This is the kind of situation where you have to think - it’s happened but well, it could be worse. It’s a shame so was so scared of telling you that she hid it for 6 months.
It is shocking and scary and you and your DH are obviously very disappointed and angry but you have to balance that with the fact that she hasn’t committed a crime, hurt anyone or done anything that bad except have sex! A lot of teenagers do it, you or your DH may have done it yourselves. Her boyfriend is equally responsible in being stupid enough not to ensure contraception was being used but adults with much more maturity and wisdom do the same thing everyday. Take the shame out of it for her and tell your DH to stop being ‘furious’, unlucky that she got pregnant with twins and got pregnant at all but if you all pull together and she is adamant she is willing to raise them herself with help (but SHE’s doing it) then in a few years, you and your DH may be extremely proud of her. She needs to spend the next few months thinking very hard about all this and what it will entail. Adoption will still be an option within the first year in extremis.
You need to get benefit advice urgently as it is likely that as she will be a single parent over 16 and responsible for a child/ren that she’ll get Universal Credit which will be a decent amount for two children, child benefit and possibly a maternity grant of £1000 for twins which will cover most of the initial outlay if buying a pram/cot second hand. You can probably call Universal Credit to find out and when she can apply.
Likely to get childcare costs paid to continue her education too.
Have you discussed with boyfriend’s family? You need a sit down meeting to discuss what support they/he will be offering. Hopefully they will be on board and both families with help out.
She needs to think about how she’s going to feed them, obviously breast will be save a lot of money but will be pretty hard. Was for me and I was 30! You and she could talk to a breast feeding counsellor before the birth if that what she wants to do but she may prefer straight to formula which is totally fine. She’ll need at least 12 bottles so not washing and sterilising all day and clean ones ready.
I had a travel cot with a bassinet insert in the lounge when mine were small. They slept in it in the day and the bassinet insert was high enough up so I didn’t need to bend over to change nappies which was helpful after a c-section. Just slid a thin changing mat underneath them. They both fitted in the bassinet until about 3 months and napped in it with bassinet removed until about 6 months when I got another travel cot and used them as playpens/safe containment until at least a year old.
Like this:
www.maxi-cosi.co.uk/home-equipment/swift?color_swatch_id=5587&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=PMax%3A%20UK_pur_smart_shopping_HEQ&utm_id=17668531158&gad_source=1
Only had one cot fit the first few months and laid them in it widthways.
When she turns 16, make sure DD is put on council housing list. May take a few years but hopefully by the time she’s finished education, something will come up,
Good luck and congratulations to you all (although it may not feel like it).