Broke for a month

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i know the way these threads can go - I am not asking for money and while I think it is incredibly sweet when people offer I won't accept

Sorry for above disclaimer.

Have namechanged as I'm a bit embarrassed and my ex stalks me on here.

We've no money. Well, £40. That's to get through to the end of the month.

We have no oven, or microwave. We do have a toaster.

No access to credit.

Fuel costs are high due to having to take my son to school. Not sure if there's a way around this. (He will hopefully be starting at a new school which is local in 2016 but for now it's tough.)

Fussy cats need food.

Argh. I am partly posting for advice, and also partly for emotional sounding off as I'm fed up of thinking about money.

Say it like it is MaryZ

usual, I almost always agree with your posts. But I think you're wrong on this one. I didn't offer money I haven't fucking got any but I did offer time and concern and a fucking home made cake if she was near enough!

She hasn't told the truth!

I have read your posts OP. And commented along the way.

Maryz you have said this before, that I have been inconsistent and I don't know where. Because I think the problem is I am too consistent. I have a weird age gap between children and unusual circumstances with my home. So I constantly out myself - I know.

But I have not to my knowledge ever been inconsistent and if you can point me to where I will try to explain if I can.

I have omitted things sometimes but I don't think I've ever lied.

Purple, is this true? Cut the op some slack, people.

In my life experience, MN love deleting threads, especially ones on taboo subjects like socio-economic inequality in Britain.

Ok.

I haven't actually lied, I certainly haven't asked for anyone's home baked cakes, I have refused offers of microwaves and what not - I have said repeatedly we are not broke and this is temporary - but it's not enough.

Op, I have to agree with Maryz pp for the most part.

But Maryz I have got advice - useful advice. I know that point about the hair got a bit lost but I was freezing this morning. Costas post alone let me sort that out.

I won't mention the other stuff that's been helpful.

I mean this respectfully but who are you to tell me somethings not helping? It has. It did. And then it turned into a bunfight

The one re mh issues

It's shit that you've lost people you love, but given the timeline you've outlined today - it's not all happened in the last week, in fact we're looking at 2 decades ago.

You are not alone in having lost people or having had "a bit of a shit time" - but you have these assets which can be used to provide a good future for your children - or at least a hot dinner. Your family would be turning in their literal graves to know that you're sitting on useless (right now) assets whilst your children struggle.

Please speak to someone who can help you sort this shit out because it can't be good for any of you.

And so this is what happened in the past - I would feel upset and distressed by people and name change and hope for a clean slate as it were.

I'm not going to do that now. If you think I have lied I am sorry but I haven't. If you think I have misled you on purpose to trick you and be nasty then I haven't. I only wanted to stay anonymous.

Because you were being awful about me lux, and you have made it sound as if you kindly offered me a microwave and I responded by beating my chest shouting fuck off fuck off.

I was angry at that because you took it upon yourself to offer me something which I declined and then blamed me for having had you think I needed it - even though I said in he thread numerous times I didn't.

I'm hurt too.

i am not making any claims to sainthood maryz but I don't think the bunfight thing is my fault.

Happy to concede I should not have sworn.

But I have been given lots of advice, I have taken some of that advice. But apparently I should never have asked because I own houses?

I mean that's what it boils down to.

I was using the hair thing as humour but the point was it showed me what to do and I specifically came back and said thank you. I didn't have time to turn off every socket this morning but it helped me get sorted.

It might have been a small thing but it didn't feel small then.

They don't like me usual

And I get that. I am incredibly annoying, I am shit with money and I am sentimental which is where I will prioritise things like pets.

But there's so much you just don't see. I would help any of you, if I could. I wish you could see that for all I've got irritating habits I am not a bad, horrible person at all.

I hate arguments like this. I know the 'I am sat here crying' is treated with scorn on here but earlier today I was, for a bit!

I just don't know what to say.

Initially I wanted to stay vague and anonymous but when I realised that wasn't working and explained the full circumstances I got TROUNCED.

Does it occur to anyone that's what RL is like? That you can't turn anywhere for help because your income is too much but in terms of cash you are poor despite being asset rich?

And I know some of the above is my fault, I know it is, hands up - but not all of it is.

Luxy and did I not respond to those and say thank you and try them and use them?

I know I did.

Well I will apologise though, it was rude.

I am very meek and quiet and shy really, honestly I am.

Amnesty anyone? :)

I think there are a few posters on here who are being unnecessarily bitchy to the op. I can understand why the op was reluctant to pour her heart out.