D'y ever wonder what you'll find in the shag pile?

[frumpygrumpy]

Momma, I hoovered!!!

For any of you with experience of being a weekday widow can I just ask, how did/do you cope?

Only DH has just left to go back to London till Fri and I didn't even manage to wait for him to leave this time before falling to pieces. I hate him seeing me cry about it, (DCs in bed first so they don't have to) but I can't help it. Just feel so alone.

Spent another fruitless weekend trying to find somewhere without luck. Can only do viewings on Fri nights/sats and any good places are gone by then. Spent today driving around areas writing down places we saw available so can call them up tomorrow. Am desperate now so even trying the non-desirable areas.

Pixi

I was a weekday widow for 6 months while DH commuted to Holland from Monday morning to Friday pm. It was only supposed to be a month but kept getting extended - he eventually finished the week before we got married.

I kept myself busy, I had my final qualification exams coming up and I was organising the wedding so it kept my mind off it.

It was hard at first but after a while I got used to it and the weekends were really great and special. I really looked forward to him coming home and enjoyed going out to Holland to see him. We'd had a long-distance relationship before we both moved to London so in some ways it rekindled a lot of those feelings And I made the effort to see more of my friends which was great.

It is hard at first though, you're allowed to be upset! Maybe try to focus on doing something special together when he gets back each week, and try to think about planning that rather than about him being away? Then the week should go really quickly.

Pazza xxx

Hey I just updated my Public Profile and put some photos up

thanks Pazza. It's come at such a bad time really (I'm 7ths pg) and stuck in the middle of nowhere looking after four little DCs alone, so I'm feeling really, really sorry for myself.

But I know what you're saying and I do believe you that it'll get easier. Before reality kicked in I didn't think I'd be so bad, plenty of time for pampering, reading etc. Reality is that I'm so knackered by the end of the day I miss him even more as there isn't even anyone to make me a cup of tea.

It does feel like the early days when I almost couldn't bear him to go to work as I'd miss him too much .

Pazza your scan pics are so clear. With my first scan pic of DS1 I couldn't make out anything and had to keep getting DH to show me what was what.

Oh Pixi! My DH had to work away a few times last year when I was pg and looking after 3 dc and trying to make sense of packing our house up, but it was only for a few weeks and it still drove me to tears. There is the aspect of being able to just put on whatever rubbish you want to watch, instead of his stuff, but as you say, when you have to still clear up all the stuff yourself, get everything ready for the next day and make your own cups of tea, your 'you' time soon goes and its the next hard day again. It sucks.

Sorry, probably making you feel worse here, but letting you know you have my full sympathies.

Your mum sounds amazing though, making the move with you, and that will make all the difference.

I really hope you find a place soon so you have time to settle before the baby comes. Don't know if you've already told us - do you have family there, is that why you moved? Or did you just want to get out of London?

Hi all,
Sorry havn't been on since tuesday My blooming internet went down on tuesday!!!!lol all been havin so much fun havn't even missed me.
Well I would like to anouce the proud arrival of my twins they were born on thursday at 5.19pm a ickle girl weighin 5lb2 named Cameron and at 5.31pm a ickle boy weighin 5lb14 named Kasey, we were all safe at home by frifay at 3pm so pleased. All done in 3 hours of labour! both me and babies are doing well, well other than the no sleeping part lol Oh I did op for an epi in the end felt it was the right thing for me and the bloody thing didn't work lucky so quick was all I can say.
Will post pics as soon as I can, DD1 and DD2 so chuffed as well.

wow Kat - congrats and welcome to your new additions - put your feet up and rest (yeah right) well done

girl / boy momma

Ahh, Kat well done! Boy and girl NOT jealous at all

Really hope you can enjoy them to the fullest and accept all the help you can!

Congratulations Kat!!!!

Right then, have tried my hardest with a post-migraine head to read from my last post up to this one - sorry if i foret anything but here goes...

Belated Happy Birthday to FrumpyGrumpy

Twinkle - Not even a single snowflake here

Congratulations Kat I also am not jealous at all!!

MommaFeelgood - thanks for the advice about painkillers, but i get whopping migraines, me - i'm 'ARD (says she who was crippled with absolute agony yesterday)

Also sorry if i forget anything

(what is a foret anyway? Is it anything like a floret - broccoli or something?)

Clever girl Kat, fabulous news, welcome to your beautiful babes, I am , I adore new born babes............sigh........
where as 3 x 10yr olds......grrrrrrrrrrr!

Oh triplets - your 3 are the same age as my 2 then, and i didn't realise (and sorry but won't likely remember seeing as how my memory is likened to a sieve)!

Are they all hormonal too?

Hio Godzy.........well I have two boys and a girl and I would def say Rebecca is hormonal, in fact she`s a nightmare atm! She seems to hate most foods unless they are sugar coated, hates her brothers, is sneaky, goes in for door slamming in a big way, and very clever at getting her own way with her father! I really did not expect them to be so knowing at this age, or am I just being a dinosaur??

Lol - i think it depends on what they're friends are like, too! DD1 has had boys asking for dates since Year 3, but DD2 surprised me by being the first to have an actual 'Boyfriend' (only at school though). I daren't ask anything!

Well maybe because Becca has 2 brothers she is just not into boys at all, and as for the boys, they are into everything that boys do, except girls...............atm!

Oh, DD1 hasn't had a boyfriend cos she's not interested - that was the point!! DD2 was so tomboyish until fairly recently i thought she wouldn't be either. Apparently (jealous sister talking) she goes round with him all breaktime 'just talking'. I think i'd probably have had detailed reports if it went further - there's nowhere to hide in their playground. (Oh God why do i start thinking about this - they're my babieees!!). Sigh.

Ha ha - now this is the bit that made me glad I had all boys!

Pixi - have sent you a message on FB, have you got access to it at the moment?

Estar.... boys aren't easier. I'm already worrying about DS1 and his first official girlfriend. Sigh........

Pixi... I'm going to do my best to get to you soon. Just waiting to see what's happening with my next client and then I'll know when I'm free to see you.

Pazza... take me up on my offer [rasp!!!!!!!!!!!!]

lg&t...careful with that early posting. We'll think it's a troll.

Now Devon ladies... any of you know anyone that wants/needs a doula? Not me... bit far darlings. I know a trainee doula in N Devon that needs some work to get her recognition.

Watched LOST! Blardy amazing that programme.

Momma... don't get too complacent. I'll be knocking down your door soon.

Send good vibes to FG ladies. She didn't have the best of birthday nights. I shall send her your love as she can't get on with her PC at the moment.

Right.... bed or study........... hmmmmm???????

A troll me? No i'm just a tormented mommy who was up far too early with the baby who wont sleep.

Kat how lovely to have had your babies, well done and a HUGE CONGRATULATIONS!

I should be doing brekkie, back later.

Congratualtions Kat! Welcome to Cameron and Kasey.

Pximon, I really feel for you. Dp and I were in a long distance relationship for a while, when he finished uni and I was trying to move down there. It is horrible, and like you, I found it really hard and upsetting. The only thing is though, don't make it force you into taking a house somewhere for a quick fix where you won't be happy in the long term. Really hope you find soemthing soon. xx

Pazza, the pictures are amazing for 12 weeks, so clear! What is that pale coloured fish? We have fish too, some adopted, some I've had from babies.

i made a Big Mistake at the weekend. I cut dt2's hair. He looks awful!! Dp had been nagging me to cut it for a while, saying how cute he looked when it was shorter etc. It was gettign a bit straggly, and he wanted to go for a proper short crew cut type thing. It looks awful!! He looks more girly than every, and now the boys look a lot mroe alike again, and from the back I keep yelling the wrong name! Going to have to wait 6 mnths or so now for it to grow back. Will have to post a pic when I get a chance.