Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 3. ALL welcome!

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Sorry if I've missed anyone, MN wasn't showing me everyone who had posted xx

Ladies my cramping and bleeding has totally stopped and it's freaking me out a bit. I think just knowing everything is still in there and my body has stopped trying to get it out. Got another blood test tomorrow as my hcg levels had dropped but not by much and the doctor wanted to save me the whole week of waiting for another scan and blood test. I think she mentioned going down the road of methotrexate my hcg stays so high. Has anyone had this? X

For anybody who wants to join

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4184729-Recent-MC-New-cycles-trying-again?watched=1

@HotCupOfNo - my bleeding was very on and off during mc... sometimes i'd go all day and then start again in the evening. Hope you're okay xx

Thanks everyone- I think I’m over the worst of it thankfully. Awful experience earlier today. Things can only get better 💓

@brightspark12 they will get better. One day at a time lovely xx

Sending you hugs @Brightspark12 we’re all here for you

Sorry to hear what’s happening with you @HotCupOfNo, I hope the doctors can give you a better understanding of what’s going on soon, I can’t offer any advice on what you are seeking , sorry xx

@HotCupOfNo aww sweetheart, I don’t have any experience of that (I had surgical management and no follow up blood tests) but I hope you can get some answers tomorrow from your next blood test. I just wanted to send you a huge virtual hug xx

@HotCupOfNo I didn't have any blood tests for HCG but my bleeding stopped like this after heavy loss, but it started again a day and a half later. It was on and off earlier in the mc as well. I'm so sorry you are going through this. My mc took a long time to complete as I preferred to try and avoid intervention but in the end it completed the day before a planned ERPC. I hope it is over soon for you, physically x

It seems to have stopped now, cramps have gone and blood is less. I’m bloody terrified its gonna start up again. When I went for my scan they said they couldn’t locate the yolk sac so I assume I had already passed that? I didn’t seem to pass many clots but I wasn’t looking

Thanks everyone.

@Mellous good to know it's not just me that's stop and start, it's really not what I thought a miscarriage would 'look' like

@glowingtwig I am starting to lean that way, with methotrexate you can't start trying again for 3 months and it looks like pretty serious stuff so I may wait a week and see what happens. I've had no heavy bleeding at all, I'd say it's like the last day of your period, maybe once or twice a day I'll have a small gush of bright red blood. I passed a few tiny black clots the other day along with the tiniest bit of grey stuff which must be a bit of it.

Shall see what they say tomorrow, hopefully it won't take a million people shoving needles in me to get blood!

Hope you're ok @Brightspark12, sorry to hear that you've had a hard day. Sending lots of hugs and hope you've got a load of chocolate and a hot water bottle xxxx

@Brightspark12 sending hugs your way too, it is so draining and scary especially when you want to go to sleep and you're worried that the bleeding will get heavy again.

@HotCupOfNo that sounds very like my experience at the start. But when it got going it really did, if you know I mean, and was quite scary. I'm glad I held out for no intervention in the end. You just want to be able to see in to the future, but you can't. It's so hard.

Hi ladies.

A bit of a random post. I’ve got a copy of the baby loss guide by Zoe Clark Coates. Does anybody want it? I’ve read it, and it’s a lovely read. I just want someone to be able to get the peace and calmness that I got from this book.

I’m more than happy to post it. I do appreciate it’s difficult as we like to be anonymous on here but you can just private message me your address (no name) and I can post it. X

@Summersun001 yes please!!!

@Mellous yeah thats a good idea to start a separate thread, I’m still waiting on my first period post MC so will be joining the ttc train soon!

@Tamalama urgh that is awful, just shows she hasn't been through a MC so doesn’t understand the trauma involved for a comment like that! I just read your message and was like Yup, I hear ya, I’d do anything to have my babies back!

@HotCupOfNo good luck today. I have the worst veins and it takes them a million attempts. I'm sure you know this but drink gallons of water in the hour up to having your bloods. I mean loads of the stuff. It helps the veins pop out and really helps with blood tests

@AMS19

Send me your address lovely!! Will pop it in the post first thing :) xx

@HotCupOfNo good luck today lovely!! Hope it goes well! X

Done @Summersun001 thanks so much! Xx

Thankyou lovelies, good tip @AMS19, on my way to the hospital now so will down a load of water. Also getting a coffee which I'm going to hold against my arm so it's warm. And an almond croissant obvs because you know full tummy is important.

I'm feeling v cross with my partner today and been snapping at him all morning. I don't know why because he's been amazing! But I just look at him and want to scream. Poor bloke x

@HotCupOfNo almond croissant sounds amazing!! Honestly your hormones and emotions are all over the place. I was a right cow to my husband during it all too. He will totally understand. Got everything crossed for you and will be thinking of you xx

Couldn't get into my veins, tried for a good 45 minutes, the doctor offered to get someone else but I'd had enough, he'd got in about 5 times but couldn't get anything out so am on my way home. Feeling v deflated. They want me to go back tomorrow but I'm feeling like I've had enough and I just need to trust my body to do it's thing. I had to sit waiting in the antenatal ward as it's the weekend and it just about broke me. Had enough of hospitals and doctors now x

@HotCupOfNo I'm so sorry you've had a rubbish day. I know what you mean about wanting to avoid them but it's so important to make sure you're not at risk.
I also have difficult veins the minute they mention bloods I always ask for their blood taking specialist and if possible child or butterfly system. Dr's cannot get bloods out of me I always end up with a paediatric or blood specialist nurse!
I still have marks on my hands of a Dr trying to get a cannula into me incase of emergency surgery when I was in the trauma unit and failing badly. In the end the anaesthetist did it even the registrar didn't want to try!

@HotCupOfNo oh poor love, how disappointing. I’m so sorry they couldn’t find a vein. To echo what @Scottishskifun said, I know you’ve had enough and sitting in the antenatal ward must have been particularly hard, but it’s important to make sure you’re not at risk and you get the help you need - even if it’s reassurance that all is going as it should. Remember tomorrow is a new day, see how you feel in the morning xx

Oh @HotCupOfNo I'm sorry I know how frustrating I had that a couple of weeks back. EPU couldn't do it so ended up having to go elsewhere to get them done. So annoying!!