How much do I charge my 20 yr old daughter to live at home?

[mumofthreex]

I would like to know what is the normal amount, and how much it costs to keep them, especially how much I should charge without me making profit. I am a working single mum and buy all her food and make her dinners, special vegetarian meats too.
Anyone who does this for their child and can give any kind of amount they take and breakdown of what it goes to.
This would really help us out as we're having trouble agreeing on what's an appropriate amount.

Thanks in advance

How much would you say is reasonable op ? £30/40 a week it doesnt really matter what pp think she is an earning adult who you are feeding heating and providing for dd or not she is a grown up.

Ach the dd is not 24

I would ask her to choose recipes, buy the ingredients and make two main family sized meals each week.

Plus ask her to contribute a further £15 per week.

Actually I'd ask her to cook/provide two meals a week plus 1/6 of all the billls

ZOMBIE THREAD!!!

Gaelicsheep.... come back when your child is an adult, your DH has fucked off, your doing your best to keep your head above water and life is a struggle..... see then if you think your adult child should contribute.

Mine contribute because that's an adult thing to do and they are adults.

Op, mine give me £40 pw to contribute towards:

Council Tax
Gas/Electricity
Water
Sky
Internet
Toiletries
Food

It's not rent, I'm not charging them to live here, they couldn't live anywhere else for £40 pw so we are all happy.

Oh my word anyone who cannot charge their adult children rent or keep as I prefer to call it obviously have a disposable income. I struggle every month to pay the bills and that is with help from them. I am a lone parent and both my sons earn the equivalent or more than me. I'm not being selfish or greedy, but it's a tough world out there. Your teaching them nothing by letting them live with you for free!

Why would you charge her?

Because she's an adult, because she's working, because you're doing stuff for her, because it's the real world...

This thread was started 7 years ago!

So she's rationing about £160 per week take home.

She should already be paying for her own clothes, phone, etc.

I'd look at all your bills (Gas, electric, water, phone/broadband/tv) and split them by 4 then add maybe £20 for food. Then I'd add the cost of you losing the single person council tax deduction. I wouldn't add rent money as you've said you don't want to profit from it and you'd be paying rent anyway.

Sit down with her and go through the figures and then look at how much it would cost her if she moved out!

If she earns very little, a third of her income is reasonable. This is because most people tend to spend about a third of their income on their mortgage/rent.

If she earns more than £150/week, I wouldn't charge her any more than £50, which is probably what she costs, because I wouldnt want her thinking I'm making a profit off of her.

I am 19 and when I earnt £220/week my mum charged me £85/week. I was happy to pay this. When she was in a financial hardship (messy divorce) I gave her £100/week to help her make ends meet (and also because I didn't want things that improved my quality of life to go away like nicer food and getting lifts in her car). I've now got a 6 month old and I pay her £50/week for the both of us, with the agreement I put the extra £35/week in a savings account to help me move out when I want to. My income hasn't actually changed, because I receive tax credits and child maintenance, but she feels this is fair.

Other 19/20 year olds I know tend to pay about £20/week if they work part time and are in education (more of a token), or about £50/week if they work full time (about what they cost).

She probably costs about £30/week in food (or maybe £40 if you're buying her nice things), and an extra £10 or so in things like extra gas, internet and electricity.

However, if she means you lose your single person council tax reduction then she costs you the difference, but it is up to you if you'd like to count this.

OPs dd is now 27 , hopefully she has left home and got her own place!

Adult children living at home should pay their way. Its the first step to independence.

My parents took 20% of all the kids earnings with a cap of £250 each. This was also charged to partners/friends staying longer than 1 week full time. Set me in good way for budgeting x

Many years ago I charged my dds £60 a week, and even then it was a lot,less than they'd have had to pay in a flatshare around here - probably less than half. They were both earning reasonable salaries, though.

I don't think it does them any favours not to charge a reasonable rate. If you don't, it comes as that much more of a shock when they do eventually move out and find out how much a roof over your head, food, heating, hot water, etc. actually cost.

I think £75 per week if you factor in council tax, water, electricity and food which she will use. What about cable tv/broadband too? At 20 she needs to understand that she should pay her way.

I'm 19 and starting uni in september, my mum has asked me to pay rent until then. I earn £300 a month, buy my own food, do all the cooking and do the washing every other week, I also take care of our animals. I Run my car myself fully and pay for my phone clothes and leisure activities etc myself. The only things I don't pay for are electricity, water and internet. I currently work weekends but as I finished college last week I'm now trying to find a job for during the week, but after applying for about 2 months in preparation haven't had anything yet. My mum wants to charge me £150 a month and with saving for uni supplies I simply cannot afford it and so am trying to come up with a alternative amount. Also to note is she doesn't have a mortgage which would be a big outgoing cost for her otherwise.

My daughter has just returned home as has my son. I have just found out that they both smoke and I am incensed as I asked my daughter to pay £100 a month and my son nothing as he is saving up to go travelling. If they can both smoke then they can pay more. I am so cross!!!!

Before you think about money check how much rent benefit your going to lose.....
As it will be quiet a lot, each week.. that;s before you pay for her food.

My mum used to charge 300 towards bills, but that included, elec/heat/food. I used to moan, but i think about 300 or 400 is reasonable amount to live at home. I know i have move out, i spend a lot more money a month.

Will depend on what they're earning, but I charged recent graduate dds in reasonable jobs, roughly half of what they'd have had to pay in a reasonable flatshare locally.

I don't think it's mean to charge. Comes as less of a shock when they finally move out and find out what a roof over your head, heating, , hot water, food, etc. actually cost.

Anyone who doesn't need the money can save it for them. We did a lot later help both dds with house purchases.