

berksandbeyond · Today 18:41
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The fact that she hid it from everyone for 6 months doesn't give much hope that she's going to be a super responsible mother tbh

Oh FFS. She’s a child who has probably spent the past few months terrified and in shock. You have no idea what kind of mother she may become.

TheJackalsJackal · Today 19:13

Wow OP.
are you happy to raise your grandchildren for the foreseeable? Because if my 15yo wanted that it would be a hard no. You are adult enough to be a mother? Then you be a mother. Not my job.

Wow indeed but about your comment.

This child is 6 months pregnant. She will be having the babies. You’d seriously not offer support whilst she finished her education, so that she could go on to provide for her children?
I sure as hell would have. I don’t particularly enjoy babies but I love our daughter.
They’ll be in school at 4.

I recommend the Out n about nipper double pushchair. Ours lasted from birth until about 2 years.
We bought two moses baskets to start with until ours were ready for a cot.
Maybe check local selling sites for things like highchairs.
We went through so many nappies so worth buying them when doing food shops etc so it doesn't feel so much in one go.

X

That’s going to depend on circumstances.

If OP needs to work, she needs to work so that the babies at least have a roof over their heads. OP could also have young children still herself that she needs to consider.

I’d be hoping that care2learn would be enough to cover nursery fees whilst the daughter is at school.

SouthLondonMum22 · Today 22:55

MrsSkylerWhite · Today 22:46
TheJackalsJackal · Today 19:13
Wow OP.
are you happy to raise your grandchildren for the foreseeable? Because if my 15yo wanted that it would be a hard no. You are adult enough to be a mother? Then you be a mother. Not my job.
Wow indeed but about your comment.
This child is 6 months pregnant. She will be having the babies. You’d seriously not offer support whilst she finished her education, so that she could go on to provide for her children?
I sure as hell would have. I don’t particularly enjoy babies but I love our daughter.
They’ll be in school at 4.

That’s going to depend on circumstances

Yes you’re right, of course. It was TheJackalisJackal’s apparent attitude that shocked me: I read it as the 15 year old expectant mother would be on her own. I find that really shocking.
Were she ours, we’d move heaven and earth to support her to finish her education.

I’d help my child to a certain extent but I’d make it very clear that I wouldn’t be raising the babies and if she wants to be a mum then she’ll be doing the majority of nappies and feeds when they aren’t in nursery.

Some do tho

I haven't got a flat stomach, does mean I'm pregnant? News flash, women's bodies are not just one size/shape and function exactly the same. Concealed pregnancies are not a new thing. Why don't you have Google?

Of course. I think it would be extra difficult in this case though, especially since I'm assuming she'll be going back to school as soon as she's recovered from the birth.

Oh pipe down.

On mn, having a washboard stomach just before you give birth is surprisingly common.

In the real world, the fact that a 6 month pregnant woman will have a fairly noticible bump in most cases is not news to anybody. The fact that women carrying twins usually have even larger noticible bumps is not news to anyone either.

But hey. This is mn afterall, where several people seem to have had zero bump and be wearing their normal jeans at six months pregnant with twins! And that's not unusual at all, so silly me 😁

Pregnant women aren't generally trying to hide their pregnancies though and some will be pregnant during the summer.

It's definitely easier to hide your pregnancy when wearing a baggy jumper isn't going to be out of the ordinary.

Yes a lot of teens, boys and girls, wear joggers and hoodies all year round. She would have been pregnant from June/July and probably wouldn’t have starting showing at all until Sept/Oct when a baggy hoodie would have been appropriate anyway. School blazers can hide a bit as well if they’re a bit big. Skirt must have been getting tight though!

Although saying that I only worked until 7 months with my twins (blasted SPD) but still managed to wear pre pregnancy business attire up until 5-6 months then had to get a few stretchy skirts and not button up my blazer. They were my 3rd pregnancy as well. I was ginormous in videos of me at 8 months though.

This is all a bit odd though now I’m thinking about it - did she not do PE at school, OP didn’t notice she didn’t need sanitary products for 6 months assuming she’d be buying them for a 15 year old., emptying bins, laundering underwear?

To be fair my dd 16 does her own laundry and no longer has PE classes.
I didn't show for five months with dc and could have hidden it for a while if I had wanted to.

I think you should approach this as the grandparents you are and not as the main care givers. Of course you will be there if needed but for everyone’s well being she needs to grow up quickly and understand the consequences. She’s the parent and of she’s keeping the babies she needs to realise it’s HER responsibility. She’s should be researching this stuff.

Why the hell was my comment deleted?

No idea? Were you the one suggesting termination at 6 months?

6 months isn't mentioned in the OP so I'm guessing some posters haven't read the later post.