I would really appreciate your advice ladies on a personal situation. It is quite awkward and I can't speak to anyone in rl.
My dh is in sales. He has very good relationships with a few of his customers. On several occasions now he has come home with £50 in cash. Often it's been right at the end of the month which has got us through.
I asked him where he got it and it's from one of his customers. Basically dh sometimes gets enquiries from end users (members of public) who want to buy a product. Dh can't sell direct so he gives the 'lead' to his customer (the shop owner). If shop owner makes a sale (usually a few thousand) from dh's lead, he gives him £50 as a thank you.
I told him I didn't want to do this as it seemed wrong and a bit like bribery. Dh said it's helping out a good customer and his company lose nothing. He sales he knows other people who do it.
As it happens only a few times a year I've turned a blind eye to it especially as at times we've really needed that money!
However,as I work in HR I'm thinking what would happen if someone got caught doing that at my work?
I am terrified of him getting the sack as then we'd be stuffed.
Whenever I bring the subject up he just breezes over it. I wonder if he did say he'd stop it whether he 'd just do it in secret.
What do you think? It's really worrying me but I don't know how to get him to listen to how serious I think it would be if anyone found out. I'm even thinking of writing it down in a letter to him as I don't want another disagreement over it.
Any advice gratefully appreciated. Thanks