You're exactly right. Benefits obviously have their place to support those who can't work, have additional costs due to a disability etc, but the fact there's a mum on this post saying she sends her kids to private school and works part time out of choice, and receives £1000 a month in benefits proves this system needs an overhaul. I know plenty of parents who have got a ADHD diagnosis for their child(ren) and are financially "rewarded" despite thier children's needs having no (or very little) financial impact on the family. My daughter has sensory issues, and I spend an absolute fortune having to purchase seamfree specific clothing, bedding, shoes as she cannot tolerate standard things. Same with foods, she has a very specific diet that costs a lot more than my non sensory child. I haven't sought a diagnosis for my child, as I don't want to put a label on her or claim money "because I can". It's my job as a parent to support and provide for my child, and the extra I have to find to buy her specialist items mean i have to work a lot more hours than I'd like to. But that is life. This mentality of "I'm entitled to it" needs to stop. Then the people who actually really do need the extra help and support will be able to get it without having to jump through hoops.