God dream, no advice. We went from sling, to carry cots in the living room, to cot, but we never really had to work THAT hard at it.
Right, who asked about weaning? Ours were 10 weeks prem but weaned at 6 months actual (not corrected), as per medical advice.
That meant they were too small to even consider BLW, they were too small for high chairs, they were actually too small for Bumbos right at the very start. So we did it slowly slowly - simple fruit and veg very soft purees in the bouncy chair/on lap, then fruit/veg combos in the bumbos, then introduced porridge etc in high chairs (we used Ikea Antilop with the blow up inserts). For literally MONTHS I would try and tempt them with little things on their high chair trays and they just would NOT try and pick it up to eat (I posted ealier on here about DD sniffing it like a snooty cat! 
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The quantities went up and flavours got more interesting, and they were up to three meals a day, but the mechanics of it were really challenging. I think it was only 6 weeks ago they were still struggling with most high chairs and we ended up doing an emergency dash to Argos on holiday because they couldn't sit properly in the hotel ones.
Then one day, it just clicked, and they started picking stuff up. And almost straight away they got horrible colds which meant they had sore throats and coughed so much with any lumps or texture they vomited it all back up again...
So now we're coming up to 11 months and they're finally eating decent quantities of finger foods, although bread-based stuff seems to be the most popular, plus being fed lumpier mushed meats and veg by spoon, we've just got them eating Stage 3 pouches and baby pasta etc, and they can handle things like banana, fish fingers etc in their hands.
Sorry, that was an epic, but just to say that it can be very two steps forward, one step back! I won't even mention the days they were refusing spoons but still wouldn't use finger foods, or the days they wolfed down a new flavour then refused it the next 
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The one thing I have realised reading every one else is that I've been rubbish about 'family' mealtimes. I usually eat breakfast at the same time as them, but often not lunch and never dinner. They're both so impatient for food that I barely have time to prep the bits and pieces for their meal while they nibble on something let along make and eat something myself! Might try and work on more sociable mealtimes soon.