Bloody hell, how incompetent and horrible of them So sorry. But it's another thing OVER.
Jt - really sorry - missed your reply, and didn't see any other 'venting' anywhere! I certainly don't think you should worry about dragging anyone down!
I think it is likely that people feel sensitive about posting here - it's not the kind of thread you want to pile in on and everyone have their say for the sake of it, is it? And that's GOOD. That's MN-ers being calm and careful. That's why I didn't post again after the first night you posted, because I thought there was a steady group of people giving advice and support, and no need to create unnecessary clamour, iykwim. Then I happened to online late one night last week when you were posting.
You know what? I think every MN-er would join with you as one and celebrate the day that bastard was locked up. But the truth is that it MIGHT not happen. No one can tell you for sure, and the level of aquittal in rape cases is so scandalous that it is OBVIOUSLY no reflection on the vailidity of the case itself, nor the horrible pain of the countless women who have been assaulted. It's BRILLIANT that you are doing what you can to help the police nail him, and that will give them the best chance, and hopefully he will get sent down to a life of drinking other people's spit in his tea.
But whatever happens to him - you are the one who is the lovely and valuable human being, and need to be able to recover irrepsctive of what may or may not happen to him. he's casued enough trouble to you - don't make your future happiness depend on anything to do with inhuman bastards like him. you are worth far, far more.
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