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Pressing charges for rape

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JustThinking · 22/05/2005 22:36

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JustThinking · 28/05/2005 12:47

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angelus · 28/05/2005 12:53

show no mercy. f*ck his life up big style

colette · 28/05/2005 12:57

Don't hesitate it is the very least he deseves just try and get through a day at a time.
It will be hard to think straight but you will gradually feel stronger and more like your old self again.
Take care and post when you feel up to it.

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JustThinking · 28/05/2005 20:51

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lemonice · 28/05/2005 21:09

I'm relieved to hear that you are making a gradual recovery from your injuries, the bleeding stopping must be a the start of feeling physically better. I think you sound as though you have a very strong case (but obviously I know nothing) but is it possible for you to have a sort of partner (maybe from Rape Crisis) I don't know who takes you through the whole process and is there afterwards as a consistent presence (maybe that is still a bit of an unrealistic hope I don't know). I just thought that would help if anything does to have someone by your side.

I'm not much help because when this happened to me I didn't know you could tell anyone and be believed but now I can see you can and would hate anyone with all the modern thinking and resources to be feeling they must suffer alone. Take care..xxx

hellomama · 28/05/2005 21:19

Just Thinking, good to hear that things are slowly starting to mend physically. I think that your thoughts about this man are probably normal because you are a normal, rational human being, with compassion. You can see how your actions will affect another. None of this can apply to the man who did this to you, even if he is sh*ing it now, in hindsight. The main thing is that you have good evidence, and are keeping your pride and dignity - no one can take these from you, even if you think that he has during the bleak moments when you're feeling your worst.

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JustThinking · 28/05/2005 21:24

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huggybear · 28/05/2005 21:27

just sending you ((((((hugs)))))))

xx

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JustThinking · 28/05/2005 21:27

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JustThinking · 28/05/2005 21:29

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Flossam · 28/05/2005 21:31

JT, try not to put up boundarys like that permanently. Do whatever you have to do now, but not forever. Don't make this a life sentance for yourself. How are you managing with your DC? xxx

bossykate · 28/05/2005 21:33

jt, just to say how much i have admired your courage since you first started this thread. i think you are such a strong person - although i appreciate you might not feel that way right now. nevertheless, you are. i really admire you for going to the police and making a complaint. i hope your physical injuries are healing well - BASTARD - and that, when you are ready, you will find helpful counselling.

good luck and bon courage.

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JustThinking · 28/05/2005 21:35

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hellomama · 28/05/2005 21:36

maybe you need to dissolve JT? Has anyone hugged you at all? I would if i saw you in person - even though I don't 'know' you IYSWIM.

P.S. I'm sure you will let another man near you - it may be a while - a long while if thats what it takes, but you will meet a lovely man who will make it worth it. It will be someone very special and I'm sure the others out there who have been through a similar experience will agree.

lemonice · 28/05/2005 21:37

I just thought that someone who was with you all the way through the process other than a police woman who could be a constant support would help long term to regain your confidence and maintain your sense of yourself.

JustThinking · 28/05/2005 21:39

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huggybear · 28/05/2005 21:40

there is a link to rape crisis on the other thread, have heard people say that they are very good xx

bossykate · 28/05/2005 21:41

jt, i'm sure you can. you could try rape crisis, or ask your police officer liaison. i'd try rape crisis first off. i think someone posted a link further down. i think it would be an excellent idea - if you feel you're ready.

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JustThinking · 28/05/2005 21:44

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Flossam · 28/05/2005 21:47

JT, there will be a man with whom there won't ever be a dodgy situation. He will be there to love and look after you. There are some nice ones out there. Don't miss out on happiness cause of this w*nker. xxx

lemonice · 28/05/2005 21:55

I thought there might be something like a buddy or mentor type of scheme if not there should be, a friend could do it but a person who was initially an outsider and experience might be better in some ways. That's aside from counselling by the way.

I'm not vey good at these virtual hugs (never tried to be honest) but {{{hugs}}}

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JustThinking · 28/05/2005 21:57

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Flossam · 28/05/2005 22:00

Sorry JT, I am being insensitive. You feel however you want to feel and do whatever you want to do, of course you must. I just hope against hope that this feeling will fade for you over time and you might find happiness. I am thinking of you lots. xxx

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JustThinking · 28/05/2005 22:01

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hellomama · 28/05/2005 22:01

{{{{hugs}}}}} JT

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