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This is such a nosy question but if you are a sahp, how much does your partner earn to make it viable?

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WideWebWitch · 08/09/2005 20:53

I fully expect people to change names for this but I have long wondered: if you're a sahm/d, how much does your partner earn? In other words, how high does one salary have to be in order for 2 people and child/ren to survive? And what does your partner do to earn this? I'm not asking out of anything other than total nosiness so do tell me to bog off if you like! Name changers extremely welcome!

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anotherhighearner · 08/09/2005 22:29

Between 1-2m pa. But I'm sure we could manage on less

Hattie05 · 08/09/2005 22:29

Sorry that was in response to Anonnymouse.

ANonnyMouse · 08/09/2005 22:30

"if you're a sahm/d, how much does your partner earn?" is the question i answered

which isn't the same as the second one "how high does one salary have to be in order for 2 people and child/ren to survive?"

as i said, spending expands to meet income so it isn't really a question that can be easily answered.

lockets · 08/09/2005 22:31

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Hattie05 · 08/09/2005 22:32

Yes but doesn't the spending expanding mean a luxury?? not survival.

womanwithnoname · 08/09/2005 22:32

Phew - same question to you anotherhighearner!!

We might get there if one of dh's scripts strikes gold (visions of me sashaying down the red carpet in Hollywood, hanging on his arm, naturally looking gorgeous )!

NotASAHM · 08/09/2005 22:32

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WomanOfMystery · 08/09/2005 22:33

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itsallrelative · 08/09/2005 22:34

Dh earns between £150,000 and £250,000 per annum (self employed) But I still work and feel I have too. Partly because we sort of need the money and partly because I run a business that employs staff including my dad, and my mum and dad live on the business premises so if I sold up would affect them-but very tempting often. I earn about 30k.
We do seem to use all the money we have-old house gobbles up money on roof/windows/heating etc, 3 kids at private school, 2 cars to run. We could of course scale back but would be very hard and i would feel guilty, as in if I stopped work would feel that was my fault we had to cut back. Not explaining this well but trying to say however much one partner may earn, sometimes guilt still makes you feel like you have to work anyway. (not that thats right of course!)

handlemecarefully · 08/09/2005 22:36

Excuse me I am a bit tipsy but having a bit of a giggle at this thread.....

Busyalexsmummy · 08/09/2005 22:37

Dp earns 14,500K and im a sahm, then we get Dp-£46 p/w working tax credit and i get £43 p/w child tax credit plus £17 p/w child benefit
We manage quite well and i dont think we really go without anything.
I think its a matter of A) what sort of lifestyle you are used to B) what your priorities are C) How you choose to spend your money

zippitippitoes · 08/09/2005 22:37

I'm waiting to see if anyone tops 2,000,000


handlemecarefully · 08/09/2005 22:39

i should explain - I have never seen so many name changes in one thread....!

Not criticising anyone who has - completely understand why you have of course!

soapbox · 08/09/2005 22:39

Zip - I am sure there are some posters on here that do

Although I'm not sure all of this is helping WWW

Thomcat · 08/09/2005 22:39

d) where you live

womanwithnoname · 08/09/2005 22:39

..........of course if he did strike gold I'd have to:

lose 40lbs
get all teeth veneered
tummy tuck
boob job
liposuction on backside and thighs
botox (for minor crows feet) much notice d'ya get if you're up for an oscar ???????

zippitippitoes · 08/09/2005 22:40

Really Soapbox

I live on another planet!!

handlemecarefully · 08/09/2005 22:40


maybe Victoria Beckham will log in soon. That should do it!

princesspeahead · 08/09/2005 22:41

ha ha
isn't this like those internet surveys where 90% of people tick that they are between 20 and 30 and earn over £250k?

mind you I prefer the "£2 million and proud of it" fantasists to the "we earn £9,500 a year and think anything more is just greedy" brigade.

and no I'm not telling you lot anything. except the number is somewhere between £9,500 and £2million.....

zippitippitoes · 08/09/2005 22:42

I would have thought there was a private members mumsnet for them

TheOneAndOnlyVB · 08/09/2005 22:42

dunno I just spend it.

handlemecarefully · 08/09/2005 22:42


Surely those earning >£2M per year would be doing anything so prosaic as mumsnetting??

soapbox · 08/09/2005 22:43

Zip - maybe there is

soapbox · 08/09/2005 22:43

Ha! I'm sure you would be surprised

Lots of lonely hours to pass while DH's are out selling their souls

handlemecarefully · 08/09/2005 22:45


Is it you?

C'mon tell me more. I am gagging to know who is the mumsnet millionairess. I really truly have to know. This is very juicy!!!

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