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Pressing charges for rape

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JustThinking · 22/05/2005 22:36

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colette · 30/05/2005 21:02

I am glad the statement is done and hope you are feeling o.k ( or as o.k as possible)
I hope you are sleeping a little better as well and spoke to the crisis line if you felt up to it.
Still thinking of you

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JustThinking · 30/05/2005 21:23

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colette · 30/05/2005 21:33

I think if you really feel the need to talk speak to sams if cisis line is not available. They may not be as specialised but will help I am sure. Also sometimes just saying out loud how you are feeling helps your mind to stop going in out of control circuits . It may also help you to sleep better.

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JustThinking · 30/05/2005 21:53

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JustThinking · 30/05/2005 22:05

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potty1 · 30/05/2005 23:07

JT - not been here much this week so only just caught up with this. Couldn't read and not post so this is me, sending you, strength, love, respect, whatever it is you need right now. Huge hugs.XX

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JustThinking · 30/05/2005 23:20

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JustThinking · 30/05/2005 23:35

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oops · 30/05/2005 23:40

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JustThinking · 30/05/2005 23:44

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JustThinking · 30/05/2005 23:46

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oops · 30/05/2005 23:51

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colette · 31/05/2005 13:21

Jt hope you had a better sleep . are you going to the drs today?

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JustThinking · 31/05/2005 19:18

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colette · 31/05/2005 20:33

I am glad you saw the dr and can understand that you wouldn't have wanted to talk about it.I hope you do go back in 2 weeks because you will need a range of support in place. RL friend is obviously ultra important .
I am going to bed early(I say this every night ) and I hope you get a little bit more sleep tonight- 4 hours would be a luxury
I loved oops's comments about outweighing 3 skinny baddies

beetroot · 31/05/2005 20:43

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JustThinking · 01/06/2005 00:14

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Janh · 01/06/2005 00:32

Hi, JT - haven't posted here before but just wanted to say, I am so so impressed with how you have handled all this.

Why would it not bother you? It was a huge thing to happen to anyone - it would be weird if it didn't bother you. If you can, try not to relate the night it happened to any other date, but it is bound to affect you for ages - don't feel bad or guilty or silly for that, or for it happening at all, it wasn't your fault, it was his - as time goes on you can put this behind you but meanwhile, just try to get through the days and nights and get on with the rest of your life.

Don't let what he did stop your life going on.

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JustThinking · 01/06/2005 01:29

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huggybear · 01/06/2005 01:54

hi JT

tbh i think the thing thats helped me most has been time, as time goes by the feelings have become less intense and easier to push aside.

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justthinking · 01/06/2005 17:00

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justthinking · 01/06/2005 17:17

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koalabear · 01/06/2005 17:27

jt - anger is normal part of grieving - don't fight it

my counseller had me out the back of the house throwing old plates at the wall - very theraputic but a mess to clean up

can you find an outlet? if its not talking to a counsellor, can you go for a run, kickboxing class, punching bag, kick a pillow ..... i know its hard - i wish i had a solution for you

hug

koalabear · 01/06/2005 17:28

the 1 thing that helped the most?

letting myself cry and not fighting the pain, accepting that it was part of the healing process

and getting my belts in kickboxing

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justthinking · 01/06/2005 17:56

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