English mum..Bengali/Muslim dad.

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Hi mums...

Anybody out there married to a Bengali or Muslim man?
I soooo need to find women who understand my situation and this is the first mums website that I have found with this sort of catagory.

Anyway....Im am swimming in boredom at the moment
. I got married in 2001 to my bengali b/friend of 8 years. I also converted to Islam.
Now I have a DD aged 2 and a DS, 4 months....but in the process of becoming a wife and mum I lost contact with half of my friends, and the other half "dont get my lifestyle"
My head is spinning with all the pressure from my in-laws.....
Anyone out there in a similar position...?
I would love to chat with ya'll

I'm turkish, married to a white british man. Our daughter is 4 months old. I love my husband, when people ask "aren't there cultural differences between you?" I tell them that I have more common interests and ways with my husband than the turkish guys I've been with. I love Britain in general but find it hard to form the same depth of friendships I had back home.

Mixedmama, where do you live?

Hi Cradlecupid

I live in Walthamstow. I would love to expose my LO to more Turkish people.

The thing with us i think is that we work very well as a couple when there is no family involvement mainly from his family, but that is when things go abit pear shaped.

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I'm British married to an Arab Man who is muslim and I have converted we have a fantastic relationship. We have two children one is 2 and one is nearly 8 months. My main problem is lack of resources concerning potty training for muslims. My nephew is 6 weeks younger than my daughter and is now potty trained so am desperate also my nephew as kids do somtimes shows his private parts so does my daughter but is it wrong for them to be together and do this because in the English way it is believed this would help my daughter but my husband is totally against some one please advise me!!!!!! (sad)

hi all hey 3kids 1cat ur kids are gorgeous!!!!
my dh is bengali/muslim and im white/british,my kids are so white people are shocked when they see my kids dad!!!!!

smek, tell your dh to go do some reading about the difference between culture, and religion.

they are babies. they will potty train when it is physically possible for them to potty train. and whilst they are potty training, they are quite likely to be running around, without a stitch on.
as a muslim, or perhaps as an uptight person, take your pick, i stopped the ds's and dd having a bath together when he was three, and she was one. because she grabbed hold of him, and pulled, and it really trauatised him.
good luck.

ah the age old culture and religion thing... i think this is where we have our biggest differences.

Lets resurrect this thread ladies.

Salamaleikum sisters,
Dh is Algerian, we have beem married for 12 years and have 4 dcs. I did convert to Islam about 14 years ago. I think the cultural difference would be a bit harder to cope with than the religious ones as I chose the religion but not the cultural aspects IFSWIM. I think what makes it easier for DH an I is that we both live far from our own families. Even though our contacts with both families are very good and amicable, I am convinced it would be harder for one of us should we decide to move closer to one family or another.

Definitely. we live very close to or ILs and virtually every issue we have ever had hs been related to them. The problem with us is that everything should be plain sailing since we are both Muslim but elements of both our cultures come into the way that we practice (neither of us particularly practicing).

I am a English wife who has been married to a Muslim Bangladeshi man since February 2008, I was not sure about becoming a Muslim Bangladeshi man's wife even though I loved him deeply as the differences in culture were large. In meeting his family in his native country and seeing that they welcomed me fully even though I was a outsider calmed those fears and I married him in 2008 and relocated to Bangladesh converting to Islam upon doing so, since doing so I have not regretted one iota in this choice and he saw to it that I became a mum very quickly as he had shall we say wold fashioned ideas to what I as a wife should be LOL, I was not bothered by this as I knew he had them before hand and over the last 6 years he has seen to it that I have become a mother of 4 wonderful girl...two of which are twins.

Wow!!! When I read my original post on here I can't believed I suffered in loneliness for that long.
My bengali "husband" and I split last year... And the deal breaker was the fact that I found out that we weren't even properly married as the "mullah" that "married" us never gave my FIL a wedding certificate and my ex never did a british registry ceremony, despite me asking why it was never done. I found out about the certificate when I tried to get a visa to go to Bangladesh for the first time and my inlaws couldn't produce paperwork to show I was my ex's wife.
I was so angry but it took time to get out of my old life. It hasn't been easy and problems are still happening but I will get there in the end.

Hey hope ur well been reading ur post n am sorry to hear the probs u been through hope all is well now tc hun.