Any chinese mothers out there???

[blossom2]

I was just wondering

DH is english and DD is a wonderful mix of both of us. people say she looks english/white when out with Dh and chinese when she's out with me!!!

congrats on the sleep front blossom and hope the goodbye lunches go well. Remember france is only a train ride away, and am sure all your friends will descend on you during the olympics!

Hi everyone

I hope you don't mind a newcomer! I'm a bbc - family from hk - live in London, dh same as me and we have a dd, 4 months old.

Massive thread! Don't know where to start! Love chinese food, am also concerned re dd's chinese heritage - I speak cantonese (but quite badly) and dh doesn't speak it at all - would prefer dd to learn mandarin as feel it would be more useful for her. Not really into sports - apart from watching them on tv.

My mum came to stay with me right after dd was born - for the 1st month - and tried to me do the full-on 1st month lie-in. I humoured her a bit (anything for a peaceful life!), not go out much (only dr's and food shopping), plenty of rest but drew the line at not washing hair for whole month. She also made me birds nest soup everyday with the result that dd is a big baby and v. strong - I think due to the soup. It also helped me as I was finding it hard to get over the baby blues and again the soup seemed to help.

Glad am over the zombie stage - scary thought - but already considering having baby no.2 next year ! Any thoughts on gaps between siblings?

Hi Snowmum,

Welcome! You're a braver woman than I am for contemplating second child when 1st child is only 4 months!!

I had a 3 year gap between my 2 but then my first was a nightmare child when it came to sleeping and eating so it did put me off quite a bit.

My second is a dream baby, all the staff at her nursery tell me so daily too!! Would tempt me again but no, I think I'm done for now.

Hi all, am back from my hol, we had a lovely time and the weather wasnt too bad either. My ds was behaving so well that I cant wait to take him away with us again. My DH was very good too, he did most of the feeding, sterlising and bathing so I was spolit for the week!!!

hi snowmum, my ds is 4 month too and i am thinking of having my second one next year too, but that's cos i am going to be 34 next year (so getting on a bit) and also that's the only way I can think of getting out of my work.

Hope everyone is well and have a good weekend.

Well, my dd has been relatively "easy" (fingers crossed I don't jinx this!) A good tempered baby that doesn't really cry much. The first 6 weeks were really hard but then it all seemed to fall into place.

I have a large age gap between myself and my siblings (I was a surprise baby) and there is an 8 year gap between me and the youngest of my elder siblings. Hence I would prefer a smaller age gap and my dh has 18 months between himself and his siblings and found it worked really well.

I think a 2-3 year gap would be ideal. I am 1 year older than my brother but 13 year older than my sister cos my mother remarried. I get on well with both of them now but cos i had such a huge gap with my sister it was a lot harder in the beginning because there were a lot of things that she couldnt relate to or understand. She's now 19 and at uni and we get on really well, i am like her 2nd mother sometime.

My ds is easy and doesnt cry much but he's teething at the moment so we do get the odd outbursts. I have just started him on the baby rice, only a little bit in the morning and at night. He goes absolutely mad with it so i think he will go on solid fine. Fingers crossed.

I know some of you might think 4 month is too early to start on the baby rice but he really doesnt drink much so i have no choice. Anyway, i am still giving him his milk as normal so he is not missing any meals at all.

Snowmum, how is your ds sleeping? My
mine goes to bed at 7pm, I dreamfeed at 930ish and he will wake between 430-6am. Not really sleeping through completely but a lot better than what he was doing a few weeks ago.

Welcome snowmum! gald you have a good hols Wyls.

Yingers - are you due quite soon??

i think having second child is always hard for the first few months regardless of the age gap, so IMHO, its whether you think you can cope and have the support (very) close by to help. for me personally, i knew i could not have 2 with a close age gap - gut instinct that i would just not cope. and now 3 months on, the practicalities of dealing with 2 (bathing, feeding, enteraining) is overwhelming and exhausting. my advice is make sure you have TONS of support close by ....

my sister is pregnant with her second child and her first is only 15 months!!

DH looked after DD2 for 4 hrs today whilst i took DD1 to a halloween party! and she was apparently a nightmare, screaming in the supermarket, refusing to feed! wonder if he'll let me out again ....

hi everyone! welcome snowmum to our thread, we are a friendly bunch and not too crazy i hope!

glad your hols were good wyls. Your dh sounds like a real star! Don't ask me to comment on mine right now though

Am about to have number 2, and the age gap will be about 2.8 years. Am due nov 4th although am hoping i will be early as with first one as am pretty tired of being pregnant now!

blossom - am sure your dh will let you out again and if not you can always just sneak out when he is not looking!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have not tried this myself but I may have to take my own advice in the near future!

Do u think we should start a new thread as this one is pretty long now?

A new thread is probably a good idea. Not sure how we link the old to the new so I'll let you experts take the lead. And yes, everyone has been very friendly and not at all crazy.

Congrats to Yingers on the immiment arrival of baby number 2. Best of luck!

Blossom - I take on board your comments re needing help with 2 children. My family don't live close by and we are scratching our heads on this issue. We have considered enrolling our dd in day care during the first few months of the 2nd baby's birth to ease things at home or even hiring a nanny for the same period. Difficult decisions to make.

Wyls - how strange! My sister is also 13 years older than me. We also didn't get on very well when I was younger (I'm now 32) but started getting on better once I hit my teens. What with 2 older brothers as well, I felt as though I had 5 parents!

My dd sleeps quite well. Not started her on solids yet, planning to wait another month before embarking on baby rice and purees. She feeds every 4 hours during the day. Last daytime feed is 7pm and then she usually sleeps to around 3am for her only middle of night feed. I did try dream feeding but she was too sleepy to take much and woke up at her usual time anyway so gave up. At the moment she is teething and has started waking at 1am and 5am but more for comfort than for feeds. Was hoping to just stick with the teething gels to get her thru but she seemed to be in too much pain so relented this evening and gave her Calpol. Will see how tonight goes!

I added a new conversation called - New thread for chinese mothers under the multicurtural families. I think we can just continue there, maybe?