D'ya ever wonder if you could still do the twist and not actually wet yourself in the process?

[shabbs]

New thread my friends xxx

Very very with dd. Came home from college and said she has lost her bus pass. Had no money to get home so college lent her £5.10p. She said "oh yeh its only £10 for a replacement". No actually its not. It can take up to 2 weeks to replace, a weeks ticket is £25, £10 to replace and £5.10p owing to the college. Just when we are so broke going up to Harrogate again............what a waste of money............I really wanted to throttle her..............I actually cried :( and my foot hurts and I`m fed up :(

Bubs that job does sound positive.

Trips, I'd be fuming too. Any chance dd has enough of her own money to pay it, or at least contribute towards? Emily is paying for her brake handle to be fixed this week. £13! She and a friend collided and snapped the handle off. It's not been that long since I paid £15 for her brakes to be fixed when she broke the calliper so I've told her she has to pay until she learns to be more careful.

Preschool have gone on a trip to a farm park today. Should be interesting. Jen wet herself twice before we left the house so has gone in pull-ups. Joshua was fine and even went to the toilet again at preschool. He's been cooperative but clingy. Jennifer has downright refused to cooperate until it was time to get on the bus. She resisted her reins, took the tabard off every time it was put on and removed the sticker which had the preschool contact details on it. It was put on her back! I've attached key rings with my number to their reins anyway so preschool have given me a contact mobile in case I get any phone calls!

Some of the parents went too but I thought the two of them would perhaps get on better without me.

Grrr just posted long message and its disappeared! So much shortened version!
Bus pass not found so new one ordered, by the time it arrives we will be approx. £50 out of pocket :(
DD has no money to contribute, she gets £5 a week pockets money.
Went to get my haircut today ready for Harrogate, she had double booked and couldn`t fit me in :(
The happy news is Thomas is coming home :) :) :) :) :)

Morning girls.......got 4 hours sleep, wide eyed at 5am........train is at 9.30am going to be a very long day!

Oh no Trips! Did you get your hair done in the end?

And....

/////Thomas is coming home/////

(Hangs out the bunting)

Hope he has a lovely homecoming.

Could you not dock dd's pocket money by half for the next 20 weeks until it's paid for?

Morning my lovelies.

Trips- We had simular situation here a few weeks ago when M lost his bus pass, luckily they have a regular bus driver and he is still in uniform, so he still caught the bus, but annoyed at having to pay out the tenner for a new one, unfortunately he needs it for the late bus, which is a regular service, and we had to pay last week due to an after school detention he earned, not happy!

Hi girls..........back home after a whirlwind 24 hours to Yorkshire and back! A fantastic day at the Army College, when I saw Thomas I couldnt believe the change in him in 6 weeks, he looked AMAZING! Cant publicly post pic for security reasons as he is in uniform, this is all heightened after the tragic Lee Rigby murder :( Very happy to have him home :)

Wonderful Trips, just wonderful. Made me shed some snotty, blobby tears. Please hug your little lad from me xxx

Trips, hope you are having a great time with your big boy home :)

My big boy is struggling at the moment :( not made any easier by my parents attitude. They want to take the 3 oldest grandchildren away for a couple of days (except my eldest niece who is still living with her dad's family). But they don't mean Emily, James and my middle niece. They mean my two youngest nieces and Emily. And that hurts. Their reason being what if James has a meltdown and the balance of girls would be better.

I don't think I'd mind if mum had apologised and said they'd love to take him but they find him challenging and could they take him out for a day trip instead. He's desperate to spend time with them, and he spends so little time he just plays up. At least when I'm there. When I'm not apparently he is fine. Which is again why my mind boggles that they might find him a handful. Unless of course they haven't wanted to admit to me that they struggle with a 4 year old boy. And then mum suggested that my inlaws took both our older two away for a week when I'd said I thought it might be too much and would consider splitting the week instead. Gah!

Hi girls.........well! He spent all Sat until 10pm with his mates. Sun he went airsofting from 6am-6pm! Today he went to my brothers (fav uncle) from 11am-10pm!! The bedroom looks like a bomb has gone off so I have just read his the riot act, army style! All for his own good after all the discipline of the last 6 weeks! Think he is going to be bored sick before Sunday, got plenty of ironing for him to do tomorrow, he needs to keep practising!! Yes nice to have him home!

Trips - glad T is home and all ok, had a laugh about the bedroom, I have removed my 2's hard drives today in an effort to get their rooms sorted, when they are tidy, they can have them back!
Soks - parents and in laws can be so frustrating. I bet J foes play them up, but to admit that would be to lose face as the grandparents who can't cope! But they are tacticly admitting it by not wanting to take him away with them. Also, a 50/50 split on time is a good idea, as it would give each grandchild some quality time without the sibling rivalry.
We had a really nice time Friday at the Frog racing, DH, who, as usual, said he didn't want to go, enjoyed himself, then it was all spoiled by J being a jelous little git as Mike won both his race and the final, and was given prizes. J said he should split the prize 50:50, M argued that wasn't fair, and if J had won, he wouldn't do that! M is generally generous and would have normally have shared but the fact J demanded it put his back up
Then Saturday morning I woke and the world was spinning, I had a rotten headache, and every time I moved I threw up
I hadn't drunk much the night before and couldn't understand why, but I had to call in sick for work. This was the same Sunday as well. I then remembered something I had read on the myaloma website, and rang the oncology helpline, and apparently it can be a side effect of my chemo, and they told me to call the GP out of hours service to prescribe meds to counteract this. So, I am now on 2 more meds to counteract the effects of my first meds meds Never mind, just keep trooping on!

Aww Bubbs.........hope you are feeling ok now? You have been through so much these last few months but you just keep on going, I do admire you..xx Well things have changed within these 4 walls, Thomas and James are not getting on, arguing most nights. Think T is getting just a bit too big for his boots......literally! Putting down J because he isn`t doing anything, not earning a wage. He has only said one word to his sister.....EMO. its very tiring atm...........and boy can he eat! Went to Canterbury this afternoon as James had an interview as he wants to go to the college there in Sept. Took T with us as he badly needed jeans, couple of t shirts etc........it broke his heart to hand over the cash at the till! He has a hair apt on Sat morning and asked me if I am paying for it........should have seen his face when I said that's all down to him now on his wages! Seems kinda quiet on here lately..............where are you all?
xx

aww poor T! It must seem a bit rough for him, he is out actually earning, and then he has to pay for his own stuff while his siblings sit and home and get the support!

Hope you are feeling better now bubbs.

I've been very busy with work. I freelance now, so I'm actually getting paid for leading cycle rides for a local council. Plus I got my cycling instructor qualification and start at my first school next Thursday. Slightly nerve wracking that I am going in on day 3 of the course so it will be straight out onto the road with the kids!

It all seems to have gone crazy all of a sudden, but I can't wait to get my first actual wage after so many years. Not that we will be any better off, but I'm in it for the long haul.

Twins are off to cub camp this weekend, then PGL with the school next week, so I have LOTS of packing to do. And I have my first triathlon on Monday.

DH still has a cold, so is still snoring and keeping me up. So far I have managed to resist throttling him! He may end up in the twins' bunk at the weekend though.

Poor boy, soks :( It will get easier as he gets older, hang on in there xx

how are you doing, shabs?

Hiya everybody....Im ok Chops x

Morning Shabs, you been awol? It seems to get quieter on here, no dramas since MM left! Today is my lovely Dads birthday........God I miss him.
"Happy Birthday Dad, love you forever" xxx
Thomas goes back on Sunday, this time last week I was beside myself with excitement, seeing him for the first time in 6 weeks. Had him home for a week and everything has changed. He is still my lovely boy in some ways but you feel now he belongs to the Army. He is so bored here, he and James have done nothing but quarrel, you just know he is itching to go back :( You feel as though you have got to do things with him, nice days out etc, but where do you take a 17 yr old when his siblings are in school, his mates are too and you have got no money? His next leave is in 7 weeks time, its too far to come home for w/ends, next time he`ll be home for two weeks! Aghhhhh !

Morning girls.

Happy Birthday to your Dad Trips xx

Sorry I've not been posting - just 'had enough' of everything. Money worries - I hate money - don't think we will recover from the sanction. Robbing Peter to pay Paul etc etc etc. I just 'give up' - its all a pile of shite.

My brother in law was the same Trips when he came home on leave. He was instantly bored, he was in Northern Ireland for quite some time and when he came home his friends didn't 'get him' IYKWIM - he had seen things that they hadn't and been in a 'war situation.' He was always glad to be packing up to go back. His regiment - Queens Lancashire Regiment - were based in Dusseldorf. After he came out of the army he stayed in Germany and I dont think he will ever come back to England.

Felt sad setting the table for 4 again tonight :( Was very good at the train station, no tears, quite surprised myself. Think its because I knew he was wanting to get back so just feel glad he`s confident enough to feel that way. He has sent me 6 text messages tonight as now he has done the initial 6 weeks he can keep his phone with him! Just feels odd here, seven weeks until I see him again..........
Shabs when are me and thee going to win that lottery? Its all bills atm, just had our first water reading now we are on a meter, they estimate ours will be £200 more a year............gulp!

I'm hanging in by the bare tips of my fingernails!

Whats up Sokky?

James is just so, so much hard work at the minute :(

I'm sitting here in bed, watching Dr who of all things and trying to fathom him out right now. We've had a truly dreadful day. We've tried so many times but James has point blank refused to listen or work with us. It ended up with dh telling him if he had to warn him again, James would not be going to nana and grandad's tonight - bank holiday so they asked if they could have James for the night. I was upstairs and heard dh tell James another 2 times, so when I came down I told James he wasn't going to nana and grandad's. It absolutely crushed him. For about 5 minutes. But what can you do? It was the absolute final resort to encourage him to calm down a bit, listen to us, stop hitting and being mean to his siblings, throwing things around, and even that didn't work.

I'm at my wits end. We're potty training Joshua (badly), trying to get Jen to keep her new glasses on and help James not fall completely to pieces. And then clearly Emily is feeling left out as she's been a stroppy, moody madam.

Dh's new shift pattern starts next Sunday and I'm already dreading the days when he's a work so much longer. Trying to get everything done now just doesn't happen. I can't see it getting any better and I'm just lost. I think I'm going to have to go back to the dr as even my mess aren't keeping me on an even keel and I don't know if that's just not helping either. Aaaah!

And it's begun again already....

I don't want to wish his childhood away. But maybe setting his feet in concrete is the way forward (hiding in the kitchen).

Oh Soks, it must be so incredibly hard, wish I could help. Does he listen to anyone?