Teenage daughter can't afford passport

[Teenie78]

My daughter who is almost 18 insisted she wanted to come abroad with us this year. She is working but only part time. We agreed that we would pay for her to go but she would have to get her own passport and spending money. We are now just over 2 months until the holiday and she hasn't got a passport or saved any money at all. I know I need to follow through on the deal we made, but I feel awful as we can't afford to do it for her as we had to buy a new car and save our own money. What should I do?

Tell her to get another jb to make some more money. I was juggling 3 jobs in the summers at that age.

An you afford to pay for her passport? Shes only 17 give het a break.

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Oh sorry. Just read you can't afford it.

She is still under 18, she is part of the family, of course she wanted to go abroad with you!

I think if you can't afford to buy your DD passport then you can't really afford the holiday. My DM was incredibly mean with money and I had a part time job from the age of 11 but even she would have paid for my passport, if she had actually taken me anywhere of course.

I actually think it's awful that you didn't automatically include her and had to make a deal. Presumably she's still living at home and you include her in food shops?

I would help her as much as possible. If you can't do it financially, what can you sell? Can you sit down with her and see if you all have anything worth selling to raise the money?

What about cutting down on your holiday spending money to help afford it? Better that you all can go and do slightly fewer things on holiday, than leaving her out completely.

The situation was slightly different because Ds1 could just about afford it but a chance of a holiday came up and his passport had run out. He had a lot of outgoings that month (car insurance, things that were already planned) so we paid as part of his birthday presents.

I didn't have to pay to go on a family holiday when I was under 18. Either we all went together or we didn't go at all. I feel like this is a bit mean and I'd be quite upset at being left alone whilst my family went off on holiday.

Bloody hell, unless this is some sort of punishment for dropping out of school and not working enough, you are being bloody harsh. I can't imagine not paying for a 17 year-old's passport.

I wouldn't have expected my 17 yr old to renew their passport after i had invited her on holiday she is working pt fgs. What are you going to do tell her she can't go ?

I was told at 16 that I wouldn't be going on the family holiday to Lanzarote (the first holiday the family had ever taken abroad) because I would cost too much.

It still hurts like fuck now that my family enjoyed themselves while I stayed at home. I still haven't ever been abroad either.

As a pp said if you can't afford for everyone to go, you can't afford the holiday.

Why have you chosen a holiday that excludes your child? What a horrible thing to do. She's 17 ffs not 25! She's a child!
Either pay fir her passport etc so she can come or switch it to a holiday that you CAN afford to take your kids on.
Beggars belief, how wanted must she feel! 🙄 really shit behaviour from a parent

Put it on a credit card get her to get her own currency for spending money

At 18 family holidays were optional for me. Could she get a second job? Or a different job?

Even so, that would be cutting it close to the application deadline, would you lend her the money until payday?

Is she at school and are you getting Child Benefit and tax credits for her? If so things like passports are your problem not hers.

Och untilthecowscomehome that is harsh poor you. My parents did something similar i was 17 and stayed with my aunt while they and a sibling trotted off to salou apparently i could go if i wanted to pay I was on a £40 a week yts

I think we need more information..Is she is school/college..How many hours is she working , have you tried to work out with her how much she would need to save to get the passport..

I think you should pay for it. Is there anything you can sell on eBay/Facebook to make up the money? TBH I don't understand why you would go on a foreign holiday when you don't even have a spare £70 in the bank, but maybe I'm being judgemental.

You sound AWFUL OP. Absolutely horrible.

Have you already paid for her to go on the holiday?

Tricky one if you have as I don't suppose you'll get it back, would you be able to enjoy yourself if she didn't come?

Can she get more work?

Wow I couldn't leave my child out that way. Pay for her bloody passport. Sounds like if she hadn't asked, you wouldn't have taken her. Reminds me of my cousins dad who used to make my cousin give him petrol money if he went on a day out with them!!

She was at college but dropped out, she is 18 in a few weeks and has turned down overtime at work, doesn't go in for shifts she does get and sleeps all day when she is home. We have paid over £1000 for her to go and said we will pay for her food, she asked for the holiday, it wasn't our idea. We have had unexpected outgoings this year so far and we're struggling to save our own spending money. So much so we have considered cancelling the holiday altogether. She gets everything else paid for, food, clothing etc doesn't pay keep.

Telling her she needs to provide spending money is fair, but not so sure about the passport. Has she earned enough money and spent it all on crap, or has she struggled to work enough hours/ find a job?

I can't afford passports for the 5 of us so we can't go away. One DC is nearly 18, one is nearly 17. I wouldn't dream of asking them to buy their own passports for a family holiday.