Today's the FIRST and we still have each other :)

[MummyMcKT]

A thread for all of us who were due in 2010 and who've bonded through the last few weeks.

It doesn't matter where your head/heart's at on this journey at the moment just as long as you want some company....

Your OPK story has made me laugh! Yikes.
Trips to Ikea are what I use to bargain with DH - if I want him to do something, I will say you could do x or you could come with me to Ikea - works every time
Lovely friend of mine at work, v.newly pg, is sharing all her symptoms with me at the moment. I have one side of me that wants to listen and is so pleased for her, and another that want to stick my fingers in my ears every time she comes near me. Am assuming this is normal!

iggis i know what you mean, a girl i work with is just 2 or 3 weeks ahead of what I should be, so even if i want to try and forget for a little while where i should be at in my pregnancy i can't as she is having hers.I adore her and wouldn't want her to go through this but I know its going to make it harder for me and at the same time I dont want he to feel like she cant talk to me.

I hope my little ramble made sense?? I'm not sure xx

Yes, it makes perfect sense! I would still prefer (I think) that she talks to me rather than doing the whole shuffly-better-not-talk-to-her-about-babies stuff. That would be worse.

Thanks for the messages - am shitting myself right now!! I will be back on tomorrow when it is all over!

Will be thinking of you velvet

Thinking of you Velvet

Thinking of you Velvet - think of yourself on a "spotting dishy doctors" alert (I think they ARE available on the NHS somewhere ) This time tomorrow you'll be home

MummyMcKT - my DS's are 7 & 10. I also had a natural MC before I had my first son, 11 years ago.

My mother is annoying me a bit atm. Boys were being a bit hyper yesterday, as boys often are, & she said "could be worse, you could have 4", knowing I have just lost number 3. Also when I explained how my body seems to have returned to normal after the op, she said "don't go getting yourself pregnant again!"
Maybe I am just a little over sensitive to it all right now.

Hope all is going well for you Velvet.

just wanted to pop by and say I hope you are ok velvet. xx

Thank goodness - my internet has been off all afternoon!!!

Thanks for all of your concerns. I was the first patient in this morning so came round at 10am. Obviously nothing in this pregnancy was meant to go smoothly so I bled quite a bit in the op - apparently I have a big fat uterus whatever that means!! Had to wait to see the consulatant so was discharged at 12 but then fainted on the way out so had to stay for another hour!

Still I'm home now and you guys were right - the waiting was the worst part. Oh and the canula in my hand. Apparently I have small veins (to compensate for my fat uterus??) so the canula was wedged in and hurt like hell!

As soon as the consultant found out I was a teacher he signed me off for the whole of next weeek, partly to make up for missing some of half term being in hospital for a shitty reason!

DH is playing nurse. He is being sooooo strict - I am only alllowed to get up to use the toilet. Problem is he is also playing Call of Duty on xbox so I am only allowed to ask for things in the 2 min breaks between games!

Anyway thanking you ladies again for your support. ps no dishy doctors.

I hope you are all doing well today.

hey velvet, isn't it a relief to be the first one to be done, not to much hanging around.

fat uterus...oohhheeerrr and i didn't like the canula much either, i found it uncomfortable. At least you have been signed off for next week to, you won't have to worry about going back next week.

On a plus side for me, my nan has come home today and i won't have to go back to that ruddy hospital for a longgg time I hope.

Pinkc try no to let your mum upset you, you may be being sensitive but she should be thinking a little before she says things..my nan when in hospital introduced me to one nurse as "her grandaughter who has just lost her baby" cue a few tears but I put it down to he not quite being herself and her way of dealing with it. not sure how I would have felt if she did it with every nurse I met but there we go.

x x

what a lovely thread.

i was due 10th July. mc December. 5th mc.

we took 3 months off trying. now back on with it.

Giving oursleves 12 months, if no success then we are throwing in the towel, giving up.

As due date looms, im

Evening all

Yeah Velvet Glad the bit you were dreading is over IYSWIM Also good to hear GP was good enough to make sure you're in no rush to get back work. All in good time (and may the sunshine continue while you're off!) Shouldn't have smiled at your post but did re your big fat uterus (mine is quite "bulgey" apparently) and your fainting fit (have had quite a few of those too one on the way out of hospital like yourself and the other in front of a class of 7yr olds who started yelling that I was dead!) Call of Duty seems to be par for the course for DHs/DPs as they "support" us

How did you get on today FordyP? Hope you're looking after yourself while your DPs away. I read your nans introduction of you to her nurse as a lovely way of acknowledging your loss although it must've been a lump in the throat moment when she did. Glad she's home

PinkC That's lovely ages your boys are at Hope they're enjoying half term.

I'm sorry you've suffered MC for a second time

Parents can be very insensitive - although sometimes makes me laugh to think that we'll all (fingers crossed!) probably be cast as the insensitive ones in years to come with our kids/grandchildren!! Wonder if it's the same phenomenen that occurs as everyone I know over a certain age starting to wear nylon and having a china ornament collection?!? (I jest) Hope your mum gets over her foot in mouth soon let's give her the benefit of the doubt that she prob thought she was being supportive?!?

Queenotcwl Hello - come join us if you like?

Hello TightW So sorry to hear what a tough time you've had. Inner strength you don't even realise you have gets you through (and threads like this can maybe help too esp when you need some hugs around significant dates). Everything crossed for you and your OH as you ttc

Hope everyone else has enjoyed the sunshine. I had a water extraveganza with my niece and nephew this afternoon - they were absolutely mocket!

Saw a woman at supermarket today putting her twin boys in the car - I can now spot twins better than a nasa satellite!

DP and I are taking our casket to the crematorium tomorrow. Seems very surreal and if I'm honest not as important to me as it was the few weeks ago that we found out we'd lost them. Maybe it's because I've now processed that's where this journey has lead. Anyway still think it's the right for us and I am hoping it's a a way of moving round the corner - wherever that takes us x

hi all
MummyMcKT i hope this dose not sound insensitive but i hope all goes well for you 2morrow as you say goodbye to your little ones, i got a huge shock with the type of service last friday but im so so glad i went now, knowing the service was sensitive and professional and in a strange way like an end of a chapter. x

Velvet glad to hear you got home and you didnt have to wait around for too long. i have to appoligise as i just a bit giggle at the term 'big fat uterus' hospital staff realy do have a way with words dont they eh? hope you can enjoy some nice weather while your off work next week x

tightwad thinking of you as your due date approaches (hugs to you)the ladies on here will keep you sane im sure (their a brilliant bunch of people who have kept me going for quite a while now) good luck ttc x

pink sorry your mother has been a bit insensitive, i think parents have a nack for it without even realising what their saying sometimes. hope you can enjoy some time with your boys while their on half term tc x

hi to everyone else as i keep loosing track of who iv mentioned lol, i hope you are all as well as can be expected.

lets hope the weather stays nice for a while it seems to have cheered me up a bit today x

Morning all! The sun is shining and it's a beautiful day. mummymckt I hope the goodbye ceremony is calm and beautiful, and you can take what you can from this horrible experience.

Hello tightwad

velvet I am glad you were seen quickly, and that you have at least a part-time nurse!

I have no plans for today, perhaps a trip to the park. I hope the weather holds, we are invited to a bbq tomorrow! Hope you all have a nice weekend.

Hello everyone, this thread is such a good idea. I have been reading lots of the individual threads (particularly MummyMcKT) but don't post too much as it seems everyone else on here is already so good at giving advice.

I was due at the end of November, MC 6 weeks ago, but still bleeding. I've been trying to stay positive but on a bit of a downer today. The nice weather has made me feel rubbish as I'm stuck in big knickers and thick jeans due to the bleeding. If my body would just go back to normal I think I could feel so much more positive, but it does seem to be taking so long.

We will be ttc again once everything goes back to normal.

Hope things are going as well as can be expected for everyone else.

MMcKT thinking of you today. Hope the service is all you want it to be.

Katyliz - I'm sure you have lots of things to share. Sometimes it helps you to talk regardless of whether you are giving advice or just having a rant. Have you seen a dr about the continued bleeding?

I'm glad you find my fat uterus amusing I did too. I think its the only part of my body he could have called big and fat without insulting me! I'm hoping it means its all the better for squeezing out babies with.

The dog is not enjoying my being out of action. I know her so well she only has to look at me and I know whether her water bowl is empty, she needs to go out or she wants a treat. DH does has always moaned that I spoil her and she should just wait for these things and that is what she is having to do atm!

Have a good day ladies.

Hey everyone, just a quickie as I'm at work :-( it's getting easier and DP got back last night instead of today which was brilliant.

Will come back later and comment properly but just wanted to say i have been thinking of you MMcKT. I hope it gives you a little peace if mind and maybe a little start on moving forward x x

hope everyones ok today xx

Velvet - glad you have the op over & done with now & were seen quickly. Good to hear they have signed you off work for another week too.

MummyMcKT - I have been thinking of you today. x

I've just read through the thread properly, hope everything has gone well today MummyMcKT.

Velvet - yes I saw the doc a couple of weeks ago, he said it doesn't matter how long it takes, the body always sorts itself out naturally in the end. I just have to be patient. Oh, and I'm glad the op went well for you.

mummymckt I hope today has gone well for you. My DS's cremation helped me, my whole family came out even though Sam was just 15.5 wks. I felt like I'd said goodbye properly.

Sam was due 14/10, feel i'm starting to 'get over' it all, he's a little angel at the back of my mind. Though I have to admit to weeping over the Alderhey Childrens Hospital advert still.

big fat uterus lol

I was due 14/10 too, QOTCW - my DP's 40th birthday. My little bean stopped growing at 7 weeks though (found out at 12 week scan so was too early to know the sex or give it a name.)

I have been feeling a lot better too, but had a bit of a blip last week as I realised I should have been having my 20 week scan.
Have now hidden the October thread, as I kept feeling the urge to click on it, just to see where I would be now, and always felt upset after. Hiding it was definitely the best move for me.
I am in the middle of my second period since my ERPC, so some of my lows may have been down to PMT.

Welcome Fliesby Sorry about your recent loss. Am glad your physical recovery going ok. Your experience of going back to hospital reminds me of how volatile we all are at this time. I had an appointment with my GP last week (she's ab fab) but they'd messed up and said I was to see someone else - thought I was coping well but that made me a quivering wreck (although it all got sorted out in the end!)

Good to hear from you again KatyL I notice the thread I started about losing our twins is now on page 2 of this section which reafirms life does indeed move on! Am probably going to post on it one last time then am thinking of losing the "Mummy" bit of my user name for now - I called our twins our Mini McKTs when I was pregnant with them and although I think I'll always feel like their mum I'd like to leave the name with them

Poor you with the big knickers and jeans I'm severely clothes restricted at the mo due to gorging on crap for a LONG time! and had to brave the heat in my only pair of jeans yest - totally melted! At least it was pad free although with no idea when my next period will come I'm also still a bit cautious. It DOES feel good when you manage to loose the sanitary back up - hang in there.

Caution to the wind this avo however and I wore my white linen trousers (only "smart" bottoms I have even though that's stretching the definition a bit).

Thankyou all for you kind thoughts re this afternoon. It's been gloriously sunny all day which I took as a positive thing (you're right Jakey about it being mood lifting). DP and I wanted it to be very simple and it was

Our funeral director has been amazing. We had the casket at home with us so we drove all of us to the crematorium - very surreal but I wanted our wee family moment. DP and I walked down the aisle with the FD - DP held the casket then handed it to me and I put it where it had to go. They closed the curtain and we stood there for a while just the two of us.

I have felt pretty good and together for the best part of the last few weeks but walking along with them today made the tears flow. Their ashes will go alongside my grandparents. Not for everyone I know but I do feel we did the right thing for us. We listened to our song on the way home too which is gave us some comfort.

I'm not religious in any way (and don't mean that to offend those of you who are) but believe that all of our losses have gone somewhere we've just yet to find and that one day we will all be together.

YRMOTB Did you get to the park? Are you lobster pink now or did you rem to be a good girl?

Velvet Glad you and your BFU have taken it in your stride that you gave us all a comedy moment Am sure your OH could manage to look after the dog AND keep up to speed with Call of Duty or maybe he's like my DP and cannae multi task (at anything lol) Must be confusing for your dog if you're home but not up to doing your usual. Weird how pets/small children pick up on things eh?

PinkC Know what you mean about ante natal threads. I'd never joined mine but used to read it daily. Didn't want to tempt fate before my scan but know it wouldn't have affected the outcome and may well join one asap if we're lucky enough to get pregnant again - the support on here has kept me going and I'm sure any future pregnancies will be pretty scary. It's only been in the last few days I've stayed clear of the AN posts.

Queenoftcwl Sam's a lovely name Am glad your family supported you and hope they're continuing to do so. Am sure your wee angel is watching over you.

Thought it was lovely when I read that you and PinkC shared a due date too. Coincidence that PinkC was also due on her DP's bday (mine too) very very small world.

Go! FordyP You sound a wee bit more chipper Glad your DPs home earlier than expected - hopefully you can enjoy some sunshine together.

Novella over!! Thinking of you all and hello to everyone I've still to catch up with. DP and I off out to an open air concert (posh!) def the weather for it but maybe not the day!!