Periods after medical miscarriage

[Wils85]

Hi, I think I'm about to go insane! I underwent a medical miscarriage after discovering a MMC on 08th July, I was 9 weeks by my dates but the sac was around 7 weeks. I eventually miscarried on the 17th July and got a negative PG test on 09th August.

My period showed its head on the evening of 16th August but literally for 24hrs!! I have had nothing since until yesterday evening when I had some brown spotting and again today some pinky brown spotting on wiping!

I'm so confused as to what my body is doing and I feel so out of control. I understood the first period after a miscarriage would be normal flow or heavier, but this has been practically none existent. Has anyone else had a similar experience? This MC was my second PG, the first ended in TFMR back in November at 15 weeks 😥 I just want to know when we can TTC again as I am 35 at Christmas and getting panicky about getting older!!

Any words of wisdom ladies? It's really starting to get to me xx

Hi @Wils85 I'm glad you're feeling okay about AF this month it's such a rollercoaster of emotions TTC and alot of waiting around..

I've started trying to track my ovulation using tests and tried the clear blue electronic one on Saturday so we could be on the same day @StEmilion. It came up with the static smiley face straight away but my basal temp app said I wasn't supposed to ovulate until Wednesday so now I'm confused as this is the first time I've used one of these tests.

I tested with strips Sunday Monday Tuesday, and this morning and they were all negative so feel like maybe the clear blue was right? Has anyone had any experiences with these? We DTD Thurs, Fri, Sat, Sun, Mon so hoping we could have caught it. My temp hasnt fully risen yet though so my app won't 100% confirm ovulation did happen its all so confusing. I did have slight ovulation pain on Saturday but nothing on Sunday so I'm hoping it all matches up.

Does anyone have any recommendations with kits to use or time of day etc i feel like there's so much to TTC that I was blissfully unaware of before. I just want to make sure I'm doing everything I can.

@Wils85 sorry you got af ☹️ I'm with you on the opks and smep...but at the same time trying not to think about it!

Im also trying to view every month that passes as meaning more savings for potential private treatment (or even better- maternity leave!) Fingers crossed for us this month!

Glad you had a good birthday!xx

@Nellie5115 I know how you feel, it's all a bit confusing to me. I've stopped temping now but really only because the battery died and I haven't bothered to get a new one. Before that I was doing it when I first woke up in the morning. I've seen charts online that have been all over the place when conception has happened and if you had peak surge then I'm sure you're in with a chance 🤞 I'm only using Amazon cheap opks and testing first thing and again in the evening. I also DTD every day Friday-Monday, didn't last night but going to try tonight just in case. Fingers crossed for us this month xx

@Nellie5115 I never bothered with temp checking I only used the clearblue, they have a section on thier website that tells you when you should test, I found it quite accurate, I was normally a day or 2 after it.

@Wils85 sorry AF arrived but as you say another month closer to the specialist.

Fingers crossed for you all, 2020 was pants hopefully 2021 is a better year for most

Hi ladies, how are you all keeping? Coping with lockdown? I don't know about you, but this time round feels so much scarier than the first, the figures seem much worse. I know the figures for more positives will be higher as we are testing more but the fatalities just scares me.

Whilst I'm here, I just wanted to throw something out here and take your views, it's a bit TMI, so apologies in advance!

I'm CD8 today, last night I got a fair amount of EWCM when wiping. I've NEVER been an EWCM person. And then again just now more. Do you think my body could have turned a corner?!

I'd did a PG test this morning. Just to check. I know I'm crazy, but my period was only one day of full flow and the rest spotting. It was -ive.

I did an OPK as well and that was negative, though there was a hint of a line.

The only change I've made is starting to take vitamin e supplements, but I started them mid cycle last month.

Still not heard from the fertility clinic about an appir. I never know if it's 8-10 weeks to hear fr them or 8-10 weeks to your appointment 🤔

Anywho, throw your thoughts at me ladies. Sending lots of love xxx

@wils85 maybe wait a few days and do a test again just to be sure. I noticed a discharge prior to ovulation so could be the vitamins doing thier thing? Sounds like a good sign anyway as its quite common.

I have an emergency colonoscopy on Saturday morning, truly terrified

Hi @Wils85 I've tracked mine for a bit previously and definately noticed a difference it sounds like potentially you are coming into your fertile period. I normally have that consistency for a number of days. Keep tracking your OPKs hopefully you see that dark line soon.

I'm finding this lockdown tougher as well whilst I'm lucky to work from home I think I'm finding it hard as I can't go for a walk in the evenings etc because it's so dark. The last lockdown was when we had our miscarriage so I think it might be bringing back some trapped feelings from that as well.

@StEmilion how are you getting on? The second week of this 2 week wait has been tough for me. I haven't tested yet but this afternoon I've got a dull ache and just noticed I have a pinkish discharge. I'm now freaking out wondering if I'm going to come on my period early. I'm technically not due on until Monday but I've never had this before.

Evening ladies

I'm also feeling quite down with this lockdown. Just want to be able to do things and see my friends. But then I feel selfish because I'm lucky enough to have a job and be able to work from home! I keep thinking how nice it would be to have a holiday to look forward to but definitely not going to book anything right now!

@Wils85 ewcm must be a good sign so I'd say keep doing opks for the next few days. And DTD!

@Nellie5115 fingers crossed it's implantation and not af 🤞 I'm trying to not think about it but it's sooo hard! My boobs have been more sore than usual and I feel a bit wet down there (sorry tmi) which I don't usually get but I have to keep telling myself this doesn't mean anything as I don't want to get my hopes up. Boobs are starting to feel less painful now anyway so I guess that means af is on the way. My cycles are generally 25-29 days, I'm expecting to get af at the weekend or Monday. Aaaargh why can't it be easier?

@Cornflake24 good luck for Saturday. I know the bowel prep is pretty unpleasant and not being allowed to eat is going to be tough. Can you get some nice chocolate and bubble bath for after the procedure.

Have a nice evening everyone , I'm just waiting for grand designs to come on 😆xxx

Hi ladies, thank you for your responses, it's always good to touch base with you ladies.

@Cornflake24 I'm sorry you're having to go through that my love. Hopefully it will bring some answers for you. I would be terrified too. A treat is definitely required afterwards my love xxx

This lockdown is the pits isn't it? I had a wobble yesterday about it. I think I've been in a TTC/miscarriage bubble and the reason I've felt sad is that. Yesterday covid just hit me like a tonne of bricks. There doesn't seem to be any light at the end of the tunnel at the moment.

I'm with you @stemilion, I feel guilty for feeling sad about it. I think we are entitled to, no matter how good we have it, it's a challenging time for us all. More self care required me thinks. I always forget to find the time 🤷‍♀️

@Nellie5115 I'm with @StEmilion keeping all my appendages crossed that it's implantation bleeding 🤞🏻🤞🏻

Wishing you both luck in the TWW. I'll be there before long I expect.

Just settled to watch the final episode of The Pembrokeshire Murders. Have a lovely evening ladies. Sending love xxx

@Wils85 same, I feel like I've been in a pregnancy-miscarriage-ttc fog since April and didn't have the head space for anything else until recently. I thought things would get back to normal quickly now that theres a vaccine but now seems like we've got a long way to go.

I'll give the Pembrokeshire murders a go, I need a new series to get into xxx

Morning ladies looks like it's all over for me this month. I've gone back and forth convincing myself that I'm not pregnant and pregnant all week. I really thought I was after the pink spotting 4 days ago and weird cramps. When my temperature started dropping yesterday I knew this was it. Urghhhhhh this is such an exhausting journey.

I feel like I've been quite unhealthy in terms of food and excersise since my MC so I think I'm going to start excersising again to give me some sort of focus for the next month when we try again. I just feel so empty at the moment. I think I'm putting extra pressure on myself as we were supposed to get married in Aug 2020. We've now postponed until June 2022 (ideally we wanted and was supposed to be married by now grrr) but every month that passes is another month less that we have to try. I feel like we will have to stop at some point or I wouldnt have enough time between a birth and the wedding. It makes me so angry as we wouldn't have had this extra worry now if 2020 had happened :(.

I just keep trying to tell myself my body has done it once it can do it again...

How are you getting on @StEmilion I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you.

@Cornflake24 how did your appointment go this weekend? Were they able to give you any answers or do you need to wait?

@Nellie5115 sounds like you are having a hard time just now, and I'm so sorry covid ruined your wedding for 2020 I'm sure it will be worth it though when it happens, if a baby happens before or after you will make it work haha.

I had been on a stupid restricted diet and fasting for 17 hours for it and then they called to cancel it because they had just realised I was pregnant. So I basically now have to wait until after I give birth unless my symptoms change again. So just need to worry for a bit longer

@Nellie5115 sorry to hear it hasn't happened this month. TTC can be such a crap time. Also sorry to hear about your wedding being postponed. I know how hard it is to not be pregnant when you're desperate to be but maybe having the wedding to focus on will help take your mind off TTC - which may be a good thing.

I'm pretty sure I'll come on tomorrow as my breast tenderness has almost disappeared. Feeling really sad about it but trying to think positively like you- it's happened before so it can happen again! I've decided to try and be healthier too, I eat well but usually have 2 coffees a day and sometimes a glass of wine in the evening so will try and cut out the coffee and wine. I could definitely do more exercise too.

@Cornflake24 sorry to hear your appointment was cancelled, hoping your symptoms ease up soon

@StEmilion thanks just praying it's not cancer, can't belive they won't do anything, quite a scary time

@Cornflake24 I think I'm just in my angry stage. Angry that anyone has to go through all this crap lol.

I'm so sorry that they cancelled that especially after having to fast, that's so frustrating. Are there any other tests that they can do that are safe while you are pregnant? Blood tests etc? Maybe try your doctor again.

@StEmilion I have such sore boobs! That's whats so annoying as I have all the symptoms. Knowing you ladies are going through the same and understand does really help though. And knowing there is hope with @Cornflake24 and seeing your journeys unfold.

How are you getting on @smarty4?

Does anyone else track temperature as well? I always have even before trying as I used it as contraception before but now it just causes me more stress and anxiety but feel like I can't stop as the app tells me when my windows are coming up.

@Nellie5115 sadly not just need to wait. I'm still waiting on my 12 week scan to ensure everything is OK, to be honest it's been good at taking my mind off MCs.

I really hope all you girls get your good news story soon, I belive everything happens for a reason but its bloody hard when you see all the hurt in this world, constantly tell myself soo many other people are worse off.

A girl i went to school with has terminal cancer she has two beautiful girls under 6 and has been told she has 2 years to live if she continues on chemo, so far in the last year she's had brain surgery, a year of radiotherapy and due to covid is administering her own chemo at home. Anytime I feel sorry for myself I think of her and think it could be soo much worse, helps me take a step back

Hi ladies, I'm a bit flat tbh. Ttc, lock down, work stress and just thinking when will it happen.

Sorry @Cornflake24 they cancelled your appt that must be incredibly frustrating.

@StEmilion and @Nellie5115 do either of you feel we are just on a hamster wheel and you want to get off but know you need to keep going. I'm sorry about your wedding as well. It's hard when you had a plan / path you were following and then it gets diverted (or just road blocked in this case).

Today is my non working day so going to try and run errands (food shopping) then a walk.

Today is apparently the 'bluest' day of the year so it can only get better right?!

@smarty4 that's such a good way to put it I know exactly what you mean. The journey is filled with all sorts of pain, hurt, confusion and you just want to go back to simpler times when you wernt trying to conceive.. But if you don't put yourself through all of this you're never going to get the goal that you so desperately want. They never teach you it can be this complicated.

I'm sorry to hear you've been feeling so flat but completely understand. If you ever need to chat, vent, scream we are all here with you.

I want to be married more than anything but the actual wedding part I'm not to fussed about now. I'm just so scared we won't conceive before June as the thought of stopping TTC so I won't be pregnant for our wedding fills me with dread as all I can hear is the clock ticking. I guess if it doesn't happen we will have to make some difficult decisions...

I started the couch to 5k this morning to try and give me a different goal to focus on and give my brain less time to think being stuck in the house.

Has anyone listened to the podcast 'the worst girl gang ever'? I've found that has given me some comfort at times.

Xx

Morning everyone

@Nellie5115 @smarty4 I feel pretty flat too. The not knowing if it'll happen is awful, and what if it never happens? Will I feel sad for the rest of my life? Then I feel bad for being so ungrateful for all the good things in my life.

@Cornflake24 have you spoken to your gp again? Is there anything else they can do? What a worry.

Update from me- I'm on cd29 and no af which is unusual for me. I got new batteries for my bbt thermometer, tested this morning and it was high. But the breast pain has more or less gone which means af is about to come and I'm getting on/off period pain. I'm wondering whether I should do a test but don't think I can face the disappointment of seeing a bfn and I think if I buy one then af will come straight away. I'm overthinking it 😫

@StEmilion do the test, you will just keep thinking about it otherwise.

They have done all the tests then safely can, just need to wait, im not ranked as high risk based on my age which is why they will wait, got a follow up with the consultant though so we will see

Hi all, new here. After a bit of advice, I’m on my 4th period since my MC and it’s still so heavy. I thought it was only meant to be like this for a couple after 😩

Hi 🙋‍♀️ @Lildav
Sorry to hear about your loss, how far along were you? I had the opposite- periods have been lighter since my mmc and erpc- so I'm afraid I don't have any words of wisdom. Are you ttc again?

@Cornflake24 you're right, it's all I'm thinking about but I don't want to test and get another bfn. If I don't come on tomorrow I'll buy a test 😬

I went for 12 week scan and was no heart beat. They said i measured 11 weeks
Yes TTC again, but feel like have lost heart a bit
Thanks for your reply

@Wils85 I'm wondering if you can help...

The friend I convinced myself was pregnant is indeed pregnant, we found out yesterday when they had to give the heartbreaking news that they'd just had their 12 week scan but have been advised that the baby's brain hasn't developed properly and that the baby also has heart problems. Whilst we've been through the miscarriage they are now faced with the prospect of TFMR. Is there anything I can do/say or anything I shouldn't do/say?

We've been more distant from them since the miscarriage with covid etc but it makes sense now as they would have just found out they were pregnant when we told them they were losing our baby.

I just want to make sure we are there for them. X

Hi lovely @Nellie5115 I am so sorry to hear about your friend 😥 it breaks my heart to hear of someone else having to make that choice. It's lovely that you want to make sure you say and do the right thing ♥️

My advice would be to just be to tell them that you are there for them first and foremost, then let them come to you, checking in on them periodically. I didn't want to be smothered, but I was grateful for people popping up on text and checking in, being clear they didn't expect a response but that we were in their thoughts.

What you do or say after depends on how they process the loss. For me, and this is a little contraversial, whilst I grieve the loss of my pregnancies, I don't consider that any future pregnancy (🤞🏻) to be my second or third child, I don't use the term rainbow baby. It just doesn't sit with me. So you will be very much lead by them in that regard. If they consider this their first baby, and when they are ready, acknowledge the baby and their loss. The one thing I've learned is that most people don't want others to forget about the child they lost and they consider them still very much a part of their family, even after having another child.

I really hope that helps Xxx

So sorry I haven't been on ladies, I haven't received any notifications!! It does that periodically which is annoying!!

@Nellie5115 so sorry to hear AF arrived. I bloody (no pun intended!) hate this journey we are on. I'm so sorry about your wedding too, but @Cornflake24 is right, when it happens it will be so magical, baby, no baby or baby on the way. Let's face it, with the right dress pregnant brides are beautiful. I know it doesn't make it any easier for you and I appreciate why you feel so angry. Anger is definitely the pervading emotion through all of this. And no, they don't blooming tell you any of this, you are told that you shouldn't have sex as you will get pregnant. It's wrong and that makes me angry and it makes you complacent.

@cornflake24 I'm so sorry they cancelled your appointment and you are back waiting. I can't imagine what your emotions are doing to you right now. I would try (and I know it's easy for me to say) and take comfort in them not doing a rush job. If they were massively concerned I think they would rushing things through. I'm like you, I try and consider those worse off to bring me back to the ground. I'm taking little wins at the moment, like the EWCM and a positive OPK. Shows my body is still doing something right, even if potentially not everything. Sending you so much love 😘

@Lildav welcome 👋🏻 I'm so very sorry for your loss. You ar welcome here to ask questions, vent, shout, scream and enjoy the periodical light banter! It hunk we are a bloody good bunch and Im so grateful to these ladies for their support following my MMC.

That said, I can't help with your query I'm afraid, I'm with @stEmilion mine have been light and shorter. It might just take a little longer for your body to settle or it light just be, dare I use the phrase, your "new normal".

Have a good day ladies. Speak soon xxx