Twins being separated at school

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I made the mistake of posting this in AIBU 🙈

Due to start reception in September. School has put them in separate classes without consulting me.
What do I do now? They won’t do well without each other, especially just starting out

@43percentburnt
Sorry just realised you'd written about whether peers should be compared;

I think "compared" is maybe the wrong word but when they are separated and speak for themselves I know one of the teachers I worked with said it gave a better chance for them to "be themselves" and not just agree with each other or follow which was a common trait.

I'm no expert just giving my experience of it.

As other posters have said smaller schools with 1 class entries manage I guess it's down to schools and parents to come to appropriate agreements.

My friend has twin boys who are 11 (going to high school this year) and she did some separate pre-school sessions for them and some together to give them some time on their own at pre-school an with Mummy and she asked for them to be in different classes in reception as she was definitely wanting them to be themselves and has never had issues (apart from one getting a party invite and one not!) but that happens with non-twin siblings too. She's a teacher herself.

But it’s the teacher comparing them by saying one is bright and one needs support. Why would twins be compared to one another like this? We try so very hard at home not to compare because they are individuals, with different strengths and interests. It’s not great to think teachers will not be able to maintain this. Surely if the school sees separation as key to individuality it’s ridiculous to then compare them to one another as if they are two parts of a set.

I'm a twin. I was the quieter one.
I wish we'd been separated. I love my twin and we get on really well but I still wish we'd been separated.
And we're v non identical and were still known as 'the twins'

And everyone compares you.

Having an 'anxious one's is comparison.

@43percentburnt
I think the whole point of separating them is probably also to avoid "comparisons" however if they are in 2 different classes with 2 different teachers then 1 teacher isn't doing that; the 2 teachers are treating the 2 children as individuals in different classes and identifying any educational needs that they may have and helping them express themselves. That's my experience of working in a school anyway.

I remember the Mummy of the girl twins coming into the school saying about gradual separation and that schools view (NOT MINE) was that if they start together AND then get separated it makes it harder down the line to change their routine and would be disruptive to them; they still got together at breaks, lunchtimes, for music and sport activities etc etc

I know 2 people with twins both taught in separate classes with no issues.

I'd go and speak to the school and ask if there are other twins in and what happend there and see if the other twins mums at that particular school would be happy to chat about their experiences.