D'ya ever wonder how life still carried on like this?

[Kelly1978]

A new thread!
Especially for throckenholt

I was hoping the original one would go to 1000, but it was gettign a but annoying scrolling all the way done, so come over here instead.

How is everyone coping with the school holidays?

I'm fed up with the rubbish weather, as we're stuck in the house too much. I daren't take them to soft play as it packed during the hols and then I can't watch all four of them. Plus it costs a fortune.
Mine are changing so much. Rav is becoming a right wuss, scared of new places. I suppose it shows awareness, but it is annoying when I've driven miles for a nice day out and he just wants to sit and whine because he is too scared to go on anything! Shay is developing his houdini skills, and now has a tendancy to bolt out of parks so I have to watch him like a hawk. I must dig out the reins before we go on holiday.

simply..... simply!

Marslady. I have now placed all such items on top of shelf in bathroom where they cannot reach, unless they have supertoddler powers that I don't know about yet.

They should meet up with my DTs as they have so much fun with the toilet ROLL - usually to be found all over the house.

Or the pan cupboard - all removed and taken and piled up on the sofa.

ah the joys........

Ahh yes. Toilet rolls, cooking pans, dustpan and brush, broom, mop& bucket...the list is endless

Speedy... I'm convinced they give each other bunk ups lol.

Toilet roll.... I'm thinking of taking out shares in all toilet roll companies. I should be able to make some money back that way.

Oh god - you're all filling me with horror!!!! angelic dd wouldn't touch the duck, spin the roll, squirt water out of the bath, use too much soap, always asks before she gets out of bed (d'you get the impression she has a control freak mother????)... WHAT HAVE I GOT COMING?

Slightly more controlledly, for FG, the house thing's OK. We bought our house from my grandpa when he went into a home 5 years ago, immediately stripped the floors of carpet, the walls of plaster and the whole place of dodgy wiring (Grandpa was "handy"...). We still have some doors half painted with lovely old lead paint and half scraped before I'd decided I'd inhaled too much. There are skirting boards propped against walls here and there and the house is mostly painted these days. I do occasionally have a moment's concern when a new friend is coming round to visit for the first time, but it's amazing what you'll get used to - no control freakery there! So I'd go for the dream house if it's one you'll still be dreaming of to live in when you're old and really knackered. Does that help? Not sure.

Nedkelly - have you tried rope??

Speedymama - I just read an article in one of the recent TAMBA magazines about a family who had had a single girl, then twins and then FOURTEEN YEARS LATER triplets. The eldest was 15 at the time. Poor woman didn't realise she was pregnant until she was about 8 weeks. She's been advised not to get pregnant again... Don't know if you can find a copy but there may be access on the website? Not sure.

Have to write a birth plan... Joy!

Doris

ooh need to read my TAMBA mag more closely. Missed that

Hi everyone,

DS is almost 18 months and I found out on Monday that I'm pregnant with twins! Its still early days - only 10 weeks, but I'm going through a huge mix of shock, panic and elated emotions! I guess you all know what I mean...!

I've already had lots of advice and support from some of you and I'm looking forward to lots more!

marslady
I accidently left a full tib of sudocream in dts room a while ago when putting them to bed, when a checked on them, they were fast asleep and plastered in the stuff, as well as the beds, carpet and walls, I washed thier hair 4 times before it eventually came out

tub...........even

and somehow the Toilet Duck doesn't seem quite so bad lol!

Welcome Leogaela... good to see you here. Just jump right in.

Hi leogaela

My DD1 was 20 months when my DTs were born. I'm not going to lie and say it's all plain sailing, but it is possible to enjoy it (some days ). The thing that saved our sanity was getting the twins into a routine as early as possible (probably around 10 weeks) which was something I hadn't done at all for DD1. This meant that they all slept for roughly the same 2 hours each day which gave me a break (and a chance to get my head down for a kip as well if I needed it!).

The early weeks are a bit of a blur to be honest - lots of takeaways and ready meals for me and OH!! Fortunately DD1 has not been too difficult with her sisters and now they all play together really nicely - makes my heart fill with joy when I hear them all giggling together.

I found the TAMBA message board a godsend whilst I was pregnant and in the early days - and still do. Haven't been posting here for very long, but am sure you'll get lots of good advice and support here as well.

Congrats on the pregnancy.

Marslady - toilet duck....eeurgh!!! My two have only managed to cover each other in vaseline and felt tip so far...oh and I've often found DT1 with her hands in DD1's full potty before I've had a chance to empty it (just wee I hasten to add!).

Tracy
xx

tracy.... in the originial thread I told stories of DT2 trying to eat DT1's poo! But Leogaela is new to us... so I'll save those stories lol

Celia , triplets AND a toddler!!!! but you've survived ! How old are they all now?

....well I've got loads of questions to ask you all but there's loads of time for that. Today I have to try to concentrate a bit more and do some work!

Just found out yesterday that both boys have impetigo (a contagious skin infection) and they are now on antibiotics plus in solitary confinement. That's the great thing about having twins - they don't do anything in half measures.

The joys the joys............... eh Speedy.

Oh yes!

Ahhh, I love this thread. It takes me back to when mine were tots, which isn't that long ago, but seems it. My twin girls are 5 now.

The toilet duck made me laugh - I once caught my two taking it in turns to lick the toilet rim flush freshener thing (can't remember what it's called). I was convinced they'd die. Think of the germs on it!

They also climbed out of their cots at an early age - it must be a twin thing, encouraging one another. I went in one morning and found them both asleep in one cot, they couldn't have been more than about 15/16 months. We put them in bed after that and put a gate up at their bedroom door. They didn't like it much and used to stand behind the gate and shout down the stairs but eventually it would go quiet and we'd creep up to find them alseep on the floor by the gate, draped over one another. Very sweet.

Thinking about all this almost makes me want another set of twins - boys . It is quite common to have two sets, particularly if they are not identical. My DDs have got twin girls in their reception class who have twin brothers in year 1.

You want a second set? lol

Sandy... just cos yours are 5 doesn't mean you can post more. You have to give us hope darling.

I couldn't decide with mine what was worse, Toilet Duck, drinking toilet water or playing in each other's potties. Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

Speedy - good to hear someone who actually has different colour twins! Mine may be cos Daddy's half Singhalese and I'm caucasian. That was one of the reasons I found out what sex they were, because I've still got all the surprise of the colour to come - really looking forward to it, and have to say, I hope they are different. Is that wierd??

Thanks everyone about the routine thing and how early it can be started - I was wondering when is a good time to get going on it. DD was in at about 10-12 weeks (I think I should change my nickname to controlfreak), so quite good to know that I can do the same with the boys. Hopefully.

Had a good midwife appointment yesterday, blood pressure back down again - did I mention that I scared DH into doing the washing at the weekend by telling him the consequences of high blood pressure?? A bit of knowledge is worth a lot! She's also very onside about ditching the consultants et al - hurrah! (I just don't want to be scared into submission by them - don't listen, Leogaela, yours are probably lovely!)

DD is allowing me to have a little nap in the afternoons as well, AND she puts cream on my feet when I wake up so am being very pampered. Beginning to feel sorry for her that she wouldn't think about touching the toilet duck - her life isn't really that constrained though really! I guess I'm going to have to lock the cleaning cupboard soon. And use a stairgate.

Anyway, keep the stories going - it's another of my little research things that I like to know what the worst can be!

Did I mention that DH is beginning to think that he might have to stay working in London instead of moving down and running the shop? Very worried about money. I'm very worried about life with a four year old, two boy babies and a shop. Any good ideas for persuasion, anyone? There is the obvious one, but firstly, I'm going to be too, too exhausted for it, and secondly, I've already told him that if he doesn't have the snip he's not coming near until I reach my menopause which theoretically could be anywhere in the next 20 years.

Where does Speedy say she has different coloured twins?

Like you it was a concern for me... well not concern but possibility. We're a mixed race family and my maternal grandfather was white. DT1 is a lot darker than DT2 but not enough so that they would be classed a different colour iyswim. To be honest my mother was convinced that at least one of my children would be white. lol

Menopause? Blimey.... I think the words... "over my dead body" worked here. lol

As to DH's work........... you need a kinder soul than me. But I'm sure that it will all work to the best. Financially you kinda just cope and you make savings where you can and cope where you can't.

Routine: if you can do it... straightaway. When we say routine what we mean is simply this, if one goes down to sleep so does the other. If one is being fed, so is the other. Nappies, everything!

She mentions the twin colour on a different thread - can't remember which, sorry. I'm fascinated by the possible mix we could have! DH isn't even remotely. He just says they'll be somewhere in the middle, which is quite true, but equally they might not.

I think DH needs a kinder soul than me too - I guess FG will have some more ideas about this, depending on when she can get to a PC. I hate being dependent on DH for money (and I know this is quite irrational), particularly as I've had to cut my very little gardening business down by 3/4s so I could help him get the shop going. Mum does the 4 gardens left at the moment, as well as working in the shop. I'm quite concerned about having my own funds over the next few years. I don't mind DH paying for house bills and mortgages, but I don't like him paying my bills - pension, mobile and the like. Didn't mean to get into this, and I know it's crap of me to feel like that, but one minute liberated woman and the next I'm at home being a mother and wife which society does NOT give us credit for. I love being able to stay at home with DD, and I chose to be a gardener so that I could look after her and not have to farm her out anywhere, but obviously it means a lot to me to be able to do both. Except now I can't, and I'm feeling constrained! Even with daytime naps and a personal masseuse!

Bear with the long postings - I'm keyboard happy and it'll only be for another 6 weeks or so...

Thank you for the routine advice. Reinforces what I'd kind of thought/read - as you said on the other thread, it's more important to have the real life experienced advice than the book info as books can give very different opinions. (That's why I read Ina May Gaskin AND Dr Carol Cooper!)

Thank you too for listening to my drivel. Don't expect anyone to be a counsellor, but it's good to write it down somewhere.