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JustThinking · 22/05/2005 22:36

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WideWebWitch · 17/06/2005 23:17

Hi justthinking, I've read your posts but not contributed much as I felt anything I would say would be inadequate (still would in fact) but just wanted to say it's ok to find it hard, you're normal and I'm sorry this happened to you.

Janh · 17/06/2005 23:19

God, if I trod in a bowl of cereal throwing it across the floor is the least of what I would do! Of course cleaning it up afterwards would make me regret it but, you know...

You will have blips all over the place as you sort yourself out and climb back up, JT. You are doing so well, you are allowed the odd lapse, please allow yourself to have them and don't feel it's significant.

Hope you sleep well tonight and, yes, you will feel better in the morning, it will be a lovely day.

(I am still up to my neck in work and Russians (have 2 tonight and 2 again on Monday) and Primary Times, haven't been on msn for days and days, as soon as I have time I'll let you know )

JustThinking · 17/06/2005 23:24

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crapmum · 17/06/2005 23:26

Hi - What was your news from the policeman? xx

JustThinking · 17/06/2005 23:27

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JustThinking · 17/06/2005 23:28

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JustThinking · 18/06/2005 19:23

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hellomama · 18/06/2005 21:05

Hi JT, Just catching up with your thread - sorry its been so long, I'm in the middle of moving house ATM. I'm sorry you had such a bad experience at the GUM they really should have known better. They really let you down and I feel really cross about that.

One word of advice, I know its a real pain, but I wouldn't get the HIV test done via the GP. It will have to go on your GP record and if you ever apply for anything insurance related, or if your GP is ever asked in the future if you had an HIV test, he will have to declare it (even though it isn't anyone elses business) and you may then get asked questions about why you had the test done in the first place (I really don't agree with this, but it does happen unfortunately). So to save yourself a lot of grief in the future, if you get it done at GUM, you never have to tell anyone about the test and they will never find out because the only person who will have access to your GUM records is you and the health staff working there, unless you give permission for the records to be used in court for example. Anyway, you decide what to do, but I thought I'd let you know about some of the issues related to this.

So glad the RC session went well. WIll keep checking this thread and hoping life continues to get better for you, even if you do have blips along the way.

marthamoo · 18/06/2005 21:13

Oh hon, you know, I'm struggling at the moment too (reducing my anti-d's, determined to get off them after 3 and a half years ) - keep yelling at the kids (really, really yelling), have no patience, the household chaos is getting me down etc etc etc - and I haven't been through what you have. Be kind to yourself - you are doing your best, and every day is a step closer to feeling better. Your kids will be OK - at least I hope yelling doesn't traumatise them too much - mine are in for therapy in the future if it does. It's all still very raw - don't be so hard on yourself.

unicorn · 18/06/2005 21:29

god Jt I am a total witch then..

I have no real reason to be a PITA to the kids.. but I am...(hormones/pissed off with husband/life syndrome???!)

You need to be kind to yourself, and surround yourself by people who will be kind to you... is that possible?

xxxx

JustThinking · 18/06/2005 23:10

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lemonice · 18/06/2005 23:23

They will still love you despite the shouting... You hate it and so do they but it is a part of living together. How old are your dcs (if you can say?)

I think you are trying to cope in so many directions it will be incredibly hard but being a mum will actually be helping you, to keep a certain amount of normalness....shouting and giving up is ok...xxx

HappyHuggy · 18/06/2005 23:25

Hi JT

Your dc are lovely and its obvious how much they love their mommy, they are beautiful happy kids and thats because they have a mommy who loves and cares for them.

thinking of you all

xxxx

JustThinking · 18/06/2005 23:25

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JustThinking · 18/06/2005 23:28

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marthamoo · 18/06/2005 23:30

Are you still on anti-d's, JT?

JustThinking · 18/06/2005 23:31

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marthamoo · 18/06/2005 23:31

Weere the anti-d's working for you before all this happened?

JustThinking · 18/06/2005 23:35

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marthamoo · 18/06/2005 23:38

Mine (Cipramil) gave me very vivid dream at first. May be worth another trip to GP for a tweak/change of medication? But you're right, they don't make medicine to take this away

JustThinking · 18/06/2005 23:41

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lemonice · 18/06/2005 23:42

Don't feel you are affecting your kids, they are stronger than you think...try to do your normal stuff with them if you can if you can't don't worry.

After you've been horrible just ask them for a kiss and cuddle and say you were feeling sad...

HappyHuggy · 18/06/2005 23:42

Have you looked into any sort of counselling JT?

apoligies if youve mentioned further down in the thread

marthamoo · 18/06/2005 23:44

I think what you need most is time - and that's one thing you can't get on prescription. I've got to go to bed, hon, my eyes are so sore - but you're in my thoughts. You've had such a bad run but you're hanging on in there - you and your kids, you'll get through this. Wishing you a dream-free night's sleep xxx

lemonice · 18/06/2005 23:51

I sit here wishing I could help, all i can say is I'm listening and I want to help...xxx