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Kelly, sorry about DPs gran. Strokes are awful things. Very cruel. What age is she? IME, age makes a huge difference in quality of life with a stroke.

75. She has health problems but is very wioth it still, excellent mobility. She's always in the kitchen and has taught me tons of stuff. It's very hard for the family to see her like this.

Thankfully some of the confusion does seem to be clearing up, and she an now move her fingers again, but it seems to be wait and see. I'm worried it might happen again too, which seems to be common.

Chopster - please give gran a love from me. Im partial to grans - both mine have gone and I miss them - I used to tease Nana Elsie till I had her reaching for the tenna ladies.

her classic line whilst introducing me round the nursing home 'This is our Shabba - shes had loads of children and this one when she was 41! She needs to loose a bit of weight but I proper love her

75 and quite fit is promising. Iirc, a lot of progress can made in these early days after a stroke (we've had quite a few in our family). My great aunt had one last Summer and lost speech, face movements, hands etc. She got it all back within a couple of weeks. Not great but much better. Hope she's not too frustrated. I think strokes are the pits. Hope I go in a flash when its my time. I read a beautiful book called The Diving Bell and The Butterfly years ago and I think they are about to make it into a film. It was about a man who was totally fine within his own body but totally failed on the outside due to a massive stroke. Awful.

I didn't mean it was your DPs nans time.

Hiya frumpster - sure Chopster knows you didn't mean that - you nutter

Are you sure you aren't a Saggitarian from the Bolton area? Cause me and then are somewhere very close on our planets Gonna ask my mam if I had a twin!!

Take your foot out of your mouth now - lady jane

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Don't worry I didn't read it like that!

Thanks fg. Tis very frustrating and frightening for her, especially being in hospital where she can't eat the food, and can't talk to anybody (doesn't speak english).

I googled, they have made a film of the book. here They made it in french, the orignal book was called Le Scaphandre et le Papillon. I will keep a look out for that. Might be a good one for mars too.

I am aquarian, worries about the whole world! No pressure there then

I'm having one of my days. I want to stay at home, not go out, not see anyone, not talk. Just have quiet and mugs of tea punctuated with spells on MN and lots of staring out the window.

But I do have to go out and see people and speak. I have to take the DTs to the dentist. DD1 is off school. I have to do the school run anyway as I made a promise to a mum that I would pick up her 2 kids today and I can't let her down. I have to visit my granny and my mum tries to 'help' me on a Tuesday except it usually doesn't help.

aaawww chopster - what language does gran speak - how scary for her. Im liking gran even more now. Have just realised that my mam and dad are 74 and 76 - scary thought. They look funny in the school playground when they pick up tomster - I was a late starter with this baby lark and an even later finisher xx

Its a lovely book. The man is French (he edited Elle) so I guess thats why the film is. Its very simple, sad, happy and elegant rolled into one. It is one of my all time favourites.

My other all time favourite book is Tuesdays With Morrie (I haven't seen that film because the trailer looked rubbish and I don't want my book memory spoiled by the film). It had a message from the heart which I adored. I lent it to a friend who was so captivated by it, he read the whole thing in one night (he just stayed up all night). His hands sweated all over the cover and he was embarassed to give it back to me so he bought me another

Both are true.

you could pretend to be ill and cancel everything! I rarely have to talk to rl people these days, I've mostly given it up as a bad habit.

Her mother language is gujarati, she also speaks hindi. Then she learned swahili when they lived in Tanzania, and I think by the time they ended up here she didn't bother to learn any more languages! We get by with a little bit of both, and lots of pointing and waving!

Agree about the language. Its crap enough being in hospital without that too.......

I would love to be a hospital visitor. Someone who just went from bed to bed doing all the things that you wait ages for. When my DD was in hospital she couldn't walk and was in isolation so I wasn't allowed to carry her to the loo. The nurses just simply didn't have any time to get us bedpans etc. Eventually I took over all her care, found out where everything was and did it myself, emptied the pans, tidied up the syringes into the correct places, cleaned, labelled her fridge stuff (she had special stuff on order to help her recovery and it was being used willy nilly). I am having a soapbox moment. I need to shower. I can't hide here all day.

My dad is just back from Tanzania.

Oh girls. I really am having a day. Its awful. The curtains came down in my head. I need to stay home. I just can't let anyone down. Its not in my remit. DT2 is having major tantrums this morning too.

shower first ......

I worked in a nursing home for a while. Loved it. Mostly older people, but also a couple of younger patients with quadroplegia. I really wanted to go into nursing, even got a place at college, but ds1 couldn't be left with a childminder due to sn, and I couldn't take it up. Now, I can't afford to do it.

Read an exerpt from that book, Morrie was an amazing man! I have a stack of books to read through then I shall order those two. I haven't read many really good books lately.

FG I'm down there with you. DTs came down with full blown colds this morning. Have barely stopped screaming/whinging/fighting all morning. I had an old lady tell me "it will get better" as I walked back from the school with them both carrying on.

Had a light bulb moment earlier when I realised that for the past two mornings my mum has given DTs porridge for breakfast and I don't think she's given them enough, so by the time I get to the school they are hungry. No wonder she said this morning, "oh they eat their porridge so much nicer than weetabix", yes because they are still hungry. She's driving me mad today, had to take screaming babies to bank to pay her bills so extra 30 mins of screaming, she turned the microwave off which lost the clock settings etc. Petty but just a few extra things I could do without.

DD1 then tripped over on way home and dropped my her apple into the road so she cried all the way home too. Ahh the joys of motherhood.

Triplets my thoughts are with you today.

Chops hope she makes a full recovery. I need to email you when I get time to write a coherent email.

Tigger Think we are more alike than I first realised.

And thanks for the thoughts and wishes from the rest of you.

FG - I am having one of those days too. I can hear the DTs upstairs running water in the bathroom but I cant even be bothered to go up and stop them, at least I havent succumbed to Cbeebies yet I guess

lol HM I am finding Night Garden strangely soothing to my raw nerves, despite the fact none of the DCs are in the room to watch it

Pixi, sweet old lady.

You sound like me. Its the wee things that drive me potty too.

I have managed to shower. Now I need to dress and GO!

Good luck with your days girls. See you on the flip side.

HM

Must be in the air. Its a gorgeous sunny day here. Makes it worse. I love the rain [warped]

HM

Must be in the air. Its a gorgeous sunny day here. Makes it worse. I love the rain [warped]

Mine ahve been watching tv since 9 am!

Right, off now, dt2 has been cutting dd's spellings into very small pieces.