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Am I in big trouble??

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Bigcoat1 · 28/12/2025 23:47

Hi Everyone,

i think I might be in big trouble. My mum passed recently. For the last 4 or 5 years I held power of attorney and handled all of her financial affairs. We never had a formal diagnosis of dementia etc, however she became Increasingly confused so I just took over.
mum was quite well off with around 150k in savings, an income of 2k per month and a mortgage free home. My finances have been difficult since my divorce.
On a few occasions I borrowed from mom’s account when I was desperate. I always paid the money back asap. I never discussed this with mum although I know she she would have consented.
her affairs are now being looked over as part of private etc and I’m terrified that this roll come to light and I’ll be in huge trouble.
I know I can’t undo what’s been done, but what should I expect to happen?

OP posts:
Teado · 30/12/2025 11:36

Honestly OP, stop worrying about this. Get the admin sorted out, move on with your life and grieve your lovely mum.

DeftWasp · 30/12/2025 19:20

Bigcoat1 · 30/12/2025 06:55

Thank you for all of the posts. To clarify, there was a typo in my original post- if should have said probate. it’s not being looked at by anyone else

Don'y think any more of it OP, you only have to enter the final totals of accounts, value of assets - it won't be scrutinised, BUT, don't tell people IRL anything about it, people can be jealous or pissed off with you about something and try to use things against you.

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