twin beans - you sound like me a couple of days ago about facebook
go onto facebook and put in the search mumsnet.
you then get the results of the search and the first one that comes up is our mumsnet.
when you go onto that it has a discussion board. one of the discussions is about peoples real names.
If you scroll down the profile pictures it will tell you who everybody is and you will recognise the names. Just send them messages and wait for their acceptance.
I was in a right mess with it but have got to grips with it - kind of - now
My profile picture is a particularly sexy lovely one - NOT