JT been through rape twice and have somehow managed to get back to normal by switching their power over the situation off, this took a lot of couselling
One took my virginity (I knew him he was my platonic boyfriends college mate) I was unable to press charges due to the system being anti reporting in the 80's (this was NZ)
However when I was violently assaulted and raped (resulting in pregnancy which in turn I aborted) by an ex friend who morphed into a freakoid stalker when I refused a further relationship with him, the police and liaison officers were incredible. Despite being made to feel like a slag by the defence, it resulted in a 6 year sentence for him as he had (unknown to me) previous "bindovers" for harassment and badgering ex girlfriends. There were no witnesses or DNA ( I waited to report the rape although the assault was reported at the time, shock? not sure?) they took evidence from the pubs I had been to that night where he had followed me, the taxi drivers, the neighbours how heard the screaming. He was convicted of rape.
I just wanted you to know that the scars heal, it is possible to trust afterwards, but it takes time to get yourself in the right place for that kind of progression soul healing.
I am glad you have such good support and that the police are dealing with this properly.
I have recently been informed that he is being considered for parole, but that he will be tagged for sometime and a permanent order banning him from a distance from me in the street or my home will be enforced and I will have a helpline to ring etc.
I now live 200 miles from where the attack took place though.
Sorry this has turned into a waffle.
Just to wish you strength hugs and warm fuzzies for when you're feeling cold
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