Pressing charges for rape

[JustThinking]

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I was thinking about you today - hope you're ok xx

hi JT, just to say you don't have to be posting for people still to be thinking about you.
Hope your w/e has been 'ok'.

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don't worry darling. Just go to the appointment.

As to how you are feeling tonight, well I'm sure that you are more than entitled. Is there someone that you can call and talk to, cry with, scream with, so that you don't have to bottle it up tonight? What about the mnetters that know you. I wish I could take it away, but I think that you are doing so well. Let your anger out honey cos it harms only you when it is held in.

Thought about you alot today and prayed each time I thought about you. Will continue to do so.

jt, been thinking about you lots.
lots of hugs and positive vibes for you.
i dont see how anyone can possibly judge you, he is the criminal, not you. so please dont add this guilt to your burden.
good luck with your appointment

Feel as if i should change my name to 'venus' in that line-up!

Sorry you had a wobbly time. That's why I wonder whether you could find a specific acitvity and channel your bad moments into that, so that it is more within your conrtol, rather than it controlling you, iyswim. Like everyday do some cleaning, and imagine it is filth like him you are shoving out of your life. And every day go for a long and very brisk walk, preferably uphill, and imagine that when you sweat you are actually expelling HIM from your body. Renewing yourself.
But don't beat yourself up if you break down, hey?

Might as well get the GU appt over and done with and out of the way. Really sorry the physical stuff is all so horrible. But if you are still bleeding and have damage, it's important to know that there aren't any nasty bugs that could cause problems, isn't it?

Anyway, post when you feel like it. Will be thinking of you anyway.

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JT, I think the tears will be good for you - you have a lot of emotion of all sorts to let out - would you feel better about crying if there's nobody there at the time?

Do ring the rape crisis line. And lots of luck for the GU clinic. It's not nice but as Blu says it's so worthwhile.

XXX

Hello JT

I've been thinking about you too, i think it probably is good to get thoroughly sad as well as angry.

Don't over exert yourself and try to have some rest now school is back.

This may sound very crappy but you could try writing just about your own feelings to yourself, sort of stream of consciousness stuff that you might feel like adding to..just as an outlet, it soesn't have to be particularly creative just what you see around you..Sorry just something I found helpful. xxx

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Jt , have been thinking about you as well.
Could the bleeding starting again be a early period caused by shock? When my dad died I had a period a few days later that was really not due for a few weeks. You will feel better when you have been to the GU clinic and they confirm that you are ok.
Are the rape crisis people available tonight?

And you are not weak at all

Being upset is not weakness, it's necessary at times and cathartic even if it may not seem so now.

And you have been through more than enough to have reason to feel and be weak without a doubt..

If you're who I think you are, you know my history and you know I regret not having done anything about it ...it haunts me every day.

You are strong and you deserve to get justice.

xx

Just back after being in hospital, grounde to my room to recover but been allowed to log on for a short while (lol)

Whats the update? Has he been charged yet??

PLEASE fill me in

Sorry aint got a lot of time befor i need to go back to bed very sore and this is uncomfortable sitting here

WISH I HAD A LAPTOP NOW

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Jt I hope you get to speak to rape crisis today as I am sure that it will help . Hope you are getting more sleep . Take care of yourself xx

JT just checking in to see you again and so you know you have my continued support. I am thinking of you and hope you are feeling better (physically at least) soon.xxxx

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Justthinking

In a strange way and horrible for you but it might be better in the long run that you are feeling you're getting worse because it's through the outpouring of your feelings that you will begin to mend.

I'm not sure that is very clear but I hope you can follow..and it sounds a bit cod psychology but I found it was true.

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I'm a 'don't show feelings' one, too. But have found that when I do, it has helped.
Don't forget that you can call the Samaritans, too, if you are v distressed - I think anonymity really helps when letting things out. But WELL DONE for making the appt next Thu.

In the end, it is you who will find your own route back to feeling more like yourself - let the Police do their thing. Technically, it isn't 'your' case now, anyway - they are doing the prosecution of a crime on behalf of the 'Crown' - you are the 'witness' (in legal terms) not the prosecutor. I guess I'm trying to say is try not to lean on the police action too much - it will be v slow, probably, and further from your control than looking after yourself in other ways. And I really hesitate to bring this up...but could they prosecute him separately for grievous bodily harm, in addition to rape? I mean rape is notorious as a subject of misjustice in the court room - but inflicting injuries on you is such an obvious crime. Even if the bastard claimed 'consent' that isn't a defence for injuring people - the Operation Spanner case proved that! Just wondered if you could mention that to them?

You sound as if you are doing REALLY well, JustThinking. Getting upset and overwhelmed doesn't mean that you are not strong and valuable and shouldn't react against this horrible thing. Not at all.

XXXXXXX

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