"D'y ever wonder what Paolo would look like in my shower?" <<because I do>> For FG xxx

[largeginandtonic]

How are the pox today HM???

[dingdongjustforyoufg]

SNOW??? You lucky thing, thought we might get some, no such luck, hopefully get it Sun night/Mon am to prevent me getting to work (though of course it won't prevent me getting the DTs to nursery )

[dingdongjustforyoufg]

I just can't even begin to imagine how you cope with what ggg is going through and words just seem so inadequate compared to the grief

[Harrogatemum]

DH has just called me........he cant get home as all trains have been cancelled from London.......due to the weather.

Think I may just crawl into a hole, really needed him to be back tonight as so exhausted.

[MarsLady]

Can he get home first thing tomorrow babe? Then he could give you the day off.

You poor poor thing. I think you'll just have to move next door so I can keep an eye on you.

[Harrogatemum]

sorry, just read the other notes, realise how trite I sound in comparison to GGGs suffering. Apologies to all.

[Harrogatemum]

Hi Mars - I guess he will if the weather is ok by then. I sound pathetic dont I? I am actually quite a strong woman you know, just have my moments! And being stuck inside with one sick child and a baby with the wind and rain howling outside is one of my bad moments!

[MarsLady]

And yet the world still turns HM. You're allowed to feel crap and tired and want your DH home.

GGG wouldn't want your life put on hold for hers, what she wants (apart from the obvious) is for her world to make sense again.

[Kelly1978]

mars I psoted a monkfish recipe on your other thread.

hm, I don't blame you at all. I wish my dp was coming home 2n too. Hope dt1 gets better soon. {{{{hugs}}}}

I read ggglimpopo's thread earlier, the thought of the deer and the rabbits brought tears to my eyes. Haven't seen any other messages. I keep lighting candles for maude, but I do wish could DO something.

[largeginandtonic]

It is so sad, every time i check the thread i well up and tears are always splashing down my cheeks by the end. I wish i could do something too, but in reality there is nothing anyone can do really, the grief must be all consuming. She seems so brave, i just keep sending her lots of love. It's just so unfair.

HM sorry to hear your dh will not be home again, we can sit and have a glass of wine together. Mine should be home tomorrow hooray! He will be off again sunday till middle of feb but then that should be it for a while thank goodness.

[frumpygrumpy]

HM of course you can wail and shout, you are still having a shit time!

I guess if it was me I would want people to listen and empathise, sometimes you just don't want suggestions, you just want to wail. I will put a thread on for Triplets later. She is one person who has firsthand experience and might be an understanding shoulder. I didn't see her on any of ggg's threads.

[Harrogatemum]

I am probably being really ignorant here FG, what happened with Triplets?

[frumpygrumpy]

Triplets' son Matthew died when he just just a blossoming young man, then she went on to have her triplets. I didn't see her on any of ggg's threads and, as she sometimes pops in here, I wondered if I could point her in ggg's direction. I imagine its a bit like having twins - sometimes only those who have been there can really understand and when you meet someone who does understand it opens up a whole different segment of life to learn from. Thats what happened to me on here anyway.

[largeginandtonic]

So, so true FG. I just wish i had found MN years ago, i truely thought the twins were the devil incarnate and i was doing something very wrong. I couldnt believe when i logged on here and you were all going through the same things!

It still amazes me to hear the stories, it does get better though. Hold on to that!

What shall i have for tea? What are you having HM, im not great when dh is away, i tend to eat cereal, bowls full of salad or egg noodles drowned in soy sauce. I find eating with the kids painful, Hugs still needs constant encouragement to eat, the twins are mouth open, chat, fight with sister. DD is can i have a drink and ds is i need a wee, help me mummy. I mean what is the point of trying to eat with that going on. I hate it and end up shouting "and what about my dinner?"

Anyone else like that?

[Harrogatemum]

I am in the midst of cooking myself a prawn risotto. I love cooking and always have things that DH doesnt like whilst away, he HATES risotto. And drinking a LARGE glass of Aussie chardonnay (chav-tastic).

However DD keeps whinging so might not be the peaceful culinary experience i was hoping for........we will see.

FG - thanks for filling me in about Triplets.

Wheres everyone else tonight or is it just me and thee LG&T?

[largeginandtonic]

FG started a bar in chat but has vanished, lulumama was asking her all about Paolo so she is probably off dreaming of him....

Prawn risotto sounds delish, i would make far too much and eat the lot!! Chuck me over a bowl when your done and i will hold dd for you >

[dingdongjustforyoufg]

evening ladies, have had M&S ready made curry meal for 2 with DH tonight, best I could manage for his birthday (but we are off out tomorrow )

took the DTs swimming again this morning, they love it, it fills a couple of hours, its not outside in the howling freezing wind so we're all happy really. Then they wanted to make a birthday cake for daddy so we did that this afternoon

[Harrogatemum]

Hi dingdong! LG&T I made enough prawn risotto for two people....and have pretty much eaten it all so I am with you on that one. I nearly had a piece of the cake that I made with DT1 yesterday (dingdong - looks like cake baking is a favourite child-occupying pastime) but I had such a huge slice of it today after my lunch that I MUST NOT eat any more.

Just watching 10 years younger - always guaranteed to make me feel better about myself!

[frumpygrumpy]

I was opening the bar on here and bathing and dancing to The Proclaimers and posting a gushy thread about how life has finally gelled. I have opened the bar a little too liberally though and I'm not sure how I'm going to explain that as I stagger to the door to meet DP when he dodges in around 10pm this evening (weather permitting).

HM, I love risotto, and fish are friends (Nemo) .

I am juggling my daily grind along with DDs party (sunday) and lunch with school mums (my house YIKES) next week (have to settle on a menu and get some plates that aren't chipped). I wanted to get some of us together that care about our friend whose husband passed away to let her see we are here and willing and able and just about for her. I really must be feeling well again. I would never, never, never, ever have considered this type of stuff when I first got here.

Sorry, am waffling......

[Harrogatemum]

FG - we are kindred spirits - all of my china is chipped, I think I have two plates that are ok, DH despairs of it.

What is your tipple of choice tonight - mine is a Mornington Peninsula Chardonnay!

Is your DP going to make it home tonight? DH is staying with a friend in Hampstead so god knows when he will get back tomorrow......

[dingdongjustforyoufg]

I'm on the Casillero del Diablo cabernet sauvignon tonight, watching Waterloo Road (can't help myself, school dramas always wind me up, but wind DH up even more so unrealistic) might have to get some Phish Food out soon...

[dingdongjustforyoufg]

BTW have any of you ladies set up one of these new profile things I've been reading about?

[Harrogatemum]

ooh dingdong I have some Casillero del diablo shiraz open in the kitchen (yes white and red both open) and yes I have a profile set up - you just click on my name and it goes directly to it, not that there is anything left for me to reveal to you lot, you know EVERYTHING about me! Think you all see more of the real me than some of my friends, the joys of cyberspace.

Anyway Mars how are the plans for the meetup going!!!?? And will speak to HD asap about coming to visit you again!

[frumpygrumpy]

My tipple? I'll have to link you on where I'm at this evening.......

[Harrogatemum]

go on then!

[frumpygrumpy]

it started here and then I officially opened the MN bar which I have only done once before and then DT1 woke up 20 mins ago having vomitted over all of her cot and lots outside it. Now, I'm off to have a strong coffee, something to eat and get that washing machine doing what I paid it to do......oh yeah, and make the packed lunch, clean the school shoes, layout the uniform, get nursery things ready, pack my swim bag, debate whether I should take DT1 to nursery after her vomit, prepare for the decorator who is coming to talk costs at 12noon, find keys I have to give to someone who is coming at 1pm, phone a mummy about the party, phone the garden man who is going to make our mud bath gorgeous, and finish the soup, empty the dishwasher and load tomorrows washing......not forgetting to shower and prepare for DP walking in in about an hour to a 'home' that resembles that 1950's ideal picture of homely life. Y'know the one where you "apply your lipstick and take one last trip through the house to be sure there are no stray toys lying where your husband may trip over them and prepare his chair and evening paper".

Sing for it honeybunch