Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 2 xxxxx

[barbie1]

Hello to everyone coming over from the previous thread and for all the new girls who will sadly be joining us...
You will not find a better bunch of girls to help you through such a hard time, we will get through this with the help of each other xxxx

I can't belive we are half way through this thread already, 502 posts! We are bunch of chatterboxes.

Hi everyone.

Just flying in between gym and going out for a huge roast lunch. Everything aches and my fitness is really bad at the mo, but at least I think I've earnt lunch

I haven't seen X Factor or Strictly since the first ever series, so can't comment on that !

Will catch up properly tonight but do have one question - TMI alert

• after the gym yesterday I started finding lots of coffee-coloured stringy discharge when I wiped and there is lots more this morning and a little bit of what is more obviously old blood. My abdomen is slightly swollen with mild AF type pains - is it normal to have this 12 days after MC started, and after bleeding more or less finished (or so I thought !) I'm feeling slightly nauseous every so often aswell - might do another PG test in the morning

I hope everyone is having a good day. We had barely any snow but it was arctic conditions walking to the gym..

jools, hope you are feeling OK this morning...

barbie, I have a scan at 9.25 on Thurs followed by consultant at 10.25. This is now my second full cycle since the mc so it's just a checkup, but I'm still nervous.

I think you need to ask both about your cyst - which they will definitely be checking for - and about your AF. Just tell the sonographer and the doc your spotting dates and describe the abdominal pain etc symptoms you've been having. The sonographer should be looking at your ovaries to see if there's any sign of PCOS and should even be able to tell you where you are in your cycle. Giving her the dates of your recent spotting and a rough idea of your past menstrual patterns would help her form a clearer picture. Good luck, I will be thinking of you!

mm, thanks for your kind words hun. Now that we really are about to start ttc I am nervous, to be honest, but I know that I'd be nervous even in a year's time so this time we are just going to go ahead. I think I will be OK once we begin - it's the anticipation that I can't handle. It's really good to know that you're there. How are you doing today?

bluesatinsash, hope you're relaxed and enjoying the early days of pregnancy!

daisy, hang in there - what you're feeling is normal... Sending you a ((hug)).

Waves to Mollie, Vjay, sussex, lion and everyone else!

Jools - I had further bleeding two weeks after mc. Like you it started with stringy brown blood but then had bad cramps two mornings in a row and then (sorry TMI) passed a plum sized clot that night - two weeks after a scan had confirmed there was nothing left to expel. I phoned the gynae ward to be told that "that must be the last of it" and sure enough the bleeding stopped overnight. They reassured me by saying how vascular your uterus is and although it comes out as a clot it was probably just tiny bits of retained product that sticks together on passing. The reason I'm saying all this is just in case you still have a clot to pass. If it goes on for a few more days I would ask for another scan.

It was good to hear you've been throwing yourself back into the gym. I was the same and made a positive post-mc playlist on my I-pod which reminds me of happy times chasing boys and dancing the night away in short skirts. Music really does help heal the soul.

Barbie - hope you get some answers at your scan on Thurs, will be thinking about you. I watched Lipstick Jungle last night and one of the main characters has your tattoo!

VillageMum - hope your scan gives you the a-OK so you can concentrate on ttc.

Mollie - I've been welcomed warmly by the knicker checkers, they seem just as lovely as everyone here.

Daisy - how are you doing today?

Thanks BlueSatin I wondered if it was the exercise shaking loose the last few bits ! Hadn't seen that "colour" before though ... Will keep an eye on it and hope this is the last - I keep harbouring secret hopes of being super-fertile post MC and getting a BFP for Xmas

I don't spend much time on the machines at the gym as I love love love the classes. I ache so much after 2 weeks away from exercise that I can hardly walk, but it was fantastic to be doing something positive again.

Have actually had quite a good day so far - only got close to blubbing whilst wandering round the shops looking for christmas present ideas (for me - nobody knows what to buy me). I couldn't get past the fact that I should have been almost 18 weeks on Christmas Day and would have been asking for baby bits and maternity clothes

Mollie I hope you're a bit more mobile now ?

VillageMum - I hope to join you TTC very soon and probably will be having some serious wobbles then so you will not be alone !

Hello my lovelies.... i have had a rubbish day it was meant to be my day of but was woken by my mobile at 7.58 dh bro test to say he wanted be here today to help with the decorating, decided to go back to sleep and then dh called! nice to speak with him though so didnt mind, finished the call and it was still only 8.30 so back to sleep....until another text from colleague saying she wont be in work..due to sickness, told her to call area manager to let her know to arrange cover.....back to sleep until realsied she never text back so i called her and she said she hadnt contacted work so i had to go in i rushed so much that i have had a fussy head all day, no time to eat all day and had to arrange bil to come and walk the dog.....i think they take the piss mick because im the only one without children! I would of worked for 10 days without a day off....my house looks like a natural disaster scene, the cupboards are bare and my washing pile is building up!
I hope you all had a better day than me!
Thanks vm and mollie for the hints about hospital....
mm have you caught up with the x factor?
jools good on you for hitting the gym, i too had been bought baby things for me this xmas, i should of been 6 months its something im tryiing not to dwell on though because this time next year i will be buying for my new baby and you will too...
blue i hope you stick round hun and dont disappear over to the other thread...
vjay i think half the reason we are nearly half way through the thread is me i need to get a life !
Barbie waves to everyone else xxx

Hey Barbie, thought I would say a quick hello before catching up on all the posts. Sounds like you have a crap day - how long more do you have to work in that stupid place?

I've had a pretty mixed weekend with parents in law staying. I took them shopping and we went into a kids clothes shop to look for something for their granddaughter. I was fine until I saw a cot in the corner of the shop. I ran out crying - they must think I'm a basket case. My MIL who is a real sweetheart then tried to talk to me about it, cue more tears. I could not get out of there soon enough

curleywurlee oh hun, how sad for you...sounds like you mil is a blessing, i was like that in the early days...cried at a family wedding after seeing two little girls dancing together,my mil was a help then too. i finish on the 22nd dec so i get a week at home for christmas

Phew... we really do chat a lot. Took ages to get through those posts

Just read Blue's amazing news!! I am so delighted Blue. Our very first BFP. How may weeks along. Please don't go anywhere, as we need good news around here

My MiL is great, but it's almost harder when people are being really nice, isn't it?! Anyway we are now tucked up on the couch for a nice duvet day (me and DH that is, not the parents in law )

It sounds like they really take advantage of you where you work Barbie. I can't believe how unsympathetic your boss is as well.

Hope the appointment goes well on thurs. Is this because u haven't had AF yet?

um its because they found a cyst during my first scan, which was 5cm, so big enough to cause concern, it did shrink after mc but as its two months without af i think they are just checking x

Oh Barbie I can see how that would be worrying. There is nothing worse than the unknown. They are prob just being careful though

A friend of mine had a cyst when she was pregnant. The hormones made it grow and so they were worried, but afterwards it completely shrunk to nothing.

I'll be thinking of you on thursday, and hopefully they can put your mind at rest - sorry if I was prying

nope not prying at all! tbh you girls are keeping me sane and stopping me from worrying to much, so thankyou....im sure the cyst isnt the problem, my main worry now is missing af, i wanted to be back to normal before dh came home so we could think again about ttc

hi barbie sorry to hear you've had such a rubbish day, but just think, you've only got 4 more weeks there .
curly it sounds like you have a lovely mil, but it is true, it is hard sometimes when people are so nice....we can't win can we?

How long more till he comes home? Bet you can't wait?

Hi girls,

Quick post tonight, have hardly seen DH for the last two days due to work so we are going to have some wine and cheese tonight when DD goes to bed. OMG that sounds so seventies.
barbie you must be counting the days till you finish work, they really have done you no favours the last couple of months. As for your house if it helps you should see my house after my days on, will need to catch up tomorrow. Good that BIL is helping you. Have sort of caught up with the x factor but will watch it fully tomorrow, glad Rachel went though........Alexandra to win.

Will read and catch up with everyone tomorrow. Sending hugs and waves to all you lovely ladies. xxx

Hey vj, have you warmed up yet after ur snow escapades with DS?

Yes curly I wacked the heating on straight away.
mm we have cheese and wine nights, yummy,

hi all thanks for your support is it normal to feel like dont want to go on anymore just fed up had enough shit sorry x x

mm enjoy the time with your hubby!
I have just done a sixty minute makeover on the house, 1 load of washing, mopped the floors, cleaned the bath room, emptied the dishwasher and now totally knackered!
curly he is home on the 10th dec or around that date, fingers crossed x

Big hugs MM. Hope you are getting through this sad time okay

Have a wonderful eve with DH. There's nothing better than wine and cheese - I'm glad I hang out with such a sophisticated lot on this forum

xxx

daisy yes it is normal to feel this way this is one of the reasons the thread fill so quickly as we are here to support you x

daisy what you're feeling is totally normal, i felt like not getting out of bed ever again after my first mc, but all I can tell you is that it will get easier, just take it a day at a time. It is so hard, I'm thinking of you xxxxx
barbie sit down and have a glass of wine, you deserve it xxx

I've never been associated with sophistication before

daisysmummy you sound like you need a hug honey. Since the second mc there are times I just don't want to be here. Not that I'd want to do anything crazy, I just wish I could get over things quicker than I am and I don't want to go through the sadness in the meantime

Would it help to talk through with us?

Barbie 10th of dec is still time for AF to show up (and leave ). Fingers, toes and everything crossed for you that things move on for you before then.

VJ, we are sophisticated as it gets!!

Ladies, I reckon we should have virtual wine and cheese tonite... maybe even olives