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My bank balance is £3.70 any words of encouragement welcome!

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TooCloseToTheEdge · 11/11/2023 19:10

I’ve just cashed in my pension (not the ‘big one’ which is only around £16k anyway), but my tiny £500 one.

my partner’s just cashed in £12k of premium bonds which is all his savings. This £12k will pay off his credit card which has reached its limit in order he can continue to buy material supplies to keep running his business on the card.

Our sofa has been collapsed in the middle for about 2 years. We can’t afford a new one.

His work vehicle is off the road because we can’t afford the garage bill to fix it.

my old banger just cost me half my wages this month for MOT repairs.
I work min wage zero hours contract every weekend due to SEN childcare commitments.

I have £3.70 in my bank until Tuesday when £39 child benefit comes in. That will pay petrol for the week ahead (I have daily work and school commutes different towns).
we don’t get child tax credit or working tax credit because I’m still paying off an overpayment from about 6 years ago where they fined me because I forgot the deadline for informing them I’d changed jobs. That cost me about £3k.

my husband is self employed, there’s no work coming in, he’s run his business ok for around 15 years, it’s slowly dying.

I had a workplace injury this year which means I’m limited on the type of work I can now do - basically only low paid relatively sedentary jobs whereas before I was in well paid albeit manual jobs.

I managed to buy one child some new clothes this month basics hoodies, trousers, winter coat but it’s all on catalogue style credit, so it’s one step forward two steps back when it comes to repaying.

my car insurance is due for renewal in 3 days. I don’t have any money in my bank to pay the first months instalment.

Our fridge has only condiments and veg. We prioritise milk and bread. I literally had bread and butter for my dinner tonight after I got in from work (well ok, toast, but same thing). The children live on pasta and breakfast cereals because along with milk these are the cheapest value range foodstuffs.

I can’t afford supplies for my older child’s course. I can’t afford to credit the school cafe for my other child’s lunches.

I wear free T-shirts that are given to people who sign up for charity challenges. I do a lot of these challenges because they raise a bit of money that goes direct from sponsor to the charity wallet, but mostly because I can get free T-shirts.
I wear these and pyjama bottoms at home.

My slippers are falling apart. Which bizarrely is one of the top 2 things that makes me feel in poverty.

we can’t afford the rent, but obviously we will somehow pay it because we need to live somewhere - this will involve delaying payment by begging the landlord to wait until my wages at the end of the month whilst hoping they don’t decide after 10 years of faultless rent paying we’re no longer viable tenants, we’ve cancelled things like Netflix, we obviously don’t go out, my last hairdresser appointment was in 2018.

the kids will get a present but it will be paid for using one of the trendy online credit schemes beginning with K.

im applying to a food bank for the first time in my life.

the oven has stopped working. So it’s electric but we have a gas hob at least. New ovens are £300+ the landlord contract states we are responsible for replacing it.

and lastly, I’m bringing home toilet rolls from work because I can’t afford the luxury of a 9 pack of family sized toilet rolls at £4+ a go. Bearing in mind we are bag searched at work, so I will spend time folding the sheets of toilet roll into compressed squares and putting them in my coat pockets rather than actually risking putting a whole toilet roll in my bag which will be searched - how do you explain that?!

if this sounds likes a weird kind of poverty boast that’s not what I intended. It’s to show that in this First World country I live in, two working adults with two children are living like this. Every day I wonder if walking into traffic would solve everything (husband would get my pension pay out then, although £16k isn’t huge).

i’m Happy for mumsnet to verify my identity to show this bank statement is both a) mine and b) accurate.

Something is broken in this country. And tomorrow I’ll drive to work again, for £10 an hour, knowing there’s no money to pay for the petrol home again, hoping the car doesn’t run out.

If anyone has words of encouragement - please pile in !
I’m hopelessly optimistic usually but this is a difficult one this time.

My bank balance is £3.70 any words of encouragement welcome!
OP posts:
BippityBopper · 11/11/2023 19:33

Sorry to hear this OP.

Practically, it sounds like your DH definitely needs to get a job and leave self employment behind. Definitely, also search local free groups on FB. Our local 'Before the tip' page gives away great stuff.

Tough times don't last forever 💐

Raspberrymoon49 · 11/11/2023 19:33

OP, am with you, £1.27 in bank account, car MOT expired last week, not that I can afford petrol, already using a Food Bank, very grateful for that as I ate today, I work full time, always have, never claimed benefits and not eligible as earn 25k but CANNOT afford to live, still have 2 weeks to pay day, don’t know what I will do, pray for a miracle every day

MinnieL · 11/11/2023 19:34

People should always be aware when PM’ing the OP on these types of threads. Especially around this time of year

StiffyByngsDogBartholomew · 11/11/2023 19:35

This suggestion is literally a drop in the ocean but I have found Olio a really good source of free food if you have people nearby. People also give away all sorts of other things such as clothes and books.

Disorganisedmess2023 · 11/11/2023 19:35

Hi there. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Are you on Facebook Buy Nothing sites. You might get stuff for the kids on there. I also got a sofa on my town's Facebook sales site (not marketplace) for pretty much free. Worth a good luck. I hope things improve.

BethDuttonsTwin · 11/11/2023 19:35

MinnieL · 11/11/2023 19:34

People should always be aware when PM’ing the OP on these types of threads. Especially around this time of year

I am aware and appreciate the warning but I can certainly stand to send out a pair of slippers which are just gathering dust in a storage box right now :)

AluckyEllie · 11/11/2023 19:35

That sounds so hard. How old are your children? I’m just reiterating what other posters have said but when your husband has completed those contracts he should end the business and get any job he can. It may well be less stress than running a failing business too. Then he could get rid of the work van, even just for scrap?
Vinted/fb marketplace are better for clothes than catalogue prices. Do you have any local fb share and recycle groups? There’s a couple in my area and kids stuff comes up loads.

ABCXYZ17 · 11/11/2023 19:36

It sounds really tough. You need to use the food bank and I agree that you might get a free oven on local social media sites. I also agree with others that your husband is going to have to get a job if the business is going under.
My local school has a uniform and winter coat arrangement whereby you can just pick up second hand uniform and coats at the entrance, if they’re not doing it maybe suggest it as there will be lots of people with decent coats to pass on. You need to look for local community support, there is one near me for people who struggle and they put on kids events, lunches etc

Sunshineandrainbow · 11/11/2023 19:36

Install olio app on your phone. For food shop leftovers and offers of things people are getting rid of.

TooCloseToTheEdge · 11/11/2023 19:37

There’s already been lots of advice Thankyou so far everyone who’s taken time to read that huge long post. I really appreciate it. I’ve read a couple of things that are going to be helpful to me thankyou. I’m going away to do kids bedtime stuff now so if I don’t reply this is why but I will catch up later tonight.

I genuinely do appreciate the support - and I know there’s people in the UK and other places in the world far far worse off than this right now. Im relying on my natural optimism, but I wrote all this out because it’s a bit cathartic it makes me take ownership of what is I suppose ‘rock bottom’.

good solid practical advice is what will help.

I’ve been on MN since the early days think SGB, Peaseblossom, AF, etc so I know we can all be supportive when we need to be. Thankyou SO much everyone. I’ll be back later.

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Tessiebeare · 11/11/2023 19:37

Sorry you are in this situation.

Are you absolutely sure you are getting all the benefits you are entitled to? Have you checked entitled to? I Also please don’t buy things on credit from catalogues. There are loads of clothes and toys on vinted and Facebook marketplace for very cheap. There are also loads of churches round here doing evening meals for free to anyone who needs, is there anything like that near you?

MinnieL · 11/11/2023 19:37

BethDuttonsTwin · 11/11/2023 19:35

I am aware and appreciate the warning but I can certainly stand to send out a pair of slippers which are just gathering dust in a storage box right now :)

Aw okay cool, as long as you (or anyone else) isn’t putting themselves into a position they can’t afford to be in for someone on the internet:)

Raspberrymoon49 · 11/11/2023 19:38

Olio is brilliant, just started using in past 2 weeks, can’t get to collectors at moment as unable to use car but definitely recommend Olio

Sunshineandrainbow · 11/11/2023 19:38

Google community fridges near you. They are fab

PTSDBarbiegirl · 11/11/2023 19:38

TooCloseToTheEdge · 11/11/2023 19:20

@salad no it was self inflicted injury. It was a manual job and I pushed my body too hard during a shift and caused myself an injury by not taking adequate breaks I guess. It was entirely my own fault.

Take this to a union rep. Research their history on securing workplace pay outs and join best one. You should not feel you have to physically push yourself in that way. Health, Safety & Wellbeing at work law is very thorough. It's not too late to make sure you have this injury reported to the H&S dept and occupational therapy will give you some physio or treatment, also counselling if you self refer. It might help.

Torganer · 11/11/2023 19:39

Get yourself on a local WhatsApp sell/swap group, or local Facebook group. There are so many people who give away sofas, toys, clothes, etc., for free. They also share the details of too good to go food. For example a house a few streets away gets a twice weekly delivery of food from the supermarkets that’s about to go off. There are always mountains of bread/fruit vegetables you can just help yourself to.

TooCloseToTheEdge · 11/11/2023 19:39

@MinnieL im not asking for anything other than practical advice. Please note I’m happy for MN to verify my identity too. I have been on MN a long time under another account.

OP posts:
titchy · 11/11/2023 19:39

TooCloseToTheEdge · 11/11/2023 19:31

@titchy absolutely he’s aware the business is dying but right now he has contracts to fulfil that require savings to clear his credit card to pay for the materials. If he doesn’t do that he could end up getting sued.

No he won't. The business is effectively bankrupt. There are no business assets or personal assets. Any customers out of pocket will simply join a list of creditors the business owes.

BlueberryBasket · 11/11/2023 19:39

See what your council's doing with Household Support Fund at the moment, might be something you can apply for.

PinkyU · 11/11/2023 19:39

Raspberrymoon49 · 11/11/2023 19:33

OP, am with you, £1.27 in bank account, car MOT expired last week, not that I can afford petrol, already using a Food Bank, very grateful for that as I ate today, I work full time, always have, never claimed benefits and not eligible as earn 25k but CANNOT afford to live, still have 2 weeks to pay day, don’t know what I will do, pray for a miracle every day

It’s so sad to hear this, I’ve heard good things about the “earn £10 a day” thread on here, would that be something you could look in to?

Bangbangchittychitty · 11/11/2023 19:40

I have been in that place too, it is horrible, I didn't eat, didn't sleep with worry, didnt live. This country is in recession , people are getting poorer, some feckers are profiting from this mess, I am so so sorry.
First things first, why only getting £39 of child benefit? Should be more I think
Also, you should be getting some kind of disability benefit, you are not able to do jobs you were previously able to fullfill. This would open up other benefits that you are entitled to.
Can you put an advert on FB regarding the oven? In my town sometimes people replace kitchen and give away dishwashers, fridge, oven, worth putting an advert out.
Good job that your partner is getting rid of his credit card, please, please stay away by on credit cards.
As per previous post, please seek Money Expert forum , lots of experienced people will be willing to help.
Good luck. This time will pass.

Cornishclio · 11/11/2023 19:40

It sounds like the £12k should be going towards family finances not supporting a struggling business. If it isn't making a profit it has to go.

Skintymcskint · 11/11/2023 19:41

As my username suggests, I know the feeling well.

You are buying new clothes? Download vinted and shop on fb marketplace.
Sofas in better condition than yours show up for free constantly as would a cooker.
New isn't better.

Do you have social supermarkets/community stores? As well as a foodbank application?

Get the CBA to help you fill out forms rather than go it alone, they're experts in maximising the application and it'll get you any entitlements quicker.

But freebies and vinted will change your life. Even when I do have a spare 20 pouhds, I choose these methods of shopping as opposed to primark.

It's a shocking climate for working families, truly it is.

Ohmych · 11/11/2023 19:41

You'd be better off claiming universal credit. You can still claim if you have a tax credit overpayment. You'll be able to claim an advance of the first months payment

Tweensandterribletwos · 11/11/2023 19:41

Might not be a massive help, but in the short term get yourself on apps like WeAre8 (watch videos but payment takes 30th us) and AttaPoll (surveys but can pay out once you reach £3). William Hill also have a daily drop where you can get free spins and I’ve sometimes won £12 in one go. Just make sure you only ever use the free stuff and never ever spend your own money!