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To be concerned at dh wanting to drop down in wages?

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deborahdoo · 01/03/2022 20:45

Aibu to be upset that dh is considering going for a promotion which would mean he would lose his shift allowance of approx 20k.

The new job he has been asked to go for is a days position (current position is 4days on and 4days off) in lower management. He wants to go for it as he has just completed a diploma in management and is very proud as it was his first stab at third level education. I am v proud of him too but aibu to be concerned at a 20k drop. More of a wwyd really. I can't and won't stop him but I guess I'm just concerned with the way things are right now.

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 01/03/2022 20:46

Are his current shifts daytimes?

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deborahdoo · 01/03/2022 20:47

Yes all days...no nights.

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 01/03/2022 20:47

And what does the 20k represent as a % of his salary?

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deborahdoo · 01/03/2022 20:47

1/4 Blush

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Frenchfancy · 01/03/2022 20:48

Yabu. You should be proud of him. Will him working more normal hours enable you to work more hours or get yourself a promotion?

Bussinbussin · 01/03/2022 20:49

How would the change affect your own work, will you still be able to do the same or more hours?

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deborahdoo · 01/03/2022 20:49

@Frenchfancy no not really, I work days myself and I'm on track with my goals. I suppose it gives us every weekend to do things.

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Fairylightsongs · 01/03/2022 20:50

Ah good for him and his promotion and diploma

Go for it youtself op and earn more.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 01/03/2022 20:50

Ah so it will mean he is off every weekend? That's a bonus in itself!

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deborahdoo · 01/03/2022 20:50

@Bussinbussin I work a 9-5 essentially but with flexi time.

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EmmaH2022 · 01/03/2022 20:51

When you say a days position, how many days?

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deborahdoo · 01/03/2022 20:51

@BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz yes it is.

Ah I am so so proud of him, he literally never went to college before so doing the diploma was a BIG thing for him!

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deborahdoo · 01/03/2022 20:52

@EmmaH2022 for me? 5 days Mon-Fri

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 01/03/2022 20:53

It probably represents an actual deduction of around 12k, once the reduced tax/ni etc is factored in.

converseandjeans · 01/03/2022 20:53

What job does he do that pays £100k for 4 days?!

Maybe he wants daytime hours & it may lead to further promotions. Maybe he can also use it as a bargaining tool. I can't see the sense in the manager earning so much less than his team.

You might find tax/pension would be less so it evens out.

MichelleScarn · 01/03/2022 20:54

[quote deborahdoo]@Frenchfancy no not really, I work days myself and I'm on track with my goals. I suppose it gives us every weekend to do things. [/quote]
Did he support you with being on track to your goals?

EmmaH2022 · 01/03/2022 20:55

sorry, I meant, how many days for him

It's such a big drop in salary, I just wondered if it was recuced hours and he could get some other work on top.

I guess it's up to you to make up any shortfall but every family runs differently.

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 01/03/2022 20:56

@converseandjeans

What job does he do that pays £100k for 4 days?!

Maybe he wants daytime hours & it may lead to further promotions. Maybe he can also use it as a bargaining tool. I can't see the sense in the manager earning so much less than his team.

You might find tax/pension would be less so it evens out.

80k.

The 20k deduction is 25%.

spotcheck · 01/03/2022 20:59

If he's completed a diploma, and this next role is a promotion..... Surely that means it will be a stepping stone into higher positions, and therefore wage? Isn't this a 'speculate to accumulate' situation?

spotcheck · 01/03/2022 21:01

And surely the step up/ challenge has value too?
If he's on 60k, and you earn too, surely you can take a small hit to increase his future prospects, and his current job satisfaction?

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deborahdoo · 01/03/2022 21:07

Yes,his wage will increase year on year, it's the seer organisation so all employees get get a 2-5% raise annually (performance dependant!) there's plenty of scope for further promotions. @MichelleScarn of course he did, as I have supported him. I am still allowed to be concerned at a 20k drop. @spotcheck I'm sure we can take it but with everything rising the way it is, it's making me slightly uneasy. We have a new mortgage etc (no other debts though!)

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deborahdoo · 01/03/2022 21:07

@converseandjeans it's 80k currently. It's in pharmaceuticals.

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converseandjeans · 01/03/2022 21:15

deborahdoo it is still a big drop. I can see why you are concerned. £80k is a great salary (loads more than either me or DH earn as teachers). I think maybe your salary is relevant as if you were say PT on £12,500 then it would be harder than if you're earning £40k in a professional job.

I don't think the small annual increase would be worth much. It would need to be expected that there might be a promotion in the future to make it worthwhile.

If you're management you ultimately have to take more responsibility and usually are paid more for this reason.

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deborahdoo · 01/03/2022 21:20

@converseandjeans yes he would/could move up again after a few years in the new role.
I'm not a low wage as I'm in 38k. I need to do a few more years in my current role to be able to move up too...do it would be a while before we recoup it.

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Kite22 · 01/03/2022 21:26

Wow. What job pays £80K for 4 days on, 4 days off, without any '3rd level education' / not having been to college? and why don't the rest of us know about this ?? Shock

I mean, any drop in salary from what you have been used to takes some adjusting, but if you are on £118K between you, I suspect you have some wiggle room.