Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 2 xxxxx

[barbie1]

Hello to everyone coming over from the previous thread and for all the new girls who will sadly be joining us...
You will not find a better bunch of girls to help you through such a hard time, we will get through this with the help of each other xxxx

You lot talk so much, I keep missing posts

Curlywurlee - bleeding is much the same - just the coffee / toffee coloured stringy stuff when I wipe and the occasional teeny clot. No pain now though.

Daisy - the first few days are the worst. My mc was 12 days ago - first few days were just numb and shock, then I had some really really bleak days full of sobbing that left me exhausted and suffering from awful headaches. Today was better, with only a few wobbles and tears, and I'm even going into the office tomorrow. All I can say is talk, cry, eat chocolate, watch trashy daytime TV - basically do whatever YOU want to do for a few days. Make no plans - just go with whatever seems right and it will get better slowly. All the people I have told who have had children, with only one exception, have had at least one mc themselves and have been amazingly understanding and helpful. Don't bottle it up.

We are playing with our new Sky+ box and new TV Not watching the scary stuff - don't think I'm up for that.

oh dear i cant stop watching it, all be through my hand which are over my eyes!!!!!!
jools hope you get the tv up and running soon , you dont know what you are missing!

I've given up with the TV I'm too scared, I'm off to bed to read with a nice hot choc

Jools I spoke with the hospital on friday and they said that my cycle start would be the day I started my MC bleeding. I had the same style goo a few days ago and pain. I thought it might be a normal ovulation stuff combined with the fact that I am still spotting. Of course that is massively optimistic I suppose , we probably won't see AF for a while

it all started the day i was raped a few months back then it all went wrong from there i started bleeding on the way to airport on my way to turkey just tried to pretend it wasnt happening i knew what it was but thought in my head untill the doc confirms it im not gonna belive it i just feel so worthless usless just want to curl up and never wake up xx x

daisy im worried about you hun, jave you got facebook or msm as we can chat on there??

Daisy I think this might be too much for you to handle alone. We'll be here as long as you need us but have you also been referred to a professional that you can talk through this with? Is your doctor giving you the support you need? This is such an awful awful series of events for you to have gone through please don't try and do it alone.

You are not worthless, you have a lovely dd who needs her mum, and we all care about you

We are all here to support each other and hopefully soon we can put this year behind us. In the meantime if you need to talk, you always find someone willing to listen

xxxx

they are both [email protected] thanks hun

how about facebook daisy? we are amonst friends so ill give my real name so you can add me, let me know if you need it...also i think curly is right, can you ask for some support/ help from the doctor?

right i found you on facebook so go ahead an add me

hi all thanks 4 everything no not got much support moved here in a ref so lost all contact with everyone got no specialist support rape crisis were contacting me to talk over the phone but they seem to have just stopped ill be ok always am have to be

daisysmummy, you're being incredibly brave, but you do need to speak to someone and not try to do this alone. None of what has happened is your fault, OK? It's absolutely not your fault. Can you call your GP and make an appointment to speak to her? Once you have some support out there things will get a lot easier and you will see that you are not to blame for any of it in any way. Will you promise to call your GP? I'm going to check back to see if you've got this post, OK? xx

daisymum how brave you are being. I agree with vm go see your gp you do need to get some support to help you thru this because none of what has happened to you is your fault in any way. I am so sad that you don't have much support in rl but we are here to chat if you find it helps. You have taken a big step in talking to us so please take the next one and get the support on board that you need hun. We are here for you as much as you need us. xxx

Hello everyone {grin]

Am I the only one not working today ? I'm supposed to be, but was so sore from my return to the gym that I can barely walk - elected to work from home and have done bugger all

Instead, Ive been nesting like crazy - just cleared out a load of junk from the loft that has been awaiting binning / recycling probably for a couple of years. It all needed doing when I was going to have to make room for the loft study to be a spare bedroom aswell, so that the spare bedroom could become a nursery. Now there is no immediate need, I get on and HAVE to do it - why ?? !!

I think today has been the best post MC day I've had so far

No more bleeding since yesterday lunchtime and I think I may have some EWCM !!! Am swilling grapefruit juice and considering pouncing on DP tonight

Hello, everyone

daisymum I echo everything mm, Villagemum and the others have said. A mc is hard enough as it is, without those awful, awful circumstances. Please try to get yourself some face-to-face support.

Jools I, too, am not working today and feeling not only an intense nesting urge, but also some long-forgotten stirrings! Had a terrible day yesterday - went into work to catch up a bit and the emergency doctor was in the next office to me. At one point, a very poorly child had been brought in and I was in floods at my PC, just listening to him whimpering Today, though, I feel quite good and have finally cleared away a load of clutter we've had lying around on the stairs for ages now. I am embarrassed to admit that, at the bottom of it all, I found DS's paddling pool from the summer and some crackers from last Christmas - that's how long it's all been there

Just logged in quickly from work and sending big HUGS to daisysmummy... please reach out and speak to your gp to start with. x

Stirrings - hmm now you mention it Sussex

Does anyone know much about Agnus Castus ? I know it is supposed to regulate hormones and is good for redressing the oestrogen / progesterone balance, especially for ladies like me who have a "cuddly" figure - just wondered if anyone had any experiences of using it when TTC and whether you should or should not continue once you know you are PG ??

Thinking of you DaisysMummy - please pop back in and let us know how you are doing b

Hello lovely ladies, daisy please do as the others have said, and speak to your GP. I'm sending lots of hugs {{{{{hugs}}}}}. Me and barbie both live about 400 miles from our respective homes, and have both received so much love and support from here, it is hard when you are away from home, but the ladies on here have helped me sooooo much, and we can help you too xxx

thanks all for ur help and supporti just feel like im in a diffrent world

daisy we are all here for you so chat away, it sounds like you need to get things out. I don't know if we are the right people to help but I promise we will do our best to offer you all the support we can hun. On top of that please contact your GP or the rape crisis again, there has to be support available to you. TBH you sound like a big hug would not go amiss so sending the best virtual hug I can................I know it doesn't take it away but do know we are here for you. xxx

hello all, what another day i have had!
I lost my mobile this morning, i convinced myself it was in the house as i had put it on charge only this morning before taking it door stairs and putting near my work bag, so after walking the dog i got ready for work and went to get my phone and it had gone.....rang it loads of times,, searched every where, dishwasher, tumble dryer everything! Gave up looking as i was late for work so i missed dh phone call he tried to call work but i was out of the store trying to sort out phone!
Anyway got home and message from mum that my phone had been found so to call it and meet the bloke, i had dropped it on the way to the park walking the dog it seems i must of picked it up and got it caught in my coat, and as it was raining didnt hear it drop!!! thankgod there are some honest people out there! i felt like a part of me was missing without my phone.....
So was i the only person brave enough to watch survivors?
I now have two whole days off now...yipppppeeeeee
So how is everyone today???

barbie hi hun, glad you found your phone, just another minor drama that none of us need, you do feel lost without it, lol at dishwasher and tumble dryer. Glad you now have some time off, it has been sounding like you need it. I know you have lots to do atm but please try and have some time to yourself. I haven't watched survivors but might watch it on catch up later, is it scary.........

hi mm i missed you! i even made the dog stand still in case he had eaten it and it rang inside him
I do intend relaxing, im going to have a nice bath with my jo malone oil, the sunday mag and total peace and quiet...tomorrow i have a fair number of things to do but wednesday i should be totally free!
It wasnt too scary more weird, but then i have such an over active imagation anything become scary...

Mmmmnnn that bath sounds so good, I think I will give survivors a look later if DH is up for watching it. Not too many more days of work for you, and even less until DH is home. I was horrified at the thought of you being alone for Christmas so now thrilled to know that DH will be back for you to spend your first married Christmas together, like I said before you are both still newlyweds.

Its only 2 weeks or so now, and we are planning to drive home on the 23rd for a few days, come back to finish packing about be out of the house for the 6th of jan in order to max rental potential....we will spend last few weeks at home with the family. I will be back for a month in the summer and will have to come to scotland again, so you havent seen the last of me yet!