D'ya ever wonder how life still carried on like this?

[Kelly1978]

A new thread!
Especially for throckenholt

I was hoping the original one would go to 1000, but it was gettign a but annoying scrolling all the way done, so come over here instead.

How is everyone coping with the school holidays?

I'm fed up with the rubbish weather, as we're stuck in the house too much. I daren't take them to soft play as it packed during the hols and then I can't watch all four of them. Plus it costs a fortune.
Mine are changing so much. Rav is becoming a right wuss, scared of new places. I suppose it shows awareness, but it is annoying when I've driven miles for a nice day out and he just wants to sit and whine because he is too scared to go on anything! Shay is developing his houdini skills, and now has a tendancy to bolt out of parks so I have to watch him like a hawk. I must dig out the reins before we go on holiday.

Leo - I went back when the DTs were 7 months old, but did it gradually by goin gback 2 days a week to start with (10-4) and then built up to 4 days. They go to nursery 3 days a week and my Mum looks after them one day a week. I have friends who wont even put their 18 month old in nursery as they feel it would be too hard for him which of course makes me feel guilty that mine go but I know that its right for me and my family - only you can make that decision I guess! And re your boss- surely he cant say that you have to go back after 6 months....if you have been in the job over a year you are entitled to a year off by law?

MArs - glad the exam went well!

frumpy where do you live- I'm comign round.

Just follow the signs for "screwed up bird that means well", on the M1

on my way.

Please get the gin ready so I can sniff the bottle as I have 6 more weeks before I can drink it.........

Although DH has just gone out to fetch me some cold white wine, got a bit of a craving...one large glass coming up (sorry to all those disapproving of pg women having the odd one).

la la la, tiddly tum tum tum...

Bloody hell Devon..... do I have to come round there???????????????? lol!

And I wish I had a craving for white wine. God, I've missed it! DH has been working his way through my bottle of Kahlua recently too, and I've been very brave about it and not mentioned it much.

(Obviously I'm not one of those Mums who has a problem with the odd glass now and then - if only I could.)

(And I feel that among friends I can admit to a liking for Kahlua... even more with a drop of Vodka in it just to make it interesting.)

oh ladies.....I am going crazy, spent all last night throwing up again, I feel like this pregnancy is just stretching on and on.....I cant seem to stay well for more than a few days! Had to have the day off work again so I am thinking about asking if I can finish at the end of this week as am sick of the guilt feelings with taking time off. Wasnt planning to finish until 2nd Nov but think I will just bite the bullet and stop early.

Any news Doris??

no - save your maternity leave if you can - get signed off sick if you need to.

Just popping in to say Hi! Here I am in sunny Florida at the home of the Mouse! Kids a nightmare, husband grumpy, I`m covered in heat rash, lost my new digi camera, and eating too much fried chicken! Having a great time as you all can see!

Triplets - how about you leave the kids and the grumpy husband to entertain each other for a bit and go and enjoy your holiday! Shame about the digi camera !

Thanks everyone for hte thoughts about going back to work.
Harrogatemum - I live in Switzerland. Here we get 14weeks at 80% pay as statutory (that's a new law from 2005! - before then you were not entitled to any maternity pay AT ALL, but were not allowed to go back to work until 8 weeks after the birth !) My company 'kindly' (exptremely rich, huge international bank) give us 6 months maternity leave on fullpay - up to 5 months of which can be taken after the birth! I've requested extra time off unpaid.
I went back to work when ds was 7 months but he was already quite an independent child in that he could crawl and was cruising so wasn't always dependent on someone to entertain him. But 5 month olds that may not be quite so developed i'm just not so sure about!
I'm going to put this on the side for now and not worry about it, I will agree to what they say and decide what i do nearer the time - I'm already worrying about too much else! DH will also be taking extra time off and may reduce for a while so we should work something out.

Good advice for Throckenholt to get written off sick! I think you've done incredibly well to keep going to work so far into the pregnancy!

Hasn't Devondoris gone for an induction today?

by the way I'm at home sick today with a really bad cold feeling completely miserable, but at least I have a chance to catch up on MN. Is it normal that I get a burning pain the whole way around my bump (bit like heart burn but it goes from top to bottom and all around). I think its just pressure, stretching ligaments and muscles because its growing so fast, but would be nice to know if anyone else has had this.
Having loads of ups and downs at the moment (infact can't sleep for worrying sometimes) thinking about the birth (I know its a while off but..), worried that although my bump is getting big I've hardly gained weight, how my body will cope when i get really big (I'm 5'3-ish), about what i can do to be sure they aren't born early and worrying about the worrying and the effect it could have on my babies!

Throckenholt - why would anyone want to move to North Walsham??????

HI Leo and Throckenholt - its too late - I had already asked the MD if I could finish this week before even thinking about getting signed off sick. Oh well........my mistake. At least that means I only have a couple of days left and then I am free, hooray!!!

Leo - those pains sound normal - I have been getting lots of pins and needles type pains round the top of my bump and remember getting the same with teh DTs, I am sure it is just all the organs being moved around and shifted from side to side (what a lovely thought!).

Hello everyone.
Doris, hope everything going well for you, sending lots of positive vibes!
leo, sound snormal to me. I worried a lot too, but there is nothing you can really do, so it's best jsut to relax and try to enjoy your freedom before those dts arrive and take over every second of the day! The stretching does sound normal. dts take up so much room, I did find it quite hard, but lots of ppl like doris sail through it so keep thinking positive thoughts. I had a friend with 5 children including dts and she was tiny. By the end of her pregnancy she couldnt even wash up as she couldn't reach the sink. Sounds like a great excuse to put your feet up and relax. I remember growing lots in the middle trimister but not so much in the first or last.

I think my boys have turned into the cramp twins. rav is being a little angel and shay is a demon child. I'm trying to find some mroe groups to take them to, to keep them out of the hosue more. They seem to be growing up so quickly though. Rav is chattering away, shay has 3 of his big teeth. Poor rav chipped one of his though, so looks like a thug.

we had a lvoely weekend, went to the diwali celebrations in trafalgar square. dd lvoed it. then we all had a nice meal out, minus the dts. things seem to be coming on nicely with dp and the kids. We had a core group meeting last thurs and that was really positive, and he is now allowed to stay o/n sometimes. our sw didnt think that the kids should be on the register in the first place and seems to be very focused on gettign them taken off again. Doesn't look like any of the other help will ever materialise, but I kind of expected that. I'm jsut desperate to get some sort of recognition of ds's sn, rahter than keep putting diagnosing off. He keeps copying the babies now, so I feel as if I have triplets and it is bloody hard work!

Kelly that sounds so cool! I wish I could get to the Diwali celebrations (Shane's family do the singhalese stuff in May which I've never managed to get to either (shame on me, I can't remember the name of the festival)). But so glad that you had a good family time AND that the sw's being normal.

Leo - I had pains round my abdomen that ranged from an ache to an acute stabbing - from what I understand it's the round ligaments stretching (oh yeah, them!). Not pleasant, but OK. Also one tends to get Braxton Hicks earlier with twins and some of them can be achey. If you're worried go see your doc/midwife or whatever you have in Switzerland (I can't remember what you said - sorry!).

HM - enjoy the time off, I'm sure it'll make you feel better. Thinking of you.

Triplets - my DH always gets grumpy on holiday too. Odd! And the last hol we were on we managed to let DD get sunstroke - not sure that I'm really a fit parent for more children... Hope it gets more enjoyable.

And yes, I did go for an induction this morning, but I managed to wriggle out of it again! My lovely obs has given me til Thursday and this time I've promised I'll do an induction then. Got DDs birthday party on Saturday, so got to have the boys out by then! Had acupuncture yesterday and whether it was that or just chance, but DT1 is now not moving in my pelvis, and lovely obs did a sweep which was absolutely fine and no discomfort at all, unlike last week when she tried. She got all excited and said that we could break my waters now if we wanted. Declined, of course! She also said that my idea of birth was "idealised" - didn't remind her that it was actually physiological, and that I had got to 40+ weeks on the idea! ANyway nice midwife's on tomorrow, so hoping, hoping...

Will let you all know if anything starts if I get the chance. Thanks for thoughts!

By the way, where are FG and Mars? They don't seem to have been around lately...

Oh, and by the way, Leo, the worry passes! I did exactly the same until about 36 weeks. I found I was being scared by all sorts of people telling me about twins, and also by not knowing what it would be like to actually have them, but over the past few weeks I've got to acceptance stage and feel much better. I think once I'd understood how to get them out, and accepting that it's going to be hell once they're out, it made me much happier (bizarrely).

Have to go cos DD has just come home from Granny's - but thinking of you! xx

I'm here DD... just knackered. You know I think that all that studying took it out of me. The whole burden has lifted from my shoulders and left me completely knackered! lol

I don't know if you really want to have the boys out before the party. You will miss it. Trust me! lol

Just a quick pop in as I'm just about to serve up tea and I have a new potential client to meet tonight. Looking forward to it. She was lovely on the phone. I'm meeting her and her DH.

Never mind HM... you enjoy the time that you have. Don't forget you have my number and I keep waiting for HarrogateDad to phone.

Triplets........... blimey girl. Go enjoy the sun for us!

Kelly... sorry about the lack of diagnosis. Glad everything else is coming together though!

As to the rest of you..... hiya. No time to stop but today I did wonder if any twin+ mum ever really got out of the house on time. Had to call a friend to drop DD2 back from school because I couldn't get the DTs out the door at all.

Hi Mars - I have told HD to call you - he has been late at work every night this week, new job and all.

Doris - it cant be much longer..........at this rate, my baby will be born before yours and I have 5 weeks to go!

Hello lovelies!

I'm going to beat you to it, I think, HM, cos I'm going in today. I've held off lovely obs for as long as I can and I'm happy to do a pessary so that's what I'm going in for in about an hour. I am now a good 40 plus weeks, and I have a feeling I may even be 41 or so because I seem to remember the midwife and I cooking my dates when I first saw her. So useful not to have a clue when your last period was but to know when fertilisation was! I did some counting on Monday night and decided that I was probably 41 weeks this week. So I don't mind going in now. Boys have gone quiet so I think they're on their way anyway. And today is the day I went in with DD four years ago and she was born tomorrow (IYSWIM).

Anyway, I'll let you know what happens as soon as I can - I have a lurking friend who pops in here sometimes, so if she doesn't mind not lurking for once she might let you know if I don't get to the poot! (Do you mind, lurking friend??!!)

Mars, I'm glad you're OK, not surprised you're exhausted though. Exams really take it out of you. Try to get some relax time if you can and lots of good sleep. New client sounds good - hope it goes well with them.

Leo, hope you're feeling better. Having written that I was feeling fine now, I've spent the last 2 days wailing, about a variety of things - birth support, end of single relationship with DD (which is the worst), what I'm going to do next week with DH and how he's going to help - you name it. I wrote it all down and talked to a couple of friends about it and now feel much better and back to prepared again. The worst is DD, cos I love her so much and it's been we two for the last 4 years except at weekends, and now the family's growing to 5 with DH coming home, and we're losing our time. However, I do think that at least we'll be able to have girl-time together as she gets older, which will be special. Been playing lots of opera and ballet to her, so we can go and see nice things together. Anyway, don't be surprised if the feelings come and go, particularly with hormones being up and down, and don't beat yourself up about ANYTHING! You'll be OK.

Must go pack my dressing gown and a carrot or two!

xxxx
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Must remember to warn my household... can you imagine their faces?

"Mum, someone called HarrogateDad called and he's coming for his dinner!" lol

He missed a lovely fish pie yesterday. And there was plenty. I find myself cooking with him in mind as well now lol. Nice big healthy portions. Best re-fill the cake boxes I suppose.

Do give him my mobi as well cos if he leaves a message at the house chances are I'll only discover it after he's been and gone.

Ooh DD... how exciting. I'm praying that when you arrive and look to pop things up you they find that it's too late and the boys are on their way.

Don't worry about your loss of time with DD. Like you said you can make special time with her. Also she's big enough that you can get her to help with the babies. The amount of kudos she'll have at school. Her mummy's not just having one baby but two!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She can dine out on that for years.

It's my bf's 40th tomorrow so I'm happy for you to have the boys then or Saturday which is my DD's birthday.

I forgot to tell you all. I cornered a poor twin mum on the street yesterday and told her to get onto MN and to not pass GO but to come straight here to this thread. So if she makes it (she has id DT girls and a 2yo DD) then make her feel welcome and give her strong tea with lots of sugar to get over meeting me! lol

Doris - I know you will have gone in now but good luck anyway, cant wait to hear birth story/weights/names etc!

Mars - if you arent careful I will be driving down for one of your meals - I lurrrrve fish pie.

Its my last day at work! Can you all tell how stressed I am about it, ha ha. Just been out for lunch to say goodbye to a few people and now thinking about what I am going to do next week shopping-wise.........

I'm back at work today, lots to do but I'm so glad that I've checked in, thinking about Doris has made me go all warm and emotional (helped me get over the peak of my worry crisis I had this morning!). Lots of lovely, relaxing, good vibes going out to Doris.

Harrogatemum - enjoy your last day at work !

Fish pie - mmmm, with pastry or potato top? followed by lemon drizzle cake? ! Maybe I should come as well Marslady, maybe then I'll start to put on a bit more weight!