Pregnant after 2 consecutive losses

[ChesMum2019]

Hi looking for some reassurance or advice from any pregnant again after consecutive losses. I took a test 17th it was positive and have taken daily since. Other than sore boobs and sleepiness loads of cramps I've no sickness. I'm only just 4 weeks. I'm paranoid every time I go the toilet that I will see blood. I didn't even get excited when I seen the two lines just numb. I don't even want to get attached because it will probably happen again. How did you get through it ? I'm going crazy already.

@LJS8987 hi sorry just seen this. All great thanks I was so worried it would be bad news. I seen it wiggling about. Weird to see the change in 10 days. Back in 2 weeks for another scan. X

@ChesMum2019
Wow that's brilliant! I'm jealous of all your scans!! My epu don't do reassurance scans and my husband won't let me have a private one- we had one in my last pregnancy, saw a hb all looked good and I mc the following day!
Every day feels like a year!!
I'm taking aspirin daily though and keeping everything crossed!
Hopefully third time lucky for us both!! X

Yes I know that feeling. I said today at the clinic I feel I'm existing day by day at the minute. I really do hope we have our rainbows baking away nicely x

Hi Jenn, the difference in a short space of time! I'm away at the moment at a haven park in Yorkshire that's been keeping my mind occupied with hubby and my son though Friday is never far from my mind, still feeling scared and anxious I so want everything to be ok. How are you?. Xx

Ahh enjoy your break. It'll soon be Friday and I'm sure everything is going to be perfect. How are you feeling?

Really hoping so Jenn I so want everything to be ok. Still feeling a little sick, hungry, tired and sore boobs. X

I'm the same tired and sore boobs. I thought the sickness hit really bad at weekend but it was a bug thankfully as I was soo poorly. I'm just having mild bouts of nausea. I was convinced there would be no heartbeat for that reason. She told me to stop worrying and that everything is as it should be and sickness is not an indicator of a healthy pregnancy. I just wish I could step away from google

Hey ladies - I hope you don’t mind me joining in.

I’ve read the thread and can relate so much to how you’re all feeling after 2 back to back losses last year, 1 cycle after another. As women, we can feel isolated after this kind of loss, and I’ve been struggling to move on (as I’m sure many of you probably have) so I wrote this and shared it on my social media.

chloetiffanyrose176146431.wordpress.com/blog/

I have had SO many people reach out and share their personal stories, or say ‘I’m so glad you shared that because I’ve never spoken about mine’

We’re all in this together and if I can support any of you in how you’re feeling please reach out because we don’t have to feel isolated ❤️ This forum is amazing!

I know every pregnancy can be different but it still doesn't ease the anxiety inside. I know I need to step away from Google too! X

@Chloetiffanyrose hi and of course you can join. Read your blog it's great. I also found myself so isolated after loss. Still do. Especially now I'm pregnant again as I don't have people I know who would relate to me or understand the anxiety and stress of being pregnant again. So we have not told anyone our news yet and don't plan on if all goes well until at least 20weeks. I spend every waking hour worrying I've started bleeding or the baby has stopped growing. There so far is no enjoyable element of pregnancy i doubt there is for many after loss. Are you under any clinics to see if there is any problems or are you ttc again? It's all such a hard and worrying time

How did it go Friday @Lauraliverpool Hope your doing well x x

Hi Jenn, they could see there is a baby there but measured 2.9mm, the last who did the scan was a horrible cow who more or less said expect it to be a miscarriage again cause the baby should be measuring 14mm going by my last period etc but my husband spoke to his friends sister who is a top doctor in Leeds and she said I'm 6 weeks and the size of the baby is right for that amount of weeks, my last period I'm pretty certain was the 23rd January and I got a peak on 3rd Feb and I know it can be something like 24 to 36 hrs later ovulation takes place then I got a positive pregnancy test on 19th of march. That woman that did my scan wasn't very nice at all, saying to me why are you walking so slow are you in pain, no I'm not I'm scared about coming in this room, then have you had any pain or bleeding no I haven't, then things like some women are only destined to have one baby can't have anymore, you are 38 now aren't you, pretty much writing my pregnancy off, I'm having another scan on 3rd April I hope to god it's not her cause she was a absolute bitch! Xx

@Lauraliverpool
God that's sounds awful!
What a vile woman! Everything crossed for you for your next scan xx

Gosh she sounds horrible they are usually so nice there too. Did you get to see a little heartbeat . Your dates are pretty similar to mine. My last period was 25th Jan. I'm back on 2nd for another scan it's such a nerve racking time isn't it

@LJS8987 she was vile and for the whole weekend has made me feel so low! I really hope it's not her when I go back!. Xx

The first woman was much nicer and more sensitive to what's happened to me previously. She didn't say about a little heartbeat only when we got home did we realize that's what we should have asked. It's so nerve wracking and waiting. Xx

Yes it's horrible. Just try and not google too much and stay calm until next week. It seems so far away I know how you feel. Aww when you are in there so much goes through your mind you forget to ask. Everything crossed for you x x

I'm trying not to but sometimes can't help it and I know I'm not doing myself any favours. You're right everything goes through your mind. Thank you. Xx How are you? Xx

I'm ok thanks just the usual all day nausea and sick a few times a day. Feel ok overall. Nervous for Tuesday but resigned to it being like this all the time now x

Have you been taking anything for the nausea? Sliced lemon in iced water helps, polo mints and anti sickness travel bands help too. It's a horrible feeling the waiting. I wrote on the maternity assist about my first reassurance scan and a lovely community midwife has just rang me and said sorry it's taken so long to get back to me, couldn't really give me insight to what's happening but told her about Friday and she's taking it all to the shift leader at the epau and is telling them I don't want that same nurse when I go next wed and has given me the number for Pals if I want to make a complaint. X

Yes I've tried all sorts. I take some comfort in it as stupid as that sounds. I'm glad they have took your complaint on board. It's such a sensitive time there is no room for anything but perfect attitude from the midwifes. I've always been lucky to get Annmarie each time we go or Linda and they are both so lovely. How is your sickness. Mine only really started around week 8 properly it was intermittent until then

I know exactly what you mean, I am too I've had confirmation that my appointment will be with a another nurse so that is good, I'm pretty sure Ann Marie did the first scan. Exactly there no room for anything but perfect when it comes to midwife's. I haven't physically been sick, just some slight nausea feeling, sore boobs still and a dull achey feeling low down, I want all the symptoms going I really do. X

That's good we don't have long now. 1 more week to go. The symptoms will hit soon enough I think around week 8 it all started ramping up. The night is worse for me than the day time which I find weird but at least I can get up and do the school run pretty much normally.

Laura when you feel up to it, please make a formal complaint about the sonographer.

@MidsomerBurgers a midwife that I've spoken to today has taken everything I said to the shift leader at the epau and she texted me earlier on to say I will been seen by a different nurse so that is reassuring.