Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 3. ALL welcome!

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@AlbiMix that's great news. No you don't need bloods. I only had bloods because my FRER still had a line after 5 weeks

@Tamalama I'm so sorry that's awful. Losing one baby was awful I can't imagine losing 2. I had exactly the same, heartbeat at 6+6 and symptoms that got stronger and stronger. I had my MVA 9 weeks ago and have ovulated twice since. Haven't managed to fall yet but only really had one proper period so my body is still adjusting. Its a really tough time but will get easier x

Welcome and hello. Sorry you are here but I hope you find this thread helpful.

I have said it sooooo many times. Miscarriage is an absolute rollercoaster. I’m at 7 weeks post miscarriage and today I’m having a bad day. I have more good days now than bad days now. Some times it still gets all consuming. It’s ok and normal. Some days I hardly think about it and others like today, it’s all I can think about.

We will all get there. Xxx

I'm 12.5 weeks post ERCP and tbh I'm feeling good. My body's working itself out on its own and my head is in a good place. Of course I'll always be so sad that I miscarried but I get the cliches now "it wasn't meant to be". I'm now 3dpo and we dtd absolutely loads from cd5-12 but not for ttc but because we wanted to and wow what a difference. Zero pressure. Having said that according to my app testing day is Mother's Day so I think I'll avoid that. Hope you all have a lovely weekend.

Hi everyone. I’ve been lurking on here in the last 24 hours as I started bleeding a few days ago. I have a scan at the EPU booked for Monday morning.
I feel really confused at the moment and I’m hoping you can all help me a bit please. So far the bleeding has been pretty similar to a normal period. I have some cramping at times but not bad and only taken paracetamol. Tonight I went to the bathroom and while on the toilet something literally fell out of me (I had no cramping at all at this point and hadn’t for a couple of hours). Sorry TMI. Although scared I felt like I needed to check and I’m pretty certain what it was .
Is this possible with so little pain? Before this point I hadn’t really passed any clots. Is there likely to be a lot more bleeding now?
I’m feeling very upset and confused right now. I should have been 9 weeks today although I think the baby may have stopped growing a couple of weeks ago. Thanks for listening x

@jlj19 sorry you have had to join us. Everyone is different, but from these threads it's possible yes. It wasn't my experience of natural miscarriage but there are ladies on here who have miscarried without lots of pain or even lots of blood. If you had a MMC as well its more possible.
Pregnancy tissue is also a lot lighter than blood clots.
You can always call EPU, keep an eye on things and take things easy. As you will see from others it's a roller-coaster but the ladies here are a great support.

Thank you @birdbybird and @AMS19 that's good to know, I'm relieved it's become negative so quickly but also feel a bit like how was my body able to go from super strong positives pre miscarriage to nothing so quickly...makes me feel a bit sad. Onwards and upwards I guess.

@Tamalama so sorry for your loss, I totally get the impatience thing. it's hard to wait when you just want to get on with it!

@jlj19 that does sound maybe like you could have passed the sac, mine also literally fell out of me with no warning, I was just at my laptop and suddenly felt something had fallen out, ran to the bathroom and there was something light and soft with a kind of fibrous consistency (so sorry for being graphic). It didn't actually hurt when it came out, but I had been having strong cramps the day before and then afterwards they continued for a couple of days. See what happens over the weekend and then you can get more clarity at your scan on Monday. Sending hugs ❤️

@Scottishskifun thanks for the reply. It was definitely lighter which made me think it was the sac. I will see how things go over the next few days.

@AlbiMix thanks. Yes it was definitely sort of light and fibrous which made me think it was the sac. I have had some cramping earlier today which reminded me of very early labour but nothing since.
I guess I’ve just been expecting a lot more pain and blood so I’m wondering if it’s going to get worse. Also I had a PPH after I had my little girl where I lost almost 2 litres so I’ve been really worried I’m going to lose a lot of blood with this.
Anyway, it really helps posting on here so thank you

@jlj19 sounds like the sac. Pregnancy tissue is more grey like perhaps with the look of veins while clots darker like kidney colour. Sorry for being graphic xxx

@AlbiMix a negative FRER is enough - that's hcg less than 6! It varies area to area but in my area they wont blood test you for hcg lowering

@jlj19 I also had cramping which felt contraction-like after I passed the sac (I don't know for sure as I haven't given birth but they felt like contractions, different that period-like cramps). Sounds like you may be over the worst of it, I'm crossing my fingers for you.

Thanks @TheDaydreamBelievers I spoke to a GP this evening and she confirmed no bloods necessary. I'm excited I can now try using opks which is new to me 😊

Hi ladies wondering if I can join... I found out today that I have had a missed misscarriage. I was 10 weeks and had bleeding on and off and had a private scan at 8 weeks where I saw heartbeat but the baby was measuring 6 weeks. I thought it odd but I wasn’t 100% on my dates and the sonographer said I may have ovulated late. I continued having bleeding on and off about once a week.
Yesterday morning I had really bad cramps in my sides and bleeding which subsided but more cramps today- I booked in for an emergency private scan this evening and just before I left I went to the toilet and blood was dripping out of me. I just knew that was it. Went to the scan and was confirmed that my baby had grown up to 7 weeks then stopped. They said they found the embryo but no heart beat and no yolk sac. I have to go to the EPU on Monday which I’m not looking forward to. Cramps and bleeding haven’t worsened so far. I can’t explain why or maybe just because of the frequent bleeding but I just knew I would never have this baby... I think when I measured 2 weeks behind it kind of cemented it for me. I’m scared now that This is going to drag on, I just want it over with. Sending massive love to everyone xx

jlj19 sorry this is happening to you and all the ladies here. I had the same experience, no pain beforehand just light bleeding. I gently rolled over in bed and felt something come out. I was wearing a pad anyway and there the sac was on the pad (sorry for being graphic) it was a huge shock. I know everyone feels differently, and this is only my personal experience, but in time I found comfort in there being no pain and that it was peaceful. I bled like a heavy clotty period after for around 4 days then spotted for around 5 days until it all stopped. Take care.

@Brightspark12 im really sorry you've had to join. It's really tough. I would definitely take a look at the information on the miscarriage associate website on the various options of miscarriage "management". On here between us we've tried them all so can answer any questions you may have!

@TheDaydreamBelievers I was thinking about it the other day. How is your cycle? Any sign of ovulation/period?

@AMS19 nope and nope! I've agreed with the specialist midwife to hold off TTC for 3 weeks then they can blood test me for APS. So back to protected sex for us for a few weeks! Kinda avoiding MN cause I felt it was making me feel down and obsessive, but not avoiding it completely

@AMS19 thank you so much. Luckily mumsnet has been there for me every step of the way conception- pregnancy and now this. I’ve been having a look on the MA website- did anyone here opt for surgical management? Are they still doing it due to COVID x

@Brightspark12 I'm sorry you're going through this. I had surgical management last Wednesday after having a scan last Monday to discover I'd had a missed miscarriage with twins. I didn't want to wait to miscarry naturally, especially as they were both at 10 weeks. The procedure was quick, from being put under to waking up in recovery it was 40 mins and the actual process took about 15-20 mins. I felt ok afterwards, a bit of heavy bleeding initially but it was ok. I've had light bleeding since last Wednesday, enough to wear a pantyliner throughout the day but it's a rusty brown colour and it's light and no cramping. I just want the pregnancy hormones to be out of my system now and for my period to arrive.

@Brightspark12 so sorry you’ve had to join this thread. Knowing in your heart something isn’t right but having to go through weeks of not knowing for sure is awful. Like you, my baby measured behind but they assured me not to worry as there was a heartbeat. I have had two missed miscarriages (one in 2018, one in January) and had surgical management both times. I found it the best option for me both physically and emotionally. It was very quick with minimal pain afterwards and bleeding tailed off quite quickly. If you do decide on that option, lots of us here have been through it and can offer you advice x

@TheDaydreamBelievers bugger! Sorry to tag and drag you back here. I've stopped following post pill now, I didn't need the pressure of TTC. I'm trying to focus on my body getting to normal. I've booked fertility acupuncture for Monday was a specialist who trained and worked for years at the Zika West clinic. It is bloody expensive but I'm hoping she might give me some other tips on regulating my hormones. I am still having the odd bit of spotting from he last period, 2 weeks today since I started spotting with that one. I have absolutely everything crossed for you. I'm sorry you're now having to stop but hopefully in the long run it will be beneficial

@brightspark12 my hospital was offering it and I was booked in for surgery twice but twice it got cancelled cause of covid. So ended up having a MVA instead because that doesn't require a GA. I think a few hospitals are opting for MVAs given the covid situation xx

Hey @Brightspark12 I remember we spoke on the other thread about our scan dates and measuring behind I’m so sorry that this has happened to you I’ve been thinking about you since we spoke wondering and hoping things would work out better for you. I think different hospitals are offering different procedures at the moment but like someone said have a read over to see what options there are and have a chat with them. I waited a week to see if anything happened after the news of no heartbeat at our scan but nothing happened at all and I couldn’t sit waiting so ended up going for medical management on Monday just gone as they were avoiding surgical where possible. I would have preferred surgical to just get it over with as I’m still Bleeding and having bad cramps (especially the last 2 days) and each twinge or toilet visit feels like a constant reminder of what’s happening and it’s taking it’s toll emotionally

Sending love and hugs to you and keep us posted and if you wanna chat you are in the right place , the ladies here have been great xx

@Ralala don’t worry about being graphic, it really helps to know. That is what it was like so I guess it was. Thank you.

@AlbiMix thank you for sharing with me.

@Runkle sounds fairly similar. Just couldn’t believe there wasn’t more pain. It wasn’t what I was expecting. Thank you for sharing this with me.

Really trying to hold things together today for my children as I am looking after them most of the day on my own. I just feel so empty.
I really appreciate everyone’s messages and support. I am so sorry for everyone else that has gone/is going through this.

@Tamalama @SuzieDeLaTour so sorry you’ve had to go through this guys.. thanks though, I would really rather get it over with so I can start to move on so I hope they give me the MVA Option.

@Blondiebrownie6 I remember you, so sorry you are going through this too. I think I was trying to convince myself that I could be 2 weeks out but I knew in my heart something wasn’t right. They said my baby stopped growing at 7 weeks so 6 days after I had my scan showing heartbeat. I’m so grateful for you supportive ladies xx

@jlj19 sorry you are going through this 😞 I know how you feel when you say you feel empty it’s a strange feeling isn’t it xx

@AlbiMix so pleased for you about the negative test, i should imagine that's enough and you won't need a blood test! Xxx

Just wondering if any of the ladies who are now ttc after mc would like to set up another thread, or a chat / group somewhere? I’m conscious of triggering anybody currently going through their mc :( with ttc talk xx