I had multiple miscarriages between 32 and 38. I had endometriosis so had a lot of treatment and fertility support but eventually decided to give up. Since we had no problem conceiving but my body just struggled to maintain a pregnancy I didn’t don’t want to go through IVF. Voluntarily putting my body through the intense hormone cycles was a risk because my ovaries were prone to overstimulation with the smallest doses of drugs.
So we planned a different future, booked a holiday of a lifetime ( my DH had always wanted to see England play a test series in the Caribbean) it took a bit of planning. Six weeks before we were due to fly out I found out I was pregnant. I didn’t hold out much hope and my GP organised a couple of scans before we flew out. The first at 6 weeks showed a pole with a heart beat. The second at 8 weeks showed an embryo, developing well with a strong heart beat. He will be 22 in a weeks time.
It wasn’t an easy pregnancy, lots of complications mostly due to my age, but we made it and haven’t looked back.
Im not suggesting that you book a holiday or that miracles always happen but miscarriage is very common. At least one in four positive pregnancy tests will fail to progress and the number is probably much higher for conceptions that don’t make it to implantation. Early pregnancy tests make it harder to deal with since in the past most early miscarriages ( under 5 wks) would not have been detectable and classed as late periods. Testing wasn’t possible until 6 weeks and it probably saved a lot of heart ache. So two miscarriages today, although devastating are probably more common than you think. Thirty years ago a lot of my late periods would probably have been positive early pregnancies. I’m sort of glad I didn’t know about them.
I was six weeks when I tested positive with my DS. I only tested because I realised I was a bit late my cycle was 27-33 days so when I realised it had been more than 35 days and my sense of smell was off the chart I sort of knew I was pregnant. With so many losses I spent most of the pregnancy expecting the worst and it wasn’t until I had a growth scan at 35 weeks and my DS actually looked like a proper baby rather than an alien that I started to bond with him.
You are obviously able to conceive, there are lots of reasons why things haven’t progressed but it doesn’t mean they won’t in the future. My gyni is as convinced that we have two super fertile cycles a year and if you look at many families there is often a pattern of children all born around the same date or six months apart. Certainly in our family my sister and I followed my mums super fertile cycles. I am one of 3 girls, 2 born in April one in October, my sister had my niece on my birthday and my DS was due on my sisters birthday. I have two cousins, sisters, whose birthdays are a day apart. My DH and his DB have birthdays a week apart. And they recently discovered that my great grandmothers birthday is 3 days before my DS. If you look for patterns in your family you may see that certain months are possibly your maternal line super cycles.