Periods after medical miscarriage

[Wils85]

Hi, I think I'm about to go insane! I underwent a medical miscarriage after discovering a MMC on 08th July, I was 9 weeks by my dates but the sac was around 7 weeks. I eventually miscarried on the 17th July and got a negative PG test on 09th August.

My period showed its head on the evening of 16th August but literally for 24hrs!! I have had nothing since until yesterday evening when I had some brown spotting and again today some pinky brown spotting on wiping!

I'm so confused as to what my body is doing and I feel so out of control. I understood the first period after a miscarriage would be normal flow or heavier, but this has been practically none existent. Has anyone else had a similar experience? This MC was my second PG, the first ended in TFMR back in November at 15 weeks 😥 I just want to know when we can TTC again as I am 35 at Christmas and getting panicky about getting older!!

Any words of wisdom ladies? It's really starting to get to me xx

@smarty4 makes sense hopefully can help you out, id really recommend talking to a therapist, I got one through miscarriage association and it was a massive help for me

Thanks @Cornflake24 I may look into that. It's good to know you found it helpful.

When I was ttc in the summer I spoke with a GP as I was signed off work at the time and they promptly told me I shouldn't even be ttc right now bc I was signed off work. GP didn't quite get It was a culmination of things stress of ttc, work stress and arthritis flaring as was in pain daily. So I hope I have a nicer gp this time

@smarty4 fingers crossed, I have PFPS in my knees and one GP told me I should consider TTC as pregnancy could make it worse, then another told me it could get worse or quite often these things vanish in pregnancy and then come back after so who knows haha

But I'd 100% recommend the therapist, i had 4 or 5 sessions and felt like a new person, NHS will likely be ages but loads of charities offer them on a donation if you can afford it basis

Aw I'm sorry it's horrid when your in pain daily. I had my son 4 years ago and my arthritis went into remission. It came back with a vengeance post birth though, but those 9 months were a nice relief!
I will look up some counselors, thank you

Hi ladies 👋🏻

Thank for your messages. I'm feeling ok. Obviously this time last week I was in a state, but I've been trying to convince myself it was just a late period (rightly or wrongly 🤷‍♀️), which it was really. If I hadn't've tested I would never have known and it is helping me to think that way.

Thanks @StEmilion that's reassuring that you've read it in a book. Forgot to get some from Morrisons last night (think I was in a bit of a daze, forgot tomato puree too 🤣) so just ordered some from Amazon 👍🏻

I think @Cornflake24 is right, 12 months if you're under 35 and 6months if your over for the GP to do anything. I remember seeing the consultant in January after the TFMR and she said if we hadn't fallen PG in 12months to be referred back. But it certainly can't hurt for you to go and talk it out with someone with medical knowledge. In terms of questions to ask, I'm not sure really, kind of depends on your personal circumstances and health conditions. They will probably know what to advise based on your records. I know that's not much help, but just talk out your concerns with them and see what they say. Don't be upset if they do put you off in line with the timescales we have mentioned though. I was expecting them to do the same with me tbh and that's after 3 losses. Keep us posted with how you get on ❤️

Right, I best get my ass out of bed and switch on the laptop. Don't get me wrong WFH has its bonuses, but I'm bored of it now!!

Have a good day ladies. Speak soon xxx

🤦‍♀️ moment. I replied after reading page 6 but none of the messages on page 7. Sorry ladies! That will teach me to reply first thing in the morning!

So sorry your struggling with the pain @smarty4 I can't imagine what that must be like. You do right going to the GP to talk it through. It really is a lottery with them though isn't it? Some are lovely and show sympathy and empathy. Others just want to get the job done and don't actually listen to what you're saying. Fingers crossed you get a better one this time around. It's very easy for them to say that you should reconsider TTC when you're off work but you know yourself best and it might be more stressful for you not to TTC if that makes sense?

I'm with @Cornflake24 therapy is a godsend. I'm lucky enough to work for an amazing company who have a real focus on mental health. I've been seeing a therapist since January and it's been a massive help with what we've been through this last 12/13 months. If you can access it, either via the NHS (but I expect long wait times) or via a charity, I'd recommend it for sure. Xxxx

Hi ladies,

Having a bit of a bad day today and while its not MC related I'm not sure who else to talk to until I know more.

Iv had some blood in my stools for a little while but I know I have a humanoids from my last pregnancy but it was getting worse so GP sent some samples away and left me a message today saying iv been urgently referred to gastroenterology and has set up a call tomorrow to talk to me.

Obviously urgent referrals during covid arent good things and im terrified not because something might be wrong but more that it affects my pregnancy im just really worried as there is so much they can't do during pregnancy without risking harm.

Google hasn't been my friend and hopefully I know a little more tomorrow but I'm sitting it and just wanted to tell someone, only my husband knows at the moment

@Cornflake24 beautiful girl, we are here for anything and everything, you know that 😘

I cannot imagine how you are feeling, try your hardest to stay calm, or at least as calm as possible, for you and baby. I know it's easy for me to say that.

What time is the call tomorrow?

Do your best to stay away from Google as your mind will run away with you (even more than it already will be) and you will have diagnosed yourself with all sorts without fully understanding the reason for the referral. I know how difficult it is not to go online and self diagnose, so I fully expect you will still do it. But try not to.

I'm here all evening if you want to chat and keep your brain busy. If not, try and do your best to relax until that call tomorrow. I'm sure Hubby will look after you xxx

@Wils85 call in tomorrow afternoon some time after 2.30, I not even worried about whats wrong just worried about baby, im over 2020! What a shit year its been haha.

Husband has been looking after me hes making me dinner just now before he walks dog so I can get some chill time

@Cornflake24 I'm sure baby will be just fine, they won't do anything that would harm baby without talking everything through with you first. It's your body, you call the shots and do what's best for you 😘

2020 has been MEGA shit!!

Glad hubby is looking after you chick. Get binge watching OTH 👍🏻❤️

Thanks, hopefully get a bit more information tomorrow!

Keep us posted xxx

Aw @Cornflake24 what another worry. Easier said than done but try to stay calm as you only worrying yourself twice about baby and what can / can't be done etc and know we're be thinking of you. Gentle hugs for your call today

Firstly sorry for using the word stool.

So I spoke to the doctor and she couldn't really tell me much.
She confirmed they did two tests one to confirm the presence of blood inside the stool and one to confirm inflammation, both came back as elevated. She said all this rules out is a tear as the blood is somewhere inside when the stool is being formed its not bleeding as its passing. She said I will get a letter about testing because I'm pregnant I cant have a CT scan so will likley be a camera however you normally get a sedative which I may not be allowed. She said she can't rule out cancer and the inflammation test often points to an illness like crones or something similar which would increase the risk of my pregnancy.

Basically just a waiting game now until I get my appointment

Oh my lovely @Cornflake24 ❤️ whilst you appear to have more information it doesn't seem any clearer 😔

Try to stay as calm as possible until you can have the tests done. Again, I know that's easy for me to say. I don't have many words of comfort for you, just know that we are here and that my thoughts are with you and I'm sending so much love your way. Life can be so cruel and such a rollercoaster Xxx

Just wanted to message and say hope everyone is managing today ok. There were times I found it a bit hard (as we would have been announcing in December and I had thoughts as to how this Christmas would be) but it was ok!

Hi there @smarty4 sorry, I missed your message. Christmas is such a difficult time, especially when you had plans to announce. I hope.youve found a little joy and peace over the last few days, though I know how hard it can be. Sending you all lots of love xxx

Hi ladies it seems I stopped getting all the notifications from this thread so have just caught up.

@Cornflake24 I've just read your news I'm so sorry you're having to deal with more stress and worry this year. I hope you get some more answers soon, sending you lots of love.

@Wils85 sending you lots of love after your hopes were dashed. This really is such a cruel rollercoaster journey that we're all on.

@smarty4 I hope you're doing okay as with you I am very up and down. I haven't really had any aftercare from my GP or anyone which I was surprised about. It seems once the physical part is over no one medically seems to care or offer support. Im lucky that I have access to private therapy through work so was able to access that the week after the miscarriage. It doesn't work for everyone but I have found it useful to understand how my brain is thinking and how that can affect me.

How is everyone getting on? I've had my first period now and whilst we didn't fully try in between I was still disappointed that it didn't happen straight away. I think if anything has come from this miscarriage is now me and my partner have both realised how much we want it. It was a bit of a shock the first time as it happened straight away.

I found Xmas day okay but I've found since Xmas day my anxieties seem to be getting worse. It feels like there were so many pregnancy annoucments. I find myself analysing if people are drinking etc. One of my best friends I know has been trying for a very long time and I've convinced myself they're pregnant. I'd be so happy for them but the thought of them telling me especially face to face fills me with dread. I don't know why as they so deserve it. I just can't face being around them just incase and it makes me feel like such an awful person. :(

I can't wait for a new year to start and have some sort of new chapter.

Xx

@Nellie5115 I don't think it makes you an awful Person, you are human, and I've felt the same in dreading any pregnancy announcements and feeling so bitter / angry at it all. I even struggle seeing my SIL with her 5 month old (mainly bc there's so many photos sent in the WhatsApp family group) but it makes me feel so upset bc I want what they have. It doesn't help with ppl saying 'it'll happen' bc frankly they don't know that.

Trying to focus on small positives and steps I can take going into a new year. But equally understand the disappointment at having your period, I literally broke down yesterday as took a early test (due AF in 3 days) but I'm due a X-ray today so wanted to check and it was negative.

So sorry there's more worry for you @Cornflake24.

Hi all,

Xmas is a hard time no doubt about it.
Iv got an appointment with a specialist on the 13th so hopefully have some answers soon

Morning all

Sorry I've been quiet, I stopped getting notifications again 🤷‍♀️

@Cornflake24 sorry you've got another thing to worry about. If it helps, a close friend of mine has colitis (I know that might not be relevant to you) and has to have a colonoscopy every few years- she chooses not to have the sedation and says it's not that bad. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

@Nellie5115 @smarty4 I feel your pain. There is no aftercare after the procedure has finished and you get a negative test. And it's like physical pain when someone close to you announces a pregnancy. This is the first month for me when I haven't cried and felt desolate when AF arrived, and I was expecting to be a mess as my due date is now.

@Wils85 whats the next step for you? Do you have to wait for blood tests or something?

Update from me- AF on 22nd which was 2 days late so I'd got my hopes up. Period was lighter again so that's made me worry. I'm now CD11 and not going to DTD until I get a positive opk- we've tried every day and SMEP and that's not working so thought we might as well try something different! Got a doctor appointment on Monday.

Going to say good riddance to 2020 and let's hope 2021 is the year for all of us xxx

Hi ladies, Happy New Year - not sure what that means for 2021, given the absolute shit show of 2020, but I really hope it brings us all the joy and peace we deserve.

Feeling that way about PG announcements makes us human i think. Each and every one of our feelings through this process is valid, whether your loss happened yesterday, last week, last month or last year. The journey is so very personal and unique so it doesn't matter, whether we understand how we are feeling and why, and even less so if other people don't understand, they aren't on our journey. We have each other to relate to, and for me that has been so very valuable and i thank you all xxx

I totally get your obsession @Nellie5115. My obsession is checking the age of celebrities when they announce their pregnancy. For the most part, they have all been older than me, so it brings me some comfort. As i've mentioned before my age is a massive hang-up for me in this process. Yesterday was my birthday and I didn't really think about my age, but today i feel really sensitive to it a. because i certainly don't feel 35, i feel like i should have just left school and b. because it means i am one year older and what that means in this TTC process and pregnancy.

Oh @StEmilion, i'm sorry to here about AF arriving late. Mother nature is a cruel mistress, whether its your period being late or getting some pretty convincing symptoms in the TWW. Try not to worry (she says, knowing she would be doing the exact same thing!) see what the GP has to say and go from there. Just speaking to someone with medical knowledge might bring you some comfort. It did for me. Whilst he wasn't the most understanding of GP's he did reassure me a little.

I've been battling a raging UTI since just before Christmas, so even though we didn't intend on trying this month, we kind of couldn't rolls eyes we did DTD a couple of times, but i have no idea when my fertile period would have fallen after the chemical. If i did go straight back into cycle then we will have probably missed the fertile period. AF due on Monday (if back in 28 day cycle) so i will report back!

We heard from the fertility clinic and they gave a wait time of 8-10 weeks which, even though its long, its not as long as the 12-18 weeks the GP advised, so that was a bit of good news. I'm not sure what they will do test wise, i assume blood tests. I guess it depends on what issues you've been having.

Enjoy your days ladies. Sending lots of love xxx

@Wils85 first of all happy birthday for last week! I hope you had a nice day despite the uti (and everything else!). The wait for the fertility clinic is annoying but I suppose it could be worse. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Did af come today?

I spoke with the GP today and he was reassuring- said the average time ttc is 14 months, it took him and his wife 2 years both times, and the fact that I've been pg before is promising - I hope that can give you some comfort too. He said the guidelines in my area is not to refer until you've been trying for 2 years but he's referring me for blood tests which I'll have on day 3 of my cycle. I'll see what happens then but obviously don't want to wait 2 years (which would probably mean the chance of a successful pregnancy decreasing further) so may have to look into going private.

I'm currently cd14 and think I got peak on an opk on Saturday. Have dtd fri, sat and sun so hopefully I'm in with a chance this month 🤞

Hope everyone's Monday is going ok xxx

@StEmilion thank you my lovely. We managed to have a lovely day, I got spoiled and we went shopping (glad we did now 🙄)

No AF. I got it wrong, if I was back in cycle she should have come on Sunday. CD30 today. Don't feel anything either way...I have got itchy skin on my abdo which I feel like I have a memory of when PG before but again, I'm not looking into it. I'm just riding it out for a bit see if AF arrives. I'm not testing until I'm a fair bit late. I can't go through what we did last month. I'd rather not know if it turns out to be a chemical, you know?

I'm glad you feel reassured by the GP, it certainly reasurred me reading your message. We forget that actually it's not an easy thing to get PG (because we are told different from a young age I think) and actually falling as quickly as we all did was lucky, albeit it didn't end how we had hoped. I'm with you on the waiting, that's exactly how I feel, we haven't discussed or looked at going private yet. Will see what the NHS can do first, just from a financial POV really. We are continuing to try whilst we wait though. It can't hurt.

Sounds like you DTD at the right times, I have all my appendages crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻 xxxx

Hey ladies, I'm out. AF arrived yesterday afternoon. I feel surprisingly ok about it. I wasn't expecting anything given the UTI and it gives me another period to speak to the Fertility clinic about as well. Along with another month to save etc etc.

I'll get back on the OPKs this month though, try SMEP and see where we get to!

Hope you're all doing ok, especially with the news on monday eve. Xxx